Was your husband/partner a help or hinderance during the first few weeks after giving birth?

  • Helen says:
    He was hardly any help at all.

  • Debbie says:

  • Amelia says:
    Help for sure.

  • Debbie says:
    He was a big help, if I could get him awake in the middle of the night!

  • Shana says:
    He was a big help!

  • Lisa-Marie says:
    A big big big help. For a man who never had anything to do with babies, he did a wonderful job.

  • Amy says:
    yeah he got like no sleep before the delivery and then got a stomach flu when we got home. No he was no help

  • Megan says:

  • Joanne says:
    a big big big help he was soooooooooo good

  • Erin says:
    major Hinderance

  • Rhea says:
    help i couldn't have coped without him

  • Tracy says:
    the biggest help going he did most of the work

  • Shelly says:
    the father to my last child yes

  • JUNE says:
    A help he already had two but i also had several nieces and nephews but its different when its your own

  • Carla says:
    Help! forsure!

  • Bridie says:

  • Kristin says:
    He's been a helper. Except this last time. He thought his tiny pin poke was more serious than my ceserean. Hmm. . .out-patient vasectomy/week long hospital stay? I think he should've gotten that glass of water for me without complaint.

  • Irene Jayson says:
    he was a tremedous help until now

  • Jennifer says:
    With Jordan he was awesome. Unfortunately, he had to go away for a 2 week traing for the National Guard and I was home alone with a newborn and 2 year old-NOT FUN!

  • Carey says:
    help although i didnt allow him to do much and i cried a lot!

  • Cass says:
    DS1's father was hopeless. Absolutely hopeless. DS2's father was fantastic!

  • Amy says:
    a big big help. I had a c/s and he was amazing.

  • Melany says:

  • Kiri says:
    well with little experience when it came to kids, he tried his best!!! !

  • michelle says:

  • Rachael says:
    he did the bolt

  • Ashley says:

  • Tina says:
    Dan was helpful both times.

  • Stacey says:

  • Marie says:
    hes was fantastic and not just the first few weeks ..

  • Mel says:
    Once upon a time he was a father.

  • Nicole says:
    He was a HUGE help,he took 2 1/2 weeks off of work, did all the 3 am feeds for that time period and changed more diapers than I did! ( I was pretty weak the first little bit, he really helped me recover faster)

  • Leslie says:

  • Marian says:
    mmmm a lil

  • Tasha- says:
    uh NO help What so ever!

  • Sandra says:

  • Catharine says:
    who????? The father has only seen his son twice....

  • Beth says:
    yes he was. He loves Laura sooooo much. He helps out alot.

  • shellena says:
    he help out the best he could,he was scared and i was ok with know that they are a little older he is really good with them

  • Rachel says:
    a wonderful help

  • Lisa says:
    He was helpful and as exhausted as I was- we took turns with everything

  • Kristie says:
    Help....with the first I had to breast feed due to Lauren's cleft...so he couldn't help much....but definitely a huge help when Andrew came along...he was bottle fed and I got more sleep.

  • Belinda says:
    He was a big help after the kids were born he took time of work just to help.

  • Brooke says:
    A great help...cant say the same now.

  • Claire says:
    Huge help

  • Denise says:
    No help not even after 3 years

  • Samantha says:
    He was a major help.

  • Hannah says:
    A help and a hindrance. It depends on what I needed from him.

  • Carolyn says:

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  • jessica says:
    um idk yet

  • Nadine says:

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  • Amy says:
    bit of both

  • Alexa says:
    He took control over everything and helped me alot

  • Jade says:
    very very very big help

  • sophia says:
    he didnt help not one bit through the 3 yrs our son has been here so far...

  • Sara says:
    he wasnt there

  • Joye says:
    A help 2 out of 3 times. He was wonderful after Lilly was born especially.

  • Debbie says:
    a help

  • Maria says:
    A huge help!! I was pretty sick in the hospital so it was just him taking care of Kenny the first full day in the hospital. And he has been a huge help ever since!!

  • Kiku says:
    He was a huge help, and he still is.

  • SuEllen says:
    A HUGE help.

  • Kelly says:
    A Help, but really more so after Mom left!

