One night with daddy !

Nisreen - posted on 12/06/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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hi..my son is 71/2 months now...I breastfeed him about 5-6 times aday and around 3 times at night..and I also give him cereal 2-3 times aday.. I only used the bottle few times when he was a newborn and he doesn't accept it now..actually he prefers the regular cup to drink juice over the bottle and the sippy cup...I need to leave him with his dad for one night next month and I don't know how to prepare for that..especially he can only sleep while breastfeeding..and he wakes more than once during the night and only calmed by breastfeeding...and sometimes I have to keep him with me in bed as he also doesn't take the pacifier....I use the AVENT bottle..he liked it when he was a newborn...but he doesn't like it now although I've changed the nipple size..WHAT TO DO ?

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LauraBeth - posted on 12/17/2009

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I had the same problem, We found a bottle called MAM, This is the Bottle to use I love it when we have or next child we will only use MAM as well! you can find them at baby r us or toys r us. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully the MAM bottle will work for you!!

Jacqui - posted on 12/17/2009

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Quoting Jacqui:

Also give hubby something clothing wise of yours, that smells like you, maybe a t shirt you have been wearing that day that smells of you. Them during the night he can hold it or wear it when he is trying to settle baby. Good Luck :)


Forgot to mention the Nuke brand of bottle, this was the only one my baby would take, they are more breast shaped and soft, he was a stubborn little man took 3 mths to get to take a bottle,
 trying every day. I think Dad needs as much good luck as you :)

Jacqui - posted on 12/17/2009

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Also give hubby something clothing wise of yours, that smells like you, maybe a t shirt you have been wearing that day that smells of you. Them during the night he can hold it or wear it when he is trying to settle baby. Good Luck :)

Romualda - posted on 12/14/2009

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Your son will not take the bottle from you because he knows who you are. But if you express milk for the night feedings and have it all prepared for your husband to place the container of milk in a bowl of warm water, or place under the hot water faucet, and heat to room temperature. Your baby may refuse milk straight from the refrigerator, but cold milk is not harmful. Also have a night shirt that you have slept in or some sort of clothing your husband and have to wear that has your scent on it. This will comfort your baby. It has also been tested and men just do not hear crying so if you have a cosleeper or if possible have that crib in the bedroom otherwise your husband will not wake up. If you have diaper changes during the night have diapers ready. Most men (are not boy scouts) so be prepared for anything... & have everything ready for him, explain slowly and repeat important things like DO NOT HEAT MILK IN MICROWAVE and whatever else you think your baby likes during the night.
Hope that helps.

Belinda - posted on 12/13/2009

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I just swapped from breastfeeding to formula feeding in the last month. My boy is 8 months. I was trying him on the bottle for weeks but he wouldn't take it. I got one of those special boob shaped bottles by 'tommee tippee' and within a few days he was a pro at it. Then within a couple of weeks he drank out of any bottle teat. Now he has 600mls formula a day divided into 4 feeds, 3 solid meals a day and 2-3 sleeps a day and only gets up once at night rather than 4-5 times. good luck :)

Catherine - posted on 12/13/2009

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omg! I never thought i'd meet a woman who mothers like I do! My son is quite indulged like yours is. I got him to like a bottle by putting grape pedialyte cut with water because he likes the grape tylenol so much and I thought it'd be worth a shot. I use the playtex drop ins for him. the 2nd stage nipples. You have to start giving him a bottle everyday or the sippy so he knows to drink from it. It will just be a rough night. My son will not soothe at night without the boob.

Melinda - posted on 12/13/2009

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My daughter was very much the same, she is only 8 months. we have tried many different bottles and my husband and i found that she took to the 'Tommee Tippee' bottle, as the teet is similar to a nipple. She would only take it from my husband the first few times (while i had to out of the room). Now she will take it from me as well, but i still have to have here very close to my chest as if i was breastfeeding her.

Katya - posted on 12/12/2009

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the best schedule is whatever you are comfortable with. my daughter also used to go to bed late, but she became very fussy around 8pm. My doctor suggested I start her nighttime routine 15 minutes earlier every 2-3 days and mentioned that babies get the best sleep between 8pm and 2 am. So, my baby sort of self-regulated and stareted to go to sleep before 7. She always wake up at 6:30 (and always did), but naps again at 9:30 or 10 after breakfast. Good luck!

