Mary Renee - posted on 05/22/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )
I believe in Attachment-style parenting but I also might soon become a single parent as my SO and I are having problems and going on a two month trial separation.
ANYWAY, I have been nursing my daughter to sleep since she was born basically (and we co-sleep). Everybody told me not to do it, but honestly, it was so hard to get her to sleep (it's also difficult to get her to nap and she's only taken one nap a day since she was 3 weeks old) that after hours of trying every other technique to get her to sleep, rocking, swaddling, everything besides CIO which I would never do...I always end up giving in and nursing her to sleep.
However as of three weeks ago, she is a big healthy one-year-old and nursing her to sleep is no longer very effective! We will now do our whole entire routine exactly the same (dinner, quiet play while Mama does dishes/laundry, bathtime, PJs, story time, nurse) but she can nurse with out falling alseep. I tried pushing her bedtime back a half an hour, and it worked for a few days, but now she will just nurse and then afterward sit up and crawl around the bed and try to get off and play some more. A few times she's actually fallen asleep on her own on the bed with out nursing but it's like a half an hour or forty five minutes after she's nurse where I am just sitting there in the dark making sure she doesn't jump off the bed.
I don't mean to sound selfish, but I really can't spend 45 minutes in the dark just making sure she doesn't jump off the bed. I don't mind nursing her for 45 minutes, or rocking her to sleep, but just sitting there makes me go crazy thinking about all the chores I should be doing. However, since we co-sleep, just leaving the room while she's still awake has never seemed like an option because she can get off the bed but she can't get back and on, and additionally they're doing construction on our entire apartment building that adds to the reason I don't want to leave her alone on an adult bed to fall asleep on her own.
What have other co-sleeping parents done to get they're 1-year-olds that were previously nursed to sleep to go to sleep when nursing doesn't make them fall asleep anymore?