how can i get my daughter to sleep all night?

Mandy - posted on 12/12/2009

My sister-in-law read a book called "The Dream Baby Guide" and it really helped my nephew. He will be 1 at the end of the month and he sleeps 12 hours most nights and a 2 hour afternoon nap as well. When he was 7 months he was up for most of the early hours most nights so it's made a big difference!

Kendra - posted on 12/06/2009

my daughter does the exact same thing

Whitney - posted on 12/05/2009

if youre breastfeeding, id say feed him whenever he wakes up since that usually puts them back to sleep and then slowly minimize the number of times you feed him at night until he gets used to less and less. ALSO a good practice is naps when they are EXHAUSTED make sure to put him down when he's sleepy but still awake and that might help in the middle of the night when you put him back down without feeding him.

Melissa - posted on 12/04/2009

My son does take at the most 2 naps a day.. sometimes just one. But I never let him take a nap past... 5pm. It makes going to bed a bit more difficult. Hes alot happier and does better during the day when he takes naps.

Melissa - posted on 12/04/2009

Hey.. so my son is 7 months old and he sleeps fro 7pm to 5am. He didn't always do this. We had to set in place a routine.. where he knew what was coming next and knew what to expect. He goes to bed every night at 7pm. To start with we'd feed him about 6/630 and that'd be his last meal for the night. We'd give him a bath and then I'd sit in the rocking chair and rock him until he fell asleep and then we'd place him in his crib. If he woke up, we'd pick him up, sit back down in the rocker and rock him back to sleep. This took a couple weeks.. When we got this down we moved to where we cut out the rocking and just put him in his crib. I turn off the lights.. hold him, tell him its "night night" time, sing him a song and then put him in his crib. I turn on his rain sounds and leave the room. The first couple of days he'd get up, cry, scream etc. etc. We'd wait 5 mins, go upstairs, (don't pick them up) and lay him back down.. rub his back, tell him its "night night" time and leave again... the next time we'd wait a little longer and a little longer. Ive never let me son "cry it out" for hours and hours. I'd never let him cry for more than tops 15 minutes. Now when we go upstairs and put Dawson in bed, he lays his little head down and drifts off to sleep. Hes anxious to go to bed at 7pm everynight.. rubs his little head on my shoulder on our way upstairs cute things like that. Hope this helps.

Mira - posted on 12/04/2009

and I have the same problem but and plz dont ignoring her or abandoning her or something cuz she is a baby

Mira - posted on 12/04/2009

like my baby karim

Janet - posted on 12/04/2009

Quoting Keri:

Quoting Lucy:

My daughter wakes 2-3 times a night also, they'll sleep through when they're ready, letting babies cry it out can be very emotionally damaging, they do not learn its time to sleep, they learn that nobody comes to care for so they give up out of exhaustion.

This is my concern, too.  Plus I have fed her on demand since birth and that seems to be a really tough thing to train my daughter out of (about 7.5 months old).  Some nights she wakes up once, sometimes she's up every 2 hours although that is generally when she isn't feeling well - teething or constipation.

I can't let my son cry too long either!  It's hard bc we only have a one bedroom apartment. His pack and play is in our bedroom so he stands there crying at me until I pick him up or if I leave him alone he still crys forever.  Right now I still feed him on demand and he has ended up sleeping with us in bed.  I know everyone says that you shouldn't let them sleep with you, but it seems to be the only thing that works.  I'm tired of trying to lay him down. Sometimes he will go to sleep at 9pm and not wake up until 4 am then goes back to sleep until 7am.  He likes to take 2 or 3 naps during the day also

Keri - posted on 12/04/2009

Quoting Lucy:

My daughter wakes 2-3 times a night also, they'll sleep through when they're ready, letting babies cry it out can be very emotionally damaging, they do not learn its time to sleep, they learn that nobody comes to care for so they give up out of exhaustion.

