Minnie - posted on 02/18/2010 ( 74 moms have responded )
So in Parenting debate/hot topics community there is a thread about cosleeping. But the OP basically started it on a negative note, stating that she's vehemently against cosleeping, and that it is a 'horrendous' habit.
I gave my responses, noted that the Japanese regularly bedshare with their children throughout the teenage years, and that it is not a problem for them because they have a completely different view of things.
I was berated left and right for daring to compare cultures, and ridiculed because I showed that it is obviously not that bad since humans have shared beds for as long as humans have existed. They laughed at me, thinking me a simpleton because in one poster's words 'well the japanese kill endangered whale calves to get at the mothers, does that make it ok?"
So, what are your ladies' thoughts? I believe through anthropological evidence, that cosleeping is the natural intended sleeping arrangement for infants. I do not 'force' my daughters to sleep with me (as one poster put it, since I do not give them the choice-lol-from birth to sleep alone) anymore than I force them to breastfeed. It is natural.
I just don't see why we need to compare a biological imperative (of course there are individuals that don't follow the norm-but-) to other practices that are clearly intrinsic to the culture. Truly, only the west does not cosleep in some form with its children.
Blah. How can people not get this?