Joanna - posted on 11/16/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )
ok so if you are going to go off on me about never spanking a child, dont write anything. I'm seriously asking a serious question.My husband and I have agreed that we would use spanking as a form of discipline when necessary, aka, very bad things not just because our son is not listening. About a month ago, I told my husband that we need to stop it because we've been using it for lesser offenses and now when my son is having a tantrum, he has been adding hitting to the mix. Later he apologizes for spanking me. My husband continues to use it and tonight he spanked him about 7 times in a 10-15 minute time frame because our son wouldn't stop screaming for me. I felt that he needed to be pulled away from the situation and stepped in and told him to leave the room, he's spanked him enough and he needs to cool down. That's what we do when the other parent is getting to a breaking point when our son is not behaving, we see each other as a team and help out while not trying to take away authority. TOday I even figured out that asking him to take a deep breath and calm down works. So I suggested he tried that and i was told to back off. Once he spanked him again, I went into the room and now I'm told taht he's never handling discipline again, not to speak to him and me stepping in is why he has tantrums like this.
So for those of you that understand that a controled spank can be acceptable regardless if you do it or not, when do you say enough's enough?