  • golden says:
    he was a big help with blaze, he was ok with cross, and not so much with jenna

  • Elisabete says:
    yes ,all i had to do was aks and he would do anything without complaing with all the kids "sorry girls hes all mine lol)

  • Linzi says:
    pfffft ^^^ need i say more x

  • Deanna says:
    Let's just say I have been both mommy and daddy from day one.

  • tammie says:
    complete hinderance an the youngests dad was a total waste of space

  • Traci says:
    he helped as much as he could

  • Brandi says:
    Chuck was there alot, but didn't do too many bottles.

  • Hope says:
    Jason was definately a big help! We both stumbled our way through new parenthood together. And while we didn't & don't always agree on little everyday parenting decisions, we work together!

  • Jennifer says:
    umm.. kind of a hinderance, only because I had a c-section and even though I asked for help with things like taking out the garbage I ended up over doing it

  • Emma says:
    He wasn't around due to work commitments in a totally different state

  • Dana says:

  • Jenni says:
    Hinderance. I used to laugh and tell my friends I thought single motherhood made perfect sense considering I was doing it all anyway!

  • Valerie says:

  • Katrina says:
    Def a big help. He helped me figure out the breast pump!

  • Tia says:
    after having Madyson I could tell he was scared. After having Abigail he was wonderful.

  • Tonyia says:
    a big help

  • Robbyn says:
    Help, couldn't have done it without him.

  • Shaunna says:
    much help

  • Angela says:
    A big help with every thing, from feeding, changing, bathing, midnight feeding.

  • Layla says:
    first born he got in the way 2nd he was very good

  • Ruth says:
    a complete waste of time

  • Kat says:
    Help BIG Help

  • Ruth says:
    he did nothing so definate hinderance

  • Caroline says:
    Neither - I don't have a partner nd the Boys' father//s wasn't around

  • Tracey says:
    Em I suppose he tried but I could have done with more help if I'm being honest, and I don't think he realised how much pain I was in for the first week, I am usually so independant and do everything that I don't think he thought I was that bad!

  • Devon says:
    a very big help, he did more night feedings than me with our first

  • Sharon says:

  • Kimberly says:
    a big help

  • Humble says:
    With the first 2 yes, the 3rd a big fat no, and the 4th YES

  • heather says:
    my then boyfriend now husband was great in first few weeks

  • Cassie says:
    A HUGE help

  • Nicole says:
    yes he was very helpful as long as it wasnt during the night

  • Lisa says:
    Help the first time, hinderance the second.

  • Forresa says:

  • Pat says:
    Helpful most times

  • Kim says:
    He was gone, I did it on my own. I only had the support of my parents.

  • Heather says:
    A big help

  • Annie says:
    Mark wasn't around so I can't really answer this question.

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  • Crystal says:
    Well, considering he almost missed both of them

  • Rebecca says:
    Well, we will see. But I think he will be a help. It might take some time but it will be an amazing experience to go through together.

  • Amanda says:

  • Tiffany says:
    A help

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  • Natalia says:
    With the second child he was helpful for a little while but other than that or with the first and third - NO

  • Kristine says:
    he worked overnights when i had my son so he wasnt really present for much cause he would sleep all day but when he was awake he was a big help....with my daughter i think he is to nervous cause she has colic and he cant handle not being able to calm her down but he keeps our son occupied while im tending to her so thats a big help.

  • Stacey says:
    yes done nealry everything lol

  • Kelly says:
    He was a great help. I couldn't have done it without him.

  • yvonne says:
    he was more of a help with our second. our first one was a learning process to him but he was a help

  • Anonymous says:
    Craig was awesome. He did his fair share of everything even with Bri and he didn't have to. I think that is why she is so much like him.

  • carley says:
    he was a big help

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  • Mandie says:
    He was brilliant

  • Sarah says:
    he was such a darling and i wouldnt of done it if he wasnt there

  • Janet says:
    massive help

  • Melissa says:
    very much a help

  • Danielle says:
    no walked out when baby was 3 weeks

  • Tiegan says:
    bit of both

  • Felicity says:

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  • janine says:
    a help he was brill

  • jo says:
    a huge help

  • Claire says:
    a massive help, i was so ill.

