Problems with in-laws

Michele - posted on 10/22/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a problem with my mother-in-law and she'll be here right before Christmas and leaves right after my son's birthday (6/3). My in-laws are around 83 -85 years old and they want to babysit all the time and have my son over for sleepovers. I'm really don't like my son over there without my supervision because of their age for one and they don't listen to anything that I say. When my husband and I tried to childproof their house, they went ballistic. Their house is somewhat childproof, but they have a large pool in their backyard and they can't swim. My son loves the water and playing with the waterfall, but they don't get it. I can't tell them anything. Every time we visit, I'm grabbing something out of my son's hands that is dangerous and they never have a clue. My mother-in-law believes you should give a child a diet of sugar on top of sugar on top of sugar. If it isn't sugar, than it's processed foods. She'll do this all day and wonder why he can't eat a meal when it's time.
My husband and I live a very healthy diet consisting of a lot of organic foods and a small amount of processed and junk food. I give my son a little junk food, but their idea of a little bit is letting him walk around the house with a large bag of M & M's, after eating goldfish and cookies. This was happening when he was only two. They are argue that my parents who are here all year, 10 minutes from me get to see him more, but my parents feed him the same way and they listen to me. My parents have a toy room set up with books and etc. and they have nothing over at their house. Their idea of entertainment is letting him play with deodorant and shaving cream, etc.
Can someone tell me if I'm crazy, overreacting or what?
Michele

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Michele - posted on 12/02/2011

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Thanks Louise. I appreciate the feedback. Sometimes I do come across to them as the overbearing mother. However, if I allowed my son in their care as much as they would like, he probably would of been in the hospital already. I wish I were kidding.

Michele - posted on 10/27/2011

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Thank you for your response Louise. I thought I was going crazy for a moment.

Louise - posted on 10/22/2011

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You have to do what is right for your child. I agree I would feel uneasy about letting the child stay there overnight due to their age. Again I feel if they are unprepared to listen then they lose out. Hopefully your husband understands and is on your side or you will be the bad guy all the time. But hey at the end of the day your childs welfare is your primary concern, so good for you for making a stand.