sex after baby

Megan - posted on 05/01/2010 ( 47 moms have responded )

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I was just wondering how long you all waited after having your children to have sex. I know the doctor says you should wait six weeks but did any of you have sex sooner than that? Is it really that bad to have sex sooner than that? I guess this is a question directed to mothers pregnant with a second chiled or an expierienced mom..plz help

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Ashley - posted on 05/01/2010

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i had a well check visit the other day its was 2 weeks after little miss was born and she said dont know if you are but if you and your husband are having sex use a condom so you dont get pregnant again. so i guess its okay unless your up to it and baby didnt tear anything. but i would wait for the doctors ok

Rebekah - posted on 10/03/2013

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It's been three and a half weeks since I have birth I'm still bleeding a little I want to try to have sex is it's safe?

Kirsty - posted on 07/18/2010

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i ahd sex near enough straight away after my baby boy was born. I waited about a week or so but i waited till i had stopped bleeding. It is your body just go with what feels right :)

Cheryl - posted on 07/20/2010

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if you've torn id suggest wait, itd hurt! but i had no problems so once my bleeding was done we had sex at a month.

Amber - posted on 07/11/2010

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The only reason they say wait is so your body has time to fully heal! Some people heal faster than others!! Having said that, I had 2 different drs with both of my children and both drs said that when I was "ready" so was my body! your body won't put you in the mood if it isn't ready! So if your in the mood go for it but if not listen to your body, it knows what is best!!

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Tamiya - posted on 07/20/2010

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it's always good to wat the full six weeks to be on the safe side to avoind any infections or pain.

Jeanette - posted on 07/19/2010

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I bled for 8 weeks after my first and was terrified of sex again. We waited 12 weeks and it HURT. This time I my stitches couldn't dissolve fast enough. My husband insisted on waiting until we had the doc's go ahead. It's been 12 weeks now and I'm still not completely comfortable, even if I am horny. Just use lots of lube and take it slow.

Jessica - posted on 07/17/2010

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It was about 3 & a half weeks for me! Just VERY carefully. I had an 2nd degree episiotomy and was fine! Not to be detailed but he hit my cervix & that was the only thing that hurt! So be careful & you should be fine :)

Meghan - posted on 07/16/2010

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We tried after my 6wks check up but it hurt me and it still does and my son is almost 3 months

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With my first child we had sex about 3 weeks after and with my second we waited till about 4 - 5 weeks. Whenever you feel ready.

Katie - posted on 07/16/2010

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I was "ready" not long after I had my little girl. However, we wanted to wait until the 6 week checkup. Once we got the go ahead, I was really scared because it was still a little sore down there. We tried at around 8 weeks, but it hurt so bad that we had to stop. Then we tried again a week or so later. It still hurt pretty bad. Finally, we tried around 11 1/2 weeks, and there were times where it was slightly uncomfortable, but it was ok. I feel like we waited a really long time compared to everyone else. I think it might have hurt partially because I was afraid that is was going to.

Kathy - posted on 07/10/2010

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First child. I waited until week 5. Then I had an IUD inserted and had to wait another week because I was in pain.

Ursula - posted on 07/09/2010

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WITH MY FIRST 4 WEEKS AFTER AND MY 2ND 7 WEEKS AFTER JUST GIVES IT TIME FOR YOUR BODY TO GO BACK DOWN

Wendy - posted on 07/08/2010

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After the birth of our son in sept 08 we started again around 10 weeks or so, we were given the ok at the 6wk check up - but I didn't completely stop postpartum bleeding until about 9weeks or so. We had our daughter on April 19th and started again around 9weeks after she was born. It generally depends on how your labor went (ie. tears, internal status, etc), how you feel afterwards, length of post partum bleeding.

