Separation anxiety at bedtime

Shelley - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Is anyone else having this problem? Michael has been a perfect sleeper until 2 weeks ago. Will not sleep by himself anymore. When I put him to bed and rolls over immediately and stands up in his cot and screams. It isn't teething and he is in perfect health. Have been doing controlled crying but I hate it. Feel so terrible letting him cry but don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestions?

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Lauren - posted on 01/22/2010

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I know they say not to prop bottles in the crib but since I've been having this problem, it's the ONLY way I can get my daughter to lay down and relax enough to fall asleep. Once she's asleep, I sneak in and take the bottle away.

Amy - posted on 01/21/2010

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I talked to the dr. about this today and she said it should only last about three months. But if you are like me, then you need your sleep too. I haven't found anything to work. Mikayla cries even when I am in the room trying to put her down. She just dosen't like her crib, or room, yet dosen't have any issuse taking naps in there. Hopefully this phase ends soon.

Jordan - posted on 01/20/2010

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This is normal. My daughter is still in the MOMMY MOMMY MOMMY faze (I must say that I don't mind. lol) however I managed to take care of the sleeping issue. I don't know if this will work for you but if you like the idea, give it a try. For about 2 weeks I would put Analeigh in my bed and settle down next to her. I would not touch her or make eye contact with her but I would sing to her. I would continue the song over and over until she fell asleep. Remember that Children love repetition. Her favorite song is "White Christmas," hehe. After the 2 weeks I would wait until I knew she was tired and then I would put her in her crib, sit on a little stool, and sing to her. I keep my head bent down so she can't see me. If she sees me, she wants out. Now she doesn't cry, fuss or anything. She lays in her crib, listens to me sing a couple stanzas and the rolls over to go to sleep. When she rolls over, I gradually soften my singing and then leave the room. She is now doing great and can self soothe herself to sleep the rest of the way. I hope this idea might help you out a bit. :)

Shelley - posted on 01/20/2010

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All the research that I've done says that this happens around 9/10 months. The crying thing does seem to be sort of working. He only cried for 10 mins last night and once during the night. Will let you know how tonight goes.

Tessa - posted on 01/20/2010

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Oh, thank goodness you are having the same problem as me! I have no idea how to fix it, but it is nice to know that someone else is going through it too! It is so hard now that she stands up in her crib when she wakes up. I miss the days that I could put her pacifier back in and she would go right back to sleep!

I have hopes that it's just a phase and that it will pass soon. I wish you the best!