Julia - posted on 09/21/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
Here is the story: My son (now 22months old) hasn't pooped in his diapers since he's 5 months old. We did Elimination Communication since that age and it went great. He mostly told us when he needed to pee, too, with ups and downs, