Unconventional is How I Roll
Nine years ago I made the ultimate unconventional choice and asked my bi-polar wife to move out and let me raise our five-year-old daughter by myself. It was a big decision but I also knew it was the right decision. Situations come up that make me consider second guessing the decision, but I don’t.
For instance, I didn’t second guess my decision any of the times I stood outside the Costco ladies room waiting for my six-, seven- or eight-year-old daughter to come out, nor any of the times I had to politely ask a female employee to go in and look for a short redhead.
I didn’t like it when my daughter, then seven, got her head stuck in a turtleneck while in a K-Mart dressing room and the employee told me that my daughter’s mom should be the one bringing her shopping. Dads like me, who have made the unconventional decision to raise a child alone, don’t like that at all.
I did regret it for a few brief moments as I took my daughter shopping for her first bra, and I’m sure there will be similar moments when she discusses purchasing bathing suits. All in all, though, I’m good with the choice I made.
I’m proud of the high school freshman I lovingly refer to as Drama Queen, and I will never for a moment (other than the aforementioned ones) regret that unconventional decision.
That unconventional choice is the best choice I ever made. Like every parent, I have my critics, but I can honestly tell them that I’m happy with playing both mom and dad, and that unconventional decisions can be the best decisions of all.
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