  • Estelle says:
    dean was a huge help!! couldnt of asked him to do much more!

  • Lisa says:
    Big help

  • donna says:
    he has been a big help

  • Jenny says:
    no way

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  • Joanna says:
    A big, big help.

  • Anonymous says:
    not really was not there

  • Jessica says:
    help..he let mommy get some sleep in!!

  • Trisha says:
    He was a help

  • Ingrid says:
    a huge help

  • Liz says:
    He helped so much! I cant even esplain he would bring me the baby to feed clean do laundry he was home for a month. Thanks love!

  • stephanie says:
    he waas great help

  • BRIDGET says:
    He was a help

  • SHANNON says:
    he was alright

  • Heather says:
    He was 500% helpful. I wouldn't have been able to make it without him and the stress of Mark in the NICU

  • Denise says:
    A big help.

  • Jenn says:
    Well he was when he was home... as muc has he could I shoudl say, he works nights so i was the one who got up in the middle of the night with her most nights by myself, during the day I would be the one takign care of her until her father would wake upafter getting hoem from working all night, hed usually be up 2-3 hoursa before hed haveto be to work and help out for those hours, then he was gone again for work..

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  • Christina says:
    help! he still gets her all ready each morning and takes her to daycare and gives her a bath each night!

  • Tiffany says:
    help he held them all the time

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  • Corrine says:
    help, bless him

  • Jaide says:
    he was a great help. there to help me with whatever

  • Beth says:

  • Shana says:
    Very helpful

  • Angel says:
    He has always took off the first week of having the baby.

  • Allison says:
    nothing, he wasn't there

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  • rebecca says:
    a big help wit both of them he had to work 5 days after i had mj which was scarey but wit madi i made him take 2wks off work n it was the best

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  • Jessica says:
    Jayson was awesome he would get up for feeds and let me rest for the 2 weeks he had off he helped me alot beinf a father is the same as a mother to me they are both equal rolls

  • Jennifer says:
    well if you ask Jerry he was a HUGH help... but really i would say ok

  • Samantha says:
    a bit of both

  • Samantha says:
    he tried to help but i really didn't want anything to do with him.

  • Carole Oakes says:
    very much a help.

  • Nicole says:
    helpful but had a full time job at the time 6am to 330 pm

  • Michelle says:
    Helpful each time.

  • Becca says:
    Hinderance. I was on my own as far as he was concerned. "It's the woman's job"

  • Dusty says:
    a help

  • Autumn says:
    He was a great help. He was a great coach and had lots of encouragement. He was also good for a laugh at times.

  • Lana says:
    A help at times and not so much of a help at other times..I felt like he thought having a baby was like getting a scratch...put a bandage on it and its all better and back to regular routine...boy how wrong..

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  • Michelle says:
    Mark has always been very helpful after I have a baby. He takes time off work and takes care of me.

  • Yvette says:
    A bit of both really

  • kim says:
    jamie was a great help he loves his boys

  • Kristina says:
    He was very good, since we were 800km from home and it was very streseful time, he supported me whose first few weeks while the boys were in the hospital, and then when we got home and he had to go back to work and work from 3pm-12am, he would still get up @the 3am feed and help me feed them, and would help me during the mornings and early arvo.

  • Rhiannon says:
    He went back to work straight after lachlans birth only because lachlan was in hospital for a month. But even though he did countless hours at wok during the day he always came to the hospital straight after work to spend time with lachlan.

  • Danielle says:
    He was only there for 8 days. And Van was still in the NICU. But he did help me any way he could. We were at the NICU most of the time though.

  • Sara says:
    My family and friends were a huge help in keeping me sane during my pregnancy and after the birth. If it weren't for them I'd have gone the whole thing alone

  • ALICIA says:
    A bit of both. I lived with my mum so it was lovely when he came down as he would hold the baby, help bath her etc But it was my mum who helped most with feeds ,nappy changes etc

  • Laura says:
    he was a big help....and still is

  • Kerry says:
    HELP! A HUGE HELP!!! Unfortunately he got less helpful the more kids we had so by number four, he was not interested in poor baby Kane at all!!!

