drama with MIL and GMIL

Melinda - posted on 03/13/2010

Personally I wouldn't ever let my MIL (or my mother) take my children out unless I knew in advance where they would be and what they were doing. My MIL would never take my children out somewhere like that without letting me know first.
Honestly it seems huge now, but it will seem much less later on, however I agree with you, it should of been your choice whether she had her first trip with you, your husband or someone else. Perhaps you should distance yourself from your husbands family until such time that they realize that these actions are not acceptable to you
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Amy - posted on 03/12/2010

I know how you feel! I have a MIL like that too. She calls me ALL the time, texts, leaves me messages, gets pissed if I dont answer or call back everytime. Like I dont have a life and a baby and hubby to take care of. She constantly tells me I'm unappreciative of what I have, selfish, and not to my face but to all of her family says that she thinks my hubby deserves better/shouldnt be w/ me. She's never really liked me, told me to have an abortion like 500 times when I got pregnant, told me I was prego w/ a parasite, and then as soon as he was born was all interested and possesive. I appreciate that she loves her grandson, dont get me wrong, but like really. THANK GOODNESS we no longer live in the same state, due to my hubby being in the army and us moving around a lot, so its gotten a lot easier to deal with. Take her for who she is, and what you dont like and what she does that pisses you off, let go off, dont let it get you down, and just enjoy every moment of your beautiful daughters' life!

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2010

i mean not that i agree with what she did...sorry typo

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2010

well one conselation is at least your daughter won't really remember going to the zoo the first time..i understand that you wanted to be there (I am the same exact way i want to do all my babies first not anyone elses) but on the bright side..she doesn't even really know what the zoo is...you can always take her again..take tons of pictures and when and if the subject comes up about it in the future..u can say yes u went with your gma and u went with with your mama and daddy..u had so much fun we wanted to take u back....for future reference i've always found going directly to the source is the best answer....not that i agree with what you did..but look at it from her point of view how would u of felt if you had read something she posted about you on facebook? don't let the small stuff stress you out..be the most amazing mother u can be to your darling little girl..thats what she'll remember not who took her to the zoo first..

Pauli - posted on 03/08/2010

i was venting to my aunt becuz she lives in denver... but i wasnt inappropriate ya i wrote that my MIL isnt a good mom but that still doesnt mean that she should cuss me out in a text... shes a greatgrandma and she was actin very imature... and i text her back say if i hurt her i am sorry that it was me venting to my aunt but she juss texting back making so many excuse for her daughter not working, living off the state, and useing her youngest son disability money to party and go to rodeos... to me if you had a bad pass learn and grow from it for the sake of your kids... dont use excuse

Terra - posted on 03/08/2010

Wait a minute... you were the same lady about the mothers ring... I would just stop letting my daughter go there until she gains some respect for you and your hubby. I think that she is starting to do these things intentionly to make you upset. My lord that lady is the MIL from hell

Terra - posted on 03/08/2010

I would be really upset at that also. I think that instead of talking to someone else about it that you should have went straight to the source. I would just talk to her and tell her that it really hurt your feelings because it was her 1st trip to the zoo, and you and your husband would have really loved to be there to see her expression. Were you asking your aunt what to do or just venting? If that were the case I think that I would have done it in a personal message instead of an open for everyone to see comment. I would really just talk to your mil and see what happens. I mean wasn't she there for her children's first trip afterall?? She should understand. Is this the first incident like this?