Moms sleep experiences

Kat - posted on 07/04/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I have co-slept fro day one. I think im having a little trouble. Wondering how other mothers get there baby to sleep,and if they leave the room after? I would just love to hear what you other mommas experiences have been. Thanks for any info.

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Karen - posted on 07/06/2011

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I breastfeed and co-sleep with my 38 month old daughter and have since day 1.
I have tried pretty much every different configuration I can think of to get both of us the most sleep possible. For naps and early evenings I often wanted to get up. So, what I would do is nurse DD down as usual and then lay there without moving for 20 min (which seems endless, just warning you) and then quietly creep out of the room. Something about the timing of the sleep cycles and waiting the 20 mins seemed to work for us. Well, at least at nap. Getting up in the evenings has never worked all that well for us. My daughter seems to need me closer the darker it is.

Karen - posted on 07/08/2011

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Kat, I still am not able to leave my daughter usually for more than about 1-2 hours in the evening. If I'm not there she wakes up faster. If I'm there she sleeps longer.
I'm pretty sure sleep is related to tempermant. My daughter is incrediebly sensetive in pretty much every way (senses, emotions etc). So sleep just follows suit - it takes pretty much nothing to throw us off.

Marcy - posted on 07/07/2011

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I have a 5 year ld 9he'sll be 5 this month) and he still falls asleep on the sofa in the living room or in bed with me. He has never fallen asleep on his own in his bed in his room and honestly, I could care less. He sleeps over at school once a month and falls asleep w/o us no problem. We have just let him kind of lead the way since we brought him home and its worked out well for us. The one time I fought him by trying ot get him to go to sleep in a side car/crib it he cried for 15 minutes and that was the end of that.

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Aleks - posted on 07/14/2011

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Kat,
I would also like to point out that your son is at an age where Seperation Anxiety tends to really kick in (and boys tend to suffer it more so than girls), which may make your boy more in need of you going to sleep and staying that way! Believe, me I have been there. My son was very similar - though I found that he was happier to stay asleep at day time naps when I wasn't around than at night.

Just thought that you should keep that in mind for the next few months regarding this issue. You may find that once seperation anxiety starts to subside, he may be a lot better at letting you go out of the bed when he is asleep :-)

Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2011

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Mine have always been really good sleepers so I haven't dealt with what you are dealing with.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2011

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For me I breastfeed and my baby and often myself fall asleep pretty quickly. The act of breastfeeding actually releases a hormone that make both mom and baby sleepy. I do leave the room after if I am not ready t sleep and baby is sleeping comfortably and is safe. I have a cosleeper bassinet attached to the bed that I can move my sleeping baby to so he is safer. Otherwise I make sure that the baby is on his back and is away from the big bed blankets and pillows.

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Kat - yep, all I ever get away for is 1-2.5 hours. A few times she lasted a whole 3. I certainly do think it's temperament-related. My daughter has always been really alert, yet quite sensitive. Though co-sleeping and breastfeeding might have something to do with it as well. That said, if I didn't have those two 'tools', I don't think she'd sleep at all.
Good luck to you, I know what a challenge sleep can be!

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Kat -- He doesn't sound so bad, really. Only wakes 2-3 times at night and nurses once? Last night my son woke up (just briefly) maybe a dozen times! Very restless. And this after a phase of relatively good sleep. *sigh*

8-10 months is a very difficult period for most parents. There's just way too much going on, physically and mentally. I'm hoping by 11-12 months, my son will sleep better.

You may prefer to try these:
http://www.gobedbug.com/

They are cheaper than Snug Tuck, and a lot of parents like them a lot.

You may interested in this book:
http://thewonderweeks.com/

It has been maybe the single most useful book for me.

Kat - posted on 07/08/2011

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daniela-so if you sneak away you can only leave for an hour or two? Arent some kids with their temperpant just not as good sleepers as others? Thats what im hoping on. That and many a few years down the road he'll get better at it. I was never a great sleeper.

Kat - posted on 07/08/2011

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A bit of everything Liz. this week he has struggled with going to bed ontime. Wants to crawl everywhere. Or immedietly falls asleep. then wakes up soon, and wants crawl everywhere. some nights i can sneak away, sometimes i cant. sometimes when i do its for 20 minutes other times 2 hours. He wakes up 2 or 3 times, sometimes just to cuddle, or i think hes been gassy...poor guy, Usually only to nurse once. Im never to far from room, but thought it would be a good idea to get tuck pillow incases he was feeling super fast and adventurous. naps arent to bad. hope i didnt jinx me. :) i usually read and rarely leave him.