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  • Kirsti says:
    He was a big help.

  • belinda says:
    nathan was a huge help in the delivery room with both kids and he did help alot in the first few weeks.

  • Lauren says:
    absolute help

  • Lindal says:
    He was a great help then and still is

  • Amber says:
    lol I would say a help

  • Stacy says:
    Very helpful... he got pretty nervous when I started pushing and had to go sit in the corner... but otherwise was very good to me and the girls.

  • Angie says:
    he was very good...he took a week off of work to help out!! He did not change a diaper unitl he had to though(after i went back to work)

  • Amanda (Mandi) says:
    tim helped out w both

  • Heidi says:
    wasnt thee to start with then was great midway through till she was born

  • Debbie says:
    my partner to my little boy was really hands on after giving birth

  • suzie says:
    1 went to the pub 1 went to work. better on my own

  • Dannielle says:
    A help, he was great.

  • Jasmin says:
    he was fantastic

  • Kristy says:
    he was never home. the only day he had off was the day i gave birth

  • Anastacia says:
    A major help with both

  • Shell says:
    kind of in between

  • julie says:
    the father is a tosser

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  • Claire says:
    he was spot on, couldnt do enough really! i have him well trained lol

  • Jerrell says:
    Some help.

  • Aline says:
    Let me put it this way, he was a better mom than me jajajaja!

  • Lisa says:
    he was NO help. He had never been around babies and was completley dependant on me to take care of Lane all on my own.

  • Rhonda says:
    No I did it by myself wit a lil help from my mom!(love dat lady!!!)

  • Sabrina says:
    yes,right there with me 100%!

  • Mariah says:

  • Amanda says:
    Jamey helped

  • Linda says:

  • Amanda says:
    They both were great the first few weeks, until the newness wore off, and the tiredness & real work being a parent come in. Or their girlfriend into the picture!!

  • Jennifer says:
    The first two weeks he was my everything! I was so sore and tired and he did so much for both me and the baby!

  • Jennifer says:
    He tried his hardest to help. Would get up and feed Landen for me so that I could pump. He was never a hinderance.

  • ryanne says:
    he didn't help me ever with him

  • kerry says:
    nothing at all

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  • Michelle says:
    neither. he was too scared to pick her up...lol but he wasn't a hinderance.

  • Kristy says:
    Only helped when I got mad enough to fuss about it most of the time but there was those rare times when they actually realized I needed a break! VERY RARE!!lol

  • Leann says:
    Partner wasnt there!

  • Jessica-Jcandi says:
    Very much of a HELP

  • Michelle says:
    First time, great help... 2nd time not so much, third time not at all!

  • Lauren says:
    My ex husband was actually great when my son was born, he helped out more than I could have asked.

  • Courtney says:
    A help and a hinderance but with the best intentions.

  • chanelle says:
    I guess he was ok in the first few weeks, after that though is questionable

  • Ashley says:
    He has been the biggest help since before we conceived. He really is an awesome Daddy.

  • Lauren says:

  • Melissa says:
    Definitely a help! He takes a week off work to stay home and help!

  • Jodie says:
    He was a huge help when he wasn't at work LOL

  • Angela says:
    He was great with all 3. He isnt able to feed Madalyn because I breast feed but he does a great job of everything ele.:)

  • Erin says:
    Everything that I could ask for and more! If it weren't for him I would probably be in an insane asylum! :)

  • Shelagh says:
    on my girls..my partner Alan was a bit nervous with them...as Layla (my second) was his first, he did find it hard to find his feet with her but on Holly (our youngest) he was much better...i think because i had had Jack it made it easier as we both weren't 'newbies' at being parents..

  • Melanie says:
    A GREAT help, couldn't of done it without him

  • Erin says:
    Help for sure.

  • Kathleen says:
    Big help with both of the kids...

  • Emily says:
    Awesome, he was all I had and all I needed. I had a c-section and could not have coped without him, your the best babe!

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  • Kellie says:
    I would never have got through it without him, he is my strength, especially when we came soooooooooooo close to losing our Jack, he was amazing

  • Marie says:
    THE BIGGEST HELP EVER! I had some issues in the beginning and he was great at helping with the problems. He took 5 weeks off work, I honestly don't think I could have coped without him.

