Aleks - posted on 11/02/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
I am starting to get very worried with regards to the amount of violence my 5yo boy is being exposed to. I don't allow him to watch violet stuff on tv (including most of the cartoons which are supposedly for children :-/ ), however, more and more of his friends are playing rough - pretend fighting/kicking, they are wrestling, etc. Now that he has greater ability to communicate he tells me that so and so is watching Ben10 (friend from kinder), or other such violently laden cartoons made for 10+ yrs (and eve still I find these too violent for such kids). Not to mention some of those boys' fathers are almost encouraging "fighting" type of behaviour- from what I gather from what the mothers have told me.
I mean while shopping at a shopping center a few wks ago I saw a mother with a (may be) 2.5yr old - couldn't really talk properly, stroller behind him with on gun in it, one gun in his hand, yet was running around with toy guns - one hand gun and one machine gun - that were blinking and making "shooting noises" when trigger was pulled!!!! I COULDN'T BELIEVE IT! Can't talk, but was already running around "shooting" things!
My boy ran away and hid!
However, more and more I find him playing, at home with his 20mth old sister, and coping the style of play I see many of these 4-5yo boys frequently displaying!!! That is - wrestling, pretend kicking (which with his skill levels sometimes actually conects, not fun for me nor the 20mth old!) And now that in few months he will be starting prep/grad 0 in primary school (with boys ranging in age 5-12) I am worried that this will just get worse and will be much harder to control, I mean 5 days a week 9am -3pm! That is a lot of hours!
We have a huge problem her in Aust with binge drinking and violence with teenagers and young ppl, where many have died or been severly handicapped after a night out with friends because of violence, usually unprovoked! Not to mention the freaky things that one hears now and again - ie, group of three-four 6yo boys attack and bash a 10yo boy to unconsciousness, etc. I cannot but think its the exposure to alot of violence! And yet, no one bats an eyelid at 3yo walking around watching Ben10 and being draped in Ben10 clothes or spiderman or batman, etc. What is wrong with these parents? Why encourage violence at such young age? I know of a family whose (oh so intelligent father, not) was teaching his 3 yo self defence!!!!! ?????? What the?
Is it just me, or is there something wrong with this picture?
Not one report in the media warning parents. Not one report published regarding exposure to frequent violence at young age will desensitise the child to these types of acts, leading to greater chance of him/her engaging in them when a teen/young adult, with results as mentioned above.
I am feeling I am on a loosing battle. Or am I over-reacting in trying to "over-protect" my boy?
How can I minimise this type exposure to violence with the big hourse my boy will be spending out of my care (home schooling is not really an option for me - too many reasons to get into here)? Have you experienced similar? If so what did you do?
Sorry this turned out a bit long and a bit of a rant, but I had to get some of my beliefs down so as you would understand where I am coming from....