Amber - posted on 07/06/2010

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I have a 22 month old and a 2 1/2 month old. I waited about a week with my first-it hurt, so i waited another week then it was all good. after i had my second baby girl we waited about two weeks and it went wonderfuly. The doctors all know that most people do not wait the whole 6 wks. and ultimatly it is when you feel comfortable. My doctor did advise to use condoms since you cannot get a birth control until after 6 wks :) so good luck and have fun ;)

Amy - posted on 07/06/2010

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i had stopped bleeding after a few days of giving birth and as i didnt split down there i felt ok to have sex quite soon,i made sure my partner had used a condom and we did it about a week after i gave birth.just as long as you feel ready for it.go ahead i say.x

Roxanne - posted on 07/05/2010

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My midwife didnt talk to me about this until the 6week check and only then she just prescribed condoms. She didnt check me or anything. I had an easy delivery, no tears so I just waited till I had stopped bleeding and then proceeded slowly with my hubby. As long as you are comfortable and theres no complications you can have sex as soon as you stop bleeding, but remember you will be tender, babies dont pass through unnoticed as my Mum says lol

Nelly - posted on 07/04/2010

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Well i had a C-section, and i was told to wait 6 weeks before having sex again..but before my 6 week was due, my husband and i tried..after i got cheched and the doctor said i was fine, and he prescribed me some pills, and now we have no problem.but yeah you should visit your doctor before anything.

Ashley - posted on 07/02/2010

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I had sex 2 weeks after baby was born and i had c-section...To me it hurt and still does at times but i guess its normal...

Zoe - posted on 07/01/2010

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I had sex 4 weeks after my little one as i felt fine. At least if you do it before the 6 week check and you have any problems you can discuss this with the doctor.

Anna - posted on 06/30/2010

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doctors say to wait that long for your own good.. but my husband and i waited about three to four weeks and everything is fine.. i have two little girls and i think its fine to have sex when ever you and your husband are ready...

Kiley - posted on 06/30/2010

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i had sex well tried to have sex a week after having my baby girl as both me and my partner have really high sexdrives, but it hurts like hell as i couldnt produce any natural lubrication therefore couldnt enjoy it so it put me off and now we only have it once a week or two weeks.
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11 weeks old now and im only just WANTING to have it. it still hurts butnot half as much as it did and i can start to enjoy it now.

they do say that it can take up to a year after having a baby to fully recover.

Julia - posted on 06/23/2010

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Sex is even better for me since the baby. Maybe my g-spot got more exposed. Super awesome fun time.

Kayla - posted on 06/23/2010

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The night of my 6 week mark, i jumped on my man!!!! haha! Its definantly not as good.. My 6 week was 3 weeks ago and we have been having sex almost every day since and it still dont feel right...

Elise - posted on 06/11/2010

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6 weeks is just what they say but whenever u stop bleeding or if u had stitches, when they r healed should be ok. just use a condom!

Julia - posted on 06/11/2010

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Well... We waited about three and a half weeks. We were wayy to excited to wait any longer. The first time we accidentally took it too far and it felt like we'd torn the tear again (OUCH)... We waited another four or five days and took it REALLY slow and it was pretty nice. It was of course a tender beginning, but if you take it slow and follow your body's commands it should be fine- and eventually WAY better than fine :).

Cynthia - posted on 06/08/2010

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the first time i had sex with my hubby after lil alexis was born was about 4 weeks after she was born. due to the Dr. giving me pitocin after my c-section, my bleeding stopped at 3 and a half weeks!

Amanda - posted on 06/07/2010

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I waited the full 6 weeks as well and was very nervous to have sex again the first time as I had an episiotomy. It ended up being ok but we went slow and I became less worried after a while.

Susan - posted on 06/06/2010

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Ok, am I the only one not wanting to have sex? I waited the full 6 weeks (I had the excuse) so the day of the appointment my husband was very ready, and I felt bad so we had sex. It hurt so bad, and I had a C section. This is my second and the first was a C section too. I'm not sure if it hurt because I wasn't 'into it' or what, but I really have no desire right now.

And the funny thing was while pregnant I couldn't get enough!

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I would think it's fairly safe to have sex once bleeding stops and things are starting to feel normal again.
My baby is 6 weeks old now and Im probably ok to go ahead once more but Im milking it for all its worth LOL Terrified of getting pregnant again! all 3 of my kids were conceived whilst using BC :/

Kari - posted on 06/05/2010

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I had sex 2 weeks after my baby was born. I didnt tear so I think that really has something to do with if u choose to do it or not.