  • Michelle says:

  • Kirstin says:
    looking back now he was a big help but at the time with my hormones everywhere i could have killed him lol

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  • Michaela says:
    Confused lol...

  • Mellissa says:
    A huge help he is da bomb :)

  • Wendy says:
    bit of both

  • Angela says:
    Tyler was a huge help. He took extra time off of work and did everything he could to encourage ans support me when I was feeling really low.

  • Laura says:
    A lot of help

  • Amy says:
    on my nerves.. lol but very helpful

  • Tara says:
    My husband was a huge help after both births

  • Brandy says:
    Well, seeing as how he was deployed during that time, I really couldn't tell ya.

  • kelsey says:
    both.depending on whether i needed help during the day or night

  • Teegan says:
    they were both very good

  • Amanda says:

  • Paige says:
    HUGE help

  • Elizabeth says:
    ummm...a lil of both, but more of a help since twins are crazy hectic!

  • Melissa says:
    He was very helpful

  • Meagan says:
    Help! He did it all the first week. I almost died of an infection. seriously. He really stepped up and was amazing. I will never be able to repay him.

  • Jennifer says:
    Jason was great. He did every thing for Aiden. I was afraid I wasn't going to get to hold him, thank god I was nursing.

  • Miranda says:
    help, he gave up work for a week and moved in with me till we went back to school

  • Sharra says:
    a big help and still is when he not at work

  • Angel says:
    He was good at helping me out until i was completely healed, and all the stiches were gone...just the whole nite time thing didnt work "he never hears the baby"

  • Heather says:
    He was the best help ever. I would not have made it without him. I had a c-section and a lot of problems with anxiety. If it wasn't for him being here I would have lost it.

  • Minnie says:
    My last baby father was a big help, can't say the same for the first 2

  • Sheri says:
    he was a help, but i did most of the night times because he had to get up for wok. we traded off night shifts when i went back to work.

  • Candida says:
    helped as much as he knew how sometimes became hinderance

  • Dawn says:
    My husband Dale was a BIG help!

  • Jeannie says:
    Kevin was a big help

  • Jennifer says:
    Absolutely a help. Not to mention he put up with a very emotional and hormonal girlfriend. He is a good guy, no doubt about it.

  • Corinna says:
    Help, big time. We missed him when he went back to work.

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  • Kielly says:
    erm he was ok but not to confident with new born babies!

  • Emma says:
    Ellie's Dad was a big help afterthe birth of my first child and my second

  • Lauren says:
    to be fair he was a hinderance at the beginning both times but got better and is brilliant now.

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  • Jennifer says:
    Huge help, a couple of weeks after I had Joey, I had to have surgery, and I don't know what I would have done without my hubby.

  • Gill says:
    big help

  • Sue says:
    bit of both with the 1st as he didnt really know wot to do cause he is the youngist in his famliy so not used to being round kids

  • Tonimarie says:
    yh he helped but he also did my head in

  • Barbara says:
    with my son his father didnt do anything after he was born i did it all it was hard but i made it threw it. with my daughter her father was there for me the whole time and still is he has helped alot and i wish that i could show him how apreciative i am of him for being there for me.

  • Jennifer says:
    My husband helped me the best that he could, as I was recovering. When our daughter came home, well... he tried. *laughs*

  • Amber says:
    if you consider reminding me when six weeks was up a help, then yes, he was a help. Lol.

  • marie says:
    bit of both!

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  • Monica says:
    He was actually a help. We were both so very young and had no idea what we were doing and were living in Germany, so were completely removed from anything and anyone we knew. We had to do it on our own, and I truly believe WE did it together.

  • Acacia says:
    he was very helpful

  • Jessica says:
    yes and he still is

  • Emma says:
    bit of both

  • Allyse says:
    Pain. I was home 2 days and he went back to work.

  • Becky says:
    Yes, very much so...

  • Jessica says:
    He was chasing after other ladies, hadn't spoken to me in over a month and hasn't spoken to me since and has never tried to contact me or my daughter... so... I would say that was extremely helpful actually!

  • Rebecca says:
    A HUGE help. I was finishing up my finals and he was totally there for me. And Ben.