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My 22 months old daughter has been sleeping with us since she was about 2.5 months old. We've had an incredibly hard time with her sleep over the past 20 months, so I'm not complaining at the moment, although I'm still pretty tied down with it. She never napped on her own (actually for a very long time she didn't even nap in a bed or without being rocked vigorously for an hour), so I'm still napping with her for two hours or so every day. At night-time it takes me about an hour to nurse her to sleep and then I slip out. I used to get 2.5 hours out of her but at the moment we are back to just one. But she actually does welcome sleep by now and looks forward to it. Now there is some improvement... We have a double mattress on the floor sideways with a single one sideways to our feet. It makes for a lot of room. Nina did roll of it once or twice, but it was cushioned by carpet.

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Hey Liz- so i googled the Tuck pillow. so your little one doesnt try crawl over it? Or during that stage did you just stay in the room? im all confused about sizing too. what did you get?



I think I just got the regular size. It's quite thick. My son does try to hang over it, but only when we're playing together on the bed. I tell him "no, edge."



When he wakes up at night, he doesn't try to crawl around. He rolls over in my direction and wants to nurse.



When he wakes from a nap, he calls out/cries and either lies there all groggy, or crawls to my side of bed (which is near the door) and waits at the edge (there are pillows there).



I think he has some sense of edges and falling down. But I live in a small flat and respond to him quick. He's never on the bed by himself, awake, for longer than a few seconds.



Is your son really crawl-y and restless? Some babies are more adventurous. :)



I'm not sure what problems you're having. Is it bedtime, naps, or nightwaking? Does he go down easily and then wake when you try to leave? Or will he not go down?

Kat - posted on 07/07/2011

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Marcy- 15 minutes im impressed. I dont like to admit this but i tried a PU/PD method and he cried on and of for 2 hours, then 3 hours the next night. I will NEVER do that again!!! I know by husband isnt thrilled at the possibility that he could be sleeping with us still at 7, but i LOVE him being with me! Also, i dont think it matters. MY friend who has NEVER co-slept, or Breastfeed, and she says her 2 year old is in to sleep with them EVERY night. I think it depends on the kid regardless of the way they are going to sleep, etc. I know my MIL may think different, but i need to just block that out. Does anyone else have a hard time with parents or in laws?

Kat - posted on 07/07/2011

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Hey Liz- so i googled the Tuck pillow. so your little one doesnt try crawl over it? Or during that stage did you just stay in the room? im all confused about sizing too. what did you get?

Kat - posted on 07/07/2011

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ooo ok. how long did it take you? her age i mean. thats funny about knocking things over. Thats what always meses me up and puts me back to square one.

Karen - posted on 07/07/2011

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It's usually pretty easy now. I can even trip on something or knock something over and she stays sleeping. And I only wait a couple of minutes now.
I just want to be clear that it's 20 min of waiting once you've unlatched.

Kat - posted on 07/07/2011

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20 minutesv is nothing for me. ahaha So its still hard to sneak away from your daughter karen?

Kat - posted on 07/06/2011

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thanks brenda and liz! My son is 9 months on friday. Souns like similar situations. sometimes he wont go to sleep, other times he does but wakes upif i try sneaking away. he then wants to get up and crawl all over. before when he would wake up i would just nurse him back to sleep, but now he fusses to be put down so hw can get back to crawling around. his cribis teethered to our bed. my husband refuses to put our mattress on the floor. I will look into that pillow. I dont want to put up the railing because ei know he will freak. i love in the middle of night how he will snuggle close, which he won be able to do, and he and i will both me sad. i just figure if hes trying to crawl around, then im engaging with him, which makes him hink its ok to do this behavior. what do you think? should i let him just get it out of his system? i would like to sneak away sometimes, otherwise i do what you do brenda and read or go on lab top, like right now. my husband says watch tv, but i dont think thats wise when hes awake. dads i tell ya!

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How old is your baby? What kind of trouble are you having?



I have bed-shared with my 10mo son since birth. I nurse him to sleep. He's at an age when bedtime is a bit of a struggle. He doesn't want to go to bed even if he's tired because he doesn't want to miss anything. Nursing doesn't always work. Sometimes I hand him over to his dad, who listens to songs with him in his lap until he's calm and drowsy. Then I nurse him again.



Until he was 7mo, he was fine with sleeping alone in our bed for his naps and for the early part of the night before I came to bed. Then he developed separation anxiety, and if I wasn't there, he would wake up every 20 or 40 minutes, even 10 minutes sometimes, looking for me. I just tried to cope the best I could. I napped with him, or read a book or listened to music on earphones.



He's 10mo now and seems to have gotten over the phase. So yeah, I leave him in there. On his side of the bed, I have a Snug Tuck barrier pillow (google it, if you're interested), so he doesn't roll or crawl off. On my side, I put my head pillows on the edge if I'm not there. Our bed is on a low frame, so there's not much distance to the floor if he were to fall out. But he never has.

Brenda - posted on 07/06/2011

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My son is 26 months and goes to sleep nursing. Cosleeping with him, of course, and nurse him down for every sleep. I sometimes slip away once he's out, but more often I just sleep too.

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