Nicole - posted on 06/17/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
Okay, I have an unusual situation (I'm hoping it is not as unusual as I'm thinking, because I need good advice).
My five year old son is very into breasts. The bigger the breasts, the larger the fascination. He is quite into my own breasts and my bras at home, but I have not been bothered by it. I just chalked it up to being breastfed and having very fond memories of comfort and love from the breast, but where I am seeing this being a problem is with women other than myself. He is very loving and sweet. He has never met a stranger and he hugs EVERYONE! He loves to give others compliments. i.e. "You're sweet!", "You are pretty!", "I love you!", and so on. But in that loving, he can get quite touchy with women's breasts (especially if they are large). When it is women that I would call great friends and are very aware of my breastfeeding history, etc. I do not feel so embarrassed, but he seems to do it more often with those ladies I am casually acquainted with or see less often.
So, my question: How do I teach him to not touch or talk about women's breasts (he very vocally points out how big they are if they are large) without making him feel like he is bad or in trouble? Especially since he sees his little brother nurse from my breasts 10-12 times a day. Another thing he is really into! He loves to sit next to me and rub my shoulders or kiss my face and say things like "Marcus, Mommy is feeding you your really yummy milk! Isn't that great?!" and "Awwww, Mommy you are so nice to feed Marcus his milk." He is just such a sweet child and I don't want to make him feel that there is something wrong with breasts, because I know that his curiosity with them is purely from a functional view (breastfeeding) and I don't want him to think they are taboo and I don't want to tell him not to touch people because he is a hugger and that is a huge part of his interaction with people and, usually, it makes people VERY happy to be hugged by a sweet 5 year old, but I want to teach him about personal space at the same time.
See my dilemma? Please help from an attachment parenting view!