Why can't Dads multi-task the way moms can? I'm so sick of hearing that I need to watch the kid so h

Terra - posted on 02/03/2010

Actually I think in the full 9 months my husband might have changed 20 diapers total. I guess that I just accepted it. However, he has started helping me out over the last couple of months. He will do just about anything other than that.

Kayla - posted on 02/02/2010

i hate hearing 'babe can you hold her while i make her a bottle?' or 'while i get a diaper' umm... why cant you just hold her and do it? like seriously its pathetic!

Catherine - posted on 02/02/2010

wommen are definately more organized and goal orientated. They dont understand the physical and emotional aspect of being a mom. My husband doesnt even do nights with our son, says that our son only wants his mommy. May be true but lets face it everyone needs help and down time! And what a novelty to sleep through the night again, my husband doesnt take well to reminder notes and requests... a request to him is something he might do in a few weeks if im lucky. No you shouldnt treat your husband like children but in some cases its the only way to get things done and not resent your husband for not being helpful. I dont think men want to be able to multi task, because if they did then they would be required to do what wommen/ moms do in a day.

Karen - posted on 01/30/2010

Women are more organized than men by nature (not a criticism to the guys). What keeps frustration levels down here is clear communication. He can no more read my mind than I can his. We just pretty much stick to a semi-schedule....he is the morning person, Im the night duty etc. When things get off schedule I write friendly reminders/schedules (like for medicine) and set out her daily meals in order when he doesn't keep track of what she ate last etc. You can work it out...I did and we are as different as night and day when it comes to organization and time management.

Crystal - posted on 01/30/2010

Do the same back to him and he will realize what you are feeling. You should hide the way you feel but tell him or show him so he understands where you are coming from. It isn't because they can't they just don't want to. Husbands are not children and you shouldn't treat him like on.

Michelle - posted on 01/26/2010

unfortunately men weren't built that way! Just give him one task to help you with while you do something else. if you stress over him not being able to do it all it will only hurt you, your mood, and relationship!

Terra - posted on 01/25/2010

How old is your baby? My husband really didn't do too much for him until he was around 3-4 months. I was in desperate need of a break but it all worked out. Like Maggie said it doesn't come naturally for them so kind of ease him into it and I know it is hard but try to have patience.

Maggie - posted on 01/25/2010

my man couldn't multi-task before becomming a dad ... it just doesn't come naturally to them. i expect a certain amount from my husband without expecting so much that i end up frustrated.

Katie - posted on 01/24/2010

Why can't Dads multi-task the way moms can? I'm so sick of hearing that I need to watch the kid so hubby can do XYZ. Mommies do it ALL with a kid on their hip!