is it just me or are these "army wives" rude???

Maggie - posted on 08/03/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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i have been in Baumholder for almost 2 months and i have seen some nasty attitudes.. you would think that these army wives and moms would understand exactly what your going through but no.. they are rude, disrespectful and will not acknowledge your existence. i have never in my life thought that i would have to relive my high school years as a adult. even the kids are rude to my 3 years old daughter!!! i have taken the time to go to playgroups and coffee breaks for moms, and thank god these woman are nice and caring otherwise i would go insane!!! am i the only experiencing this???

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Maggie - posted on 08/06/2010

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i hear you, so far no one in this building cleaned up.. when i first moved in this building there was dry dog food by the front door, its still there 2 months later... that was my fear candi having to do all this work while the guys leave.. my daughter is 3 and we are planing on having another one soon, so im not looking forward to the winter being pregnant having to shovel snow.. i dont know what to do. i am taking 1 day at a time, and sticking to what i know best, be caution and stay away from cold hearted ass people... thanks ladies its always good to vent with people who understand exactly what i'm going through

Candi - posted on 08/05/2010

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what I hated the most in Germany was the apartment living. We had to get with them once every few months and clean the apartment basement, laundry rooms, and yard, stairwells, etc. It was up to the wives to do it b/c our husbands were deployed. Even those of us who had small children (mine were 2&3). We had to work with these wives and when I would try to talk to them, they'd give me a smart answer then look at their friends and giggle. I felt like I was back in elementary school. Then the neighbor on the first floor would spread rumors about me being on drugs and being an alcoholic! Ok, military salary here!!!! I don't drink and I don't even like the smell of cigarettes, much less drugs!! I suffer from migraines, so I kept my kids in the house and kept my curtains pulledI was so happy when we moved. People acted like they were going to miss us. I looked at my neighbor and said "yep, you're going to have to find somebody else to lie about now!" She didn't know what to say!

Maggie - posted on 08/05/2010

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lol, you ladies are funny, but eveything you say is so true... the only people i can be myself around are the mom's from the playgroups, we actually have experiance the same things. @ samara you make such a good point, none of these military wives are better then you and I.. like i told the previous person it doesnt matter what race, rank or gender you are, respect is respect!!! @ megan i can not belive that person had the nerve to call you a bitch when people around there dont even know who you are. i am not ganna sit here and waste my 3 years kissing people asses!!! its as simple as that!!! i'm here to give my husband support, love and attention. i am here to give my daughter a adventure and i am here to take this oppunity and run with it. the army pays for you, you personal stuff, and you pov to get shipped over here, i am ganna enjoy my time.. : ) i am not here to make friends with people that i will never in my life talk to. it's like you ladies say no one is trust worthy with your hubby.. thats a fact, thanks ladies

Megan - posted on 08/03/2010

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my first duty station was in new jersey it was an arsenal and my hubby was the only enlisted there. those army wives were rude and overall mean. they were never nice to me nor went out of thier way for me as was already said they wore thier hubbys ranks and the hubbys were nicer than them! its amazing how someone riding her hubbys coattails could feel like she has power. we lived on base during the time and once we moved i vowed never to live on base again! one of them actually called my dog a little pos and when i confronted her she told me i was nothing but a bitch and to not talk to her! and her hubby was a recruiter....its ridiculous. when we moved i stayed clear of all army wives. theres only one i talk to now shes my hubbys best friends wife and thats only on occassion its not like we go out together or anything. but yes the rudeness its everywhere so just watch out! and if u get the chance move off base thats all i can say. as for me i stay clear of base all together hubbys afraid ill go off on a majors wife :)

Samara - posted on 08/03/2010

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they are rude every where..:( I have been married to my husband for almost 2 years now, he has been in the army for over 7 years. he warned me when I moved to Ft. Stewart about the "wives". He prefered me to not get to know any of them because they back stab, run their mouths and some are skanky. I did meet a few at Ft. Stewart that i became friends with. And one that I met on here. But others that I met, i stayed clear of!! My thinking is let ur husband wear his rank, u didnt earn it!!! My husband is a SGT. but i am no better than a PVT's wife. Because I am a wife, just like she is. Dealing with her husband being in the Army. We both have to go through deployments, we both have to deal with the armys crap. My hubby may make a little bit more money, but that doesnt make me better!! I have not had any experiences with nasty children as I was pregnant when I moved there and my child was only 3 months when i left to move home because the hubby was deployed. I hope it gets better for you and you daughter!! not every army wife is rude, but there are lots of them!! Enjoy Germany and i hope u can meet some wives that are not rude so maybe you can enjoy it a little more!!!

Maggie - posted on 08/03/2010

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that's the thing this is our first post and we are also stuck here for 3 years.. i think your are absolutely right, these woman need to realize that the world does not revolve around them and their family only... no matter what rank, race, or gender we should all be helpful for each other not turn your back on the only people you have.. gesh i tell you these woman need wake up calls.. people come and go like everyone else, you are not the only one going through B.S... i have to say candi props for standing your ground!

Candi - posted on 08/03/2010

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I experienced that while in Germany. It was mostly from officer's wives. Those women wear their husband's rank!! Once they become friends with an enlisted wife, that enlisted wife will start acting snooty and mean too. Its all a money game. If a wife works, all of a sudden she is better than all the stay at home moms! I dealt with it for 3 yrs in Germany thats why everywhere we went after that, we refused to live on post. If I never have to meet another Army wife, I'd be perfectly happy

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