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getting my little man to sleep in his cot!!

Christie - posted on 03/12/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I know i have bought this own myself,but the time has come where me and daddy are sick of not having our bed to oureslves and a decent nights sleep.
Jack wont go to sleep in his cot on his own and still doesnt sleep through the night, He wakes one to several times during the night, not always wanting food but cuddles and wandering where i am.
I pick him up to settle him,this my be cuddles in bed with all the best intentions to put him back, but often falling to sleep myself or he will not settle and wont let me put him back in his cot!
Is anyone else suffering with this issue?
I have tried putting a T-shirt in his cot with him so he can smell me, but he isnt that stupid!!
How do change things? Do i just have to bite the bullet and listen to him screaming so he learns to go to sleep own and stay there!!!???

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Brittany - posted on 03/12/2010

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unfortunately i'm going through the same exact thing. my son won't even go to sleep without nursing to sleep. every time he wakes up, i have to nurse him to sleep. naps, everything. it's horrible! but you're right, we started up this habit ourselves lol. i always swore he'd never sleep in my bed, etc. but i got the most sleep that way in the beginning!



my pediatrician recommended the cry it out method, which i tried more than once but couldn't stand it. they say you do a bedtime routine (bath, book, bottle, bed), and once you put them in the crib say goodnight briefly then walk out. wait 1 minute and go in and give a comforting pat, but don't pick him up. leave promptly, wait 5 minutes, same thing. then 10min, 15min, 20min.. and so on. they say that after a week to 10 days you should see results, but by the third day i was SO exhausted. i was like a zombie. now that i'm planning on weaning and going back to work soon (working nights most likely), i have to get on it. it's so stressful i know, but they say that this works. the key is consitency, and don't pick baby up unless he is clearly hysterical (like gagging/choking or screaming bloody murder!)



if you don't like the idea of letting him cry it out (i don't blame you), you could try a modified version. try the routine thing, and set up a chair right next to the crib where he can see you. lay him down, then sit in the chair and shh him to sleep, but avoid talking. wait until he's asleep, then leave. the next night move the chair a little further, each and every night, until it's completely out the door. i've never tried this but you could give it a shot.



with either method, you can choose to go in his room or not when he wakes up in the middle of the night. thats totally up to you. my dr. said that at this age, they're only waking up out of habit and looking for comfort but aren't hungry. but if you feel the need to go in and comfort, feed, whatever, then by all means. it really is whatever you're comfortable with and what you feel you and your baby need. but, the habit obviously won't break itself. it's going to be tough (for all of us!), but try to keep a positive outlook on it and know that "this too shall pass". it truly is harder for you than for baby. they will never remember this, try to keep that in mind too. i find that makes me feel a little better, cruel as it sounds lol. a happy mom equals a happy baby! so good luck to you and here's to having our beds back (hopefully soon)!! :)

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