  • Victoria says:
    omg a LIFE SAVOR!!! I'm so thankful for everything he's done to help out.

  • Wendy says:
    He was a HUGE help. Even the two days we were home between hospital visits, I didn't change a single diaper the first two weeks. He even helped me pump, lmao.

  • Tessa says:
    both. he had good intentions with taylor at first but she responded better to me. he mostly helped by cleaning up while i nursed or finally napped with her. With Brenna I know my family will be a big help. My mom is going to spoil her rotten and taylor is going to be super big sister.

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  • Anonymous says:
    hinderance...neither was there.

  • emily says:
    a big help. all c-sections, he had no choice

  • Ameya says:
    Huge help, i was pretty much a big lactating blob who could do nothing but feed the baby

  • Mindy says:
    he was in jail. no help at all.

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  • Lucinda says:
    help, but I obviously ignored him , was a protective mommy

  • Kristina says:
    huge help!

  • Tamara says:
    no help

  • Marzette says:
    Yes and he still does

  • Kirsty says:
    An absoulute help!!

  • Sarah says:
    He was a hinderance.

  • Annette says:
    neither, he worked and was not around much, my mom and my aunt ere there

  • Ashley says:

  • kylie says:
    nope was not there

  • jo says:
    he was brillient a fantastic dad, i had had a caesarian and was imobile.

  • Sara says:
    With B he did everything with Matt he did nothing

  • kimberley says:

  • Jacinta says:
    a bit of both

  • Rochelle says:
    No he wasnt (complicated)

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  • Krystal says:
    helped out heaps

  • lisa says:

  • renee says:
    a deffinate help hes cool

  • Anne says:
    First one wasnt around. But 2nd one yes was brilliant until novelty wore off but wouldnt do nappies oh no no no !!!!!!

  • Dannyel says:
    dont no yet

  • Janet says:
    help definitely

  • Louise says:
    he was useless he didnt care

  • leah says:

  • Donna says:
    a help

  • Michelle says:
    never was there

  • Jessica says:
    He wasn't there

  • Lucy says:
    he was present when she was a week old but he wasn't no help. I still did everything

  • Kylie says:
    Help, he was calmer and coped better than I did

  • Tammy says:
    BIG hinderance...first few weeks lets try 7 months!

  • jenna says:
    nothin wasnt around so u could actually say a help coz he wasnt annion me lol

  • Claire says:
    pain in the bloody arse!!

  • Lianne says:

  • helen says:
    the best help ever

  • Rachel says:
    Help although he was scared to death and had to be told what to do

  • l says:
    he wanted to help, but it was obvious he was nervous. it was a huge learning experience for us both.

  • Ashley says:
    He wasnt around

  • Hayley says:
    Massive help. With some encouragement from his Mum and Sis. I had a caesar both times so I couldn't really do much

  • Alana says:
    Anyone would think he was the mother and father lol

  • Shamarra says:
    He was a great help. He would feed both boys so I could catch up on sleep, bathe, cuddle, change nappies, the lot.

  • Kirsty says:
    Wasn' there.

  • Renata says:
    A huge help

  • Norma says:
    No he was gone to the military and I was the only one for my baby

  • Marcy says:
    He helped me as much as I would let him lol

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  • Samantha says:
    James' dad was a big help of getting me and james both to sleep.

  • TENISHA says:
    Can I say....HELL NO he wasnt.

  • Meilan says:
    Majour help! I couldn't do much myself, so he had to change her, feed her, put her to bed, ...

  • Jeannine says:
    Oh he was great.

  • Amber says:
    More of a non-applicable question, cause we weren't together right after Fiona was born.

  • Waiaha says:
    big help

  • Hollie says:
    big help!

  • Gemma says:
    he was an bsolute godsend i didnt want him to go back to work

  • Jennifer says:
    a help he was so cute w/ her but nervous b/c to him she was so little

  • Julie says:
    nope i do everything on my own unless he's over then he helps

  • Nikki says:
    he was wonderful

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  • Jessica says:
    A huge help.

  • Tiffany says:
    hinderance as wasnt there

  • Aline says:
    He was and ie is very helpful!