Sian - posted on 06/05/2010

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i was really nervously because i was cut quite baddly, but i asked my midwife when it would be safe, she just said as soon as you feel ready. we only waited 4weeks and everything was fine, just be carefull. xx

Alicia - posted on 05/21/2010

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I am 4 weeks now and we haven't had sex yet but have definitely thought about it lately. I only just stopped bleeding last week. I wanna have sex but my husband might make me wait until after my 6 week check up cause I think he's afraid of hurting me. He made the comment the other day I thought the doctor said not until after 6 weeks. So we'll have to just wait and see, but if we do we'll use protection until I get back on some type of BC though.

Jessie - posted on 05/18/2010

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I have 4 kids-3 teens ( first 2 are literally less than a year apart-didn't wait long!! lol ) and now my lil one is 5 weeks old-we haven't had sex yet, but doc ordered us not to for 6 weeks-and we wanna be careful and follow directions, to be on the safe side...BUT with my oldest I didn't wait but 2 weeks, and she was born by c-section, so no, it can't really be that bad, cuz I didn't have any major complications from it

Alison - posted on 05/14/2010

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I was supposed to wait 6 weeks... that didn't happen... we made it 2 weeks, just had to be very careful because I'm not on BC yet, so we just used a condom because i am NOT planning to get prego any time soon.

Cierra - posted on 05/13/2010

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Midwives say when you are ready and have stopped bleeding. About 3 weeks with my first two.

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I have never waited the full six weeks before having sex. With my first and second I waited about four weeks and with this one I waited 2 and 1/2. I didn't have stitches with any of them and was told by my Dr. that I could have sex after the bleeding stopped and when I felt up to it. If you are going to have sex make sure to use protection because getting pregnant is definitely a risk!

Wendy - posted on 05/12/2010

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I was supposed to wait 6 weeks... that didn't happen... we made it 3 weeks, just had to be very careful because I'm not on BC yet, so we just used a condom because i am NOT planning to get prego any time soon... I also had a c-section, so I didn't have any vaginal problems to wait to heal, just my c-section scar....

Katie - posted on 05/10/2010

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hmmm... I haven't been bleeding for a week or so now, I am going on 4 weeks, I told my husband I want to try but I too am nervous, I had a 3rd degree tear but the stiches are gone and I have no pain, but I don't want to hurt myself, so I think I am going to take my drs advice and wait till the 6 week check up... but we will see.. maybe call and ask your dr based on what your going through now, like are you still bleeding are your stiches healed (if you had any) ...

Angel - posted on 05/07/2010

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after my second we waited 2 weeks until the bleeding stopped. i think it was too soon as i started bleeding after that for 3 more weeks! i suggest waiting at least a week after you've stopped bleeding.

Ashley - posted on 05/07/2010

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i had my son a month ago via c section it only took us two weeks of course be careful and gentle but whenever you feel up to it it is your body you know what it can handle

Natasha - posted on 05/05/2010

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I'm nearly 4 weeks post-birth now and am wondering the same thing myself.. i had an episiotomy .. a fairly large one, but the pain is finally fading and doesnt seem bad most of the time now.. I want to but am a bit scared of causing any damage but I guess if we go slow it might be ok?

Candice - posted on 05/04/2010

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I just had my first, and was a little nervous about trying anything with my partner at first. Getting frustrated tho, I just couldn't wait any longer. So after 3 weeks, having stopped bleeding, I decided to give it a try, carefully of course. Things went well, but it's not quite the same just yet...

Melaina - posted on 05/02/2010

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After our first, we were "back in the saddle", so to say, only 4 weeks after his birth, and I did have significant tearing. I'd been given the go ahead from my doctor though. It's best to wait until you're checked out just to make sure you won't be doing any further damage to yourself, and to be really gentle about it when you start up again. Especially if you had any tearing.

Amber - posted on 05/01/2010

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my bleeding stopped at 5 weeks but my stitches werent gone until 3 days before i hit 6 weeks. we waited until the day before 6 weeks.

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