This is my concern, too.  Plus I have fed her on demand since birth and that seems to be a really tough thing to train my daughter out of (about 7.5 months old).  Some nights she wakes up once, sometimes she's up every 2 hours although that is generally when she isn't feeling well - teething or constipation.

Lucy - posted on 12/04/2009

My daughter wakes 2-3 times a night also, they'll sleep through when they're ready, letting babies cry it out can be very emotionally damaging, they do not learn its time to sleep, they learn that nobody comes to care for so they give up out of exhaustion.

Sarai - posted on 12/04/2009

Tizzle Hall has a booked called Save Our Sleep. For a baby that age 7am wake up time, bottle & play, 8am solids, 9.30 or 9.50 bed. let him sleep till he wakes then when he wakes a bottle. an hr after he wakes solids then an hr after solids bed. Dont let him sleep past 4.15 then solids at 5pm, bath at 6pm, bottle at 6.30 and then bed at 7pm. Make sure he goes to bed awake so he can self settle. My daughter was 2 weeks old when i started her in routine and she has slept 7am till 7pm since 9 weeks of age. She is 8 months old now and sleeps like an angel. Hope this helps. :)

Lee-Lee - posted on 12/03/2009

I always advise a routine and not to let them sleep all day or at least not for a long period of time before the time it is that you would like them to go to sleep for the night. Say 9pm is your bedtime for them. I usually play with mine, let him play with his toys, feed him, bath him and then give him a cereal bottle. After that he's usually starting to get tired and ends up falling asleep for the night. He stays sleep until 5am and is usually back to sleep by 8, majority of the time a lil sooner then 8am

Malika - posted on 12/03/2009

the modified time cry it out ferber method really worked for us. our daughter is 7 months old now and only wakes once during the night now (5 am for a diaper change and sometimes breastfeeding) this is so much better then before when she woke around 4 time a night. now she goes to bed easier-we have a normal bedtime hour and routine. also she naps twice a day for around an hour each. the ferber method really worked for us and its not as cruel as i thought it would be. you only let them cry for several minutes then you go check on them, reasure her without picking her out of her crib, in small time increments, 3, 5, 8.
the next night increase slightly, etc.

Dawn - posted on 12/03/2009

Have you tried either a sound machine with a heart beat/white noise or playing a lullaby CD that plays while the child is trying to nod off? My daughter goes to sleep during the day with the CD, and at night with the heartbeat machine. She is sleeping 12 hours at night and 2 2hour naps during the day.

Keri - posted on 12/01/2009

I have the same problem but I can't handle letting her cry it out. They don't understand and I hate that she thinks I am ignoring her or abandoning her or something.

Beth Champion - posted on 12/01/2009

Sleep Sense program is awesome! My little guy started sleeping through the night around 3 months, and usually sleeps 7:30 pm to 7 am every night. He's almost 8 mos now, and still doing fine. We had a couple nights when he learned how to stand up in the crib (and didn't know how to get back down!) where we had to go in and shush him and set him down, but after a couple weeks he learned how to get down by himself and he's back to sleeping all night.

Amanda - posted on 11/26/2009

I understand my little guy was up every 2-3 hours at night till he was 5 months old I then had enough. I read the sleep sense program and it worked the first night. The cliff notes of the program is you have to have a bedtime routine every night! Mine is book, bath, bottle, bed. They have to go into their crib awake. She gives you two options to stay in the room with them till they are asleep of leave and check back after a set amount of time i.e.5mins. After the first night he slept 8-9 hrs straight and a couple weeks later he was up to 12 hours straight and takes 2-2 hr naps during the day. It's no fuss I put him in his crib and he goes to sleep.

Good luck ladies I hope this helps.

Sonya - posted on 11/25/2009

I tried that and he would scream for hours. I can't handle it for hours...

Lauren - posted on 11/25/2009

i had to let my son cry it out! he woke every 3 hours and it took one night and now he sleeps 8p-10a!!

Sonya - posted on 11/25/2009

I have the same problem! Sorry I don't have any answers... I would love SLEEP!