Nisreen - posted on 12/12/2009

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thanks leagh for the advice and the link...very helpful..although i had to go for ' let the baby cry' at the end...and Katya u r absolutely right..I wasn't aware of the importance of the naps ...now we almost have a schedual...but i feel 8 pm is early especially that will make him wake up early in the morning ..6 am !...what about ur little's schedual girls ? mine now sleeps at 9 wakes around 8,30 and naps 1-2 hours around 11-12 and 1 hour around 4-5.what do u think of that ? shall i keep it this way ?

Katya - posted on 12/09/2009

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Hi Nisreen,



Have you tried Ferber? I believe that's the method for letting baby cry to teach him to sleep at night. I'm very lucky as a I started quite early....the first few nights are horrible, but it works very quickly...in under a week our little one slept through the night without needing milk....I put her down when she is still awake...she will cry a bit and then suck her thumb to fall asleep. She just turned 8 months. My husband is also quite busy, so I totally understand you...just make sure that your son takes plenty of naps during the day, eats enough in the day, and goes to bed early. Try to start practicing the method as soon as possible before the big Daddy day. Good Luck!

Leagh - posted on 12/07/2009

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Hi Nisreen,

My daughter is the same age as your son and 10 days ago I sat exhausted at midnight looking on line for some help with my situation. I was feeding her several times a night, she kept me up, she didn't take regular naps and frankly going to bed at night was a disaster. She was also very moody while she was awake, I felt like I was a constant failure to her. Anyway, check out sleepsense.net. This is what I found, and the next night I followed the instructions and she went to bed at 7pm. It was really hard, but after 5 days she was in a routine and napping twice during the day! I can't believe how much time I had to myself and the difference in her. My husband feels more involved, we take turns bathing and putting her to bed. As well, we now have the freedom to out to dinner, and have a sitter watch her for us. I hope this helps you. Take care!

Nisreen - posted on 12/07/2009

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Thanks Tessa..actually I liked the idea that he'd take the bottle from his dad..I will definately try that..but don't think he can wake up at night and feed him cause he wakes up early for his work...but I can give it a try ! thanks for the tips

Nisreen - posted on 12/07/2009

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Thanks Lesley..actually I tried one of ur ideas today..I skipped one of his daytime breastfeeding meals and gave him pumped breast milk instead..and you are right..I shouldn't have made him get used on sleeping while at the breast..will try to change that gradually..I think things should be ok if I leave him with his daddy by that time..hopefully !

Tessa - posted on 12/07/2009

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I haven't tried it, but I have heard that even though a breastfed baby won't take a bottle from mom (or even when mom is in the house), the baby will take it when dad offers it and there is no other option. So, my suggestion is to leave dad, the baby and pumped milk at the house and go run some errands or go to a friend's house. You are just a phone call away if things get out of control at home and it will give dad an opportunity for a test run.
Also, I have found that my daughter is more willing to take a bottle when she is still drowsy from sleep or not excessively hungry or sleepy. Maybe dad could begin to wake her in the night for a feeding. I know my daughter typically wakes up at the same time for a feeding so he could wake her 10 minutes early and feed her while she is still drowsy. Then, you will be there for backup if it doesn't work. (=
Good luck and I wish you all the best!

Lesley - posted on 12/07/2009

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Tricky. You may have to be cruel to be kind and just express and leave daddy to it. I know that sounds harsh but if your baby is hungry he will take the bottle eventually. When i changed from breastfeeding to formula i changed one feed at a time to gradually get baby used to it. If your baby can only sleep when at the breast you may find it very difficult indeed to wean him off as I was always told with both my son and daughter NEVER let baby fall asleep at breast, if s/he looks like they're away to fall asleep tickle their feet to wake them up and when you think they've had enough take them off and wind them. They need to learn to fall asleep themselves and they won't do that if they fall asleep at breast and you put them down asleep. What about leaving baby with dad during the day sometime for a test run to see if dad can cope on his own during the day? Baby may just be too used to you comforting him all the time since dad can't feed him. Sorry this may not have been much help at all. Good luck!

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