NIGHT TIME HELP!

Durinda - posted on 05/22/2010

my little girl always sleeps with music on, its the one 'crutch' she'sever had. she stopped her soother onher own and switched to sucking her fingers and we have a night light by her bed, but i've tried to keep the ability to turn the light off when it needs to be off so there's no fear of the dark. she slept on her own quite easily but often whines around ten or eleven when she knows dad is comming home. she likes knowing we're both there before she really passes out asleep. when she was first born the only way i got sleep was if she was in the bed with us and although i would never recommend (becuase of the risks) it worked for me and i'll never not consider it again. My mother instilled routines with me and i've done the same with her. i can tell when she's been with grandma and grandpa because her sleep gets affected and its not as consistent. she sleeps two hours durring the day six hours after she wakes up...two hours...then six hours before she goes to bed. she gets a bottle before bed, we brush her teeth and then she gets put down awake, on goes her music. i do let her cry it out when i know she just wants the attention, but as soon as she gets hysterical i get her and calm her down. she wont go to sleep if she's crying her lungs out. (i get the whole controlling thing, i'm like that too) so if you find you have to be there, put your son down your self and then wait until you hear the tell-tale sound of the breaking point and send hubby in to sooth and put back down. Try passing off each time the first week or so, then the next week, do odd days and so forth as to what works. You might find this helps, but try to be consistent. if your doctor says there's a problem then of course worry later when your babys' better. Hope this advice helps

Laura Zoey - posted on 05/11/2010

I know of two babies who died from aspirating their vomit.
I do not believe for one minute that babies are manipulative. Don't let your babies cry. Babies need to be cared for, not left to "self soothe". As for advise I'd say, he sounds like he's in pain. Maybe acid reflux. Or he could be cold in bed so he wants the warmth of your body. He might be scared, try a nightlight. Or maybe a sound machine. He might like an incline in his mattress. Hope something works! Try one a night ao you know what worked! Goodluck

Nikki - posted on 05/10/2010

It's so great to hear that other people are experiencing this, too! My daughter is a year and 3 weeks old. Her sleep habits have definitely gotten worse the past week or so. I am convinced that it's due to teething, but I also know that it's partly behavioral. She hasn't puked, but she does almost hyperventilate, which scares me so much. When my husband goes in to console her, she often cries harder to get me. We're planning on really trying hard to ignore her, but we keep caving. I may have renewed motivation. Thanks, all.

Marissa - posted on 05/10/2010

Michelle- actually I never tried it- i am too controlling and need to be there. It is slowly getting better- may be 2 or 3 nights a weeks he sleeps well. We are trying to transition him to taking only 1 nap a day from noon to 2:00. That way he is tired and ready to go to bed between 8 and 9. It's just a constant battle. I know I need to try leaving for a night or 2 but i have not yet.

Michelle - posted on 04/23/2010

Hi Marissa, let me know how you get on with you stopping away for a few nights.. I have troube with my one year old who has me wrapped round his finger because he knows i give in, event o the stage where he sleeps with me. I work full time too, so i just think easiest option. I may consider the nights away if works for you! I look forward to your comments.. good luck xxx

Marissa - posted on 04/23/2010

Thanks for all the comments. First of all- he has basically never slept through the night so this is not a really new thing- but it has gotten worse the last 3 weeks. I will try to switch to just whole milk- good suggestion. When my husband tries to go in to comfort him at night and he just cries even harder because he knows I am there and he wants me! He will actually scream until I come in. My doc says he has me wrapped around his finger and he does the puking thing for attention. Her suggestion was that I stay at my moms for a couple nights so he is alone with dad and I am not there. We are going to try this. When he is alone with dad during the day for naps- he puts up no fight- he is like a different child. He only tries to take advantage of me. We do toast and may be apple sauce right before bed so he does have a full tummy. I will check out the Dr. Jay Gordon thing. Thanks for all suggestions!!!!!

Tiffany - posted on 04/21/2010

I always feed my lil man dinner right before he goes to sleep so he goes to sleep on a full stomach. That helps me. But i still give him a bottle once during the night usually early in the morning. I hope this helps

Tasha - posted on 04/20/2010

I don't know if someone has mentioned it but check out Dr. Jay Gordon we are using his plan now for night weaning and it's going great! My dd WAS the same but she is so different after just a week.

Louise - posted on 04/20/2010

I totally agree! I have a 4 year old and a 1 year old. I was at my wits end with my eldest as for 3 and a half years i didnt get a full nights sleep. And as my husband works nights i did it on my own!! I also work fulltime!!
I spoiled my first as he did the cry gag vomit routine and i was so worried that something would happen i used to rock him to sleep till he was 2 and then lie in bed with him after that.

I would do 2 things. 1 ask your doc/nurse for advice. Maybe there is a reason for it that could be fixed!!
2 You don't say if you have a partner. Arrange for them to get up every second night that way you get at least 1 full nights sleep each. You need to take help if you can get it otherwise you'll end up ill!

Bianca - posted on 04/20/2010

i know exactly how you feel its so hard going to work and trying to carry on as normal with having no sleep, my little boys is 1 next week and gets up several times in the night wanting bottles or cuddles or just to play, ive tried ignoring it but he crys and make himself sick i have been told by hv thats its behavioural and to try to ignore it. ive tried giving my son a dummy and his blanket this can help settle him sometimes, ive been told to do controlled crying also however i find this hard as i am worried that he will gag and be sick. let us know if you find anything that helps . thanks(also has your child ever slpt through?)

Ledi - posted on 04/20/2010

my boy does the same, puking when put down to sleep and has never slept through the night! he is 1yr and a week and has got worse in the past 2 weeks am guessing due to teething. my doctor friends say the puking is for attention and done to control you and its advisable to try to ignore it or not show how affected you are by it. hard, coz then he is hungry and it means worse nights sleep! am exhausted most of the time and will be reading the suggestions you get. hang in there.

Caroline - posted on 04/19/2010

sound's like it could be reflux i would get him checked out my daughter had it from 2 month's till she was 8 month's they put her on medication and reflux fomula and she was great no voiting after every burp and and no pain that keept her up all the time.

Michelle - posted on 04/19/2010

Has he switched to milk yet? Possibly the milk or formula if he is still on that is not agreeing with his tummy the back arching and such is usually do to gastric pain so burping definitely might be needed. I would talk to your dr. about it and maybe try water at night to alleviate the gas build up, or switch formula or milk products to see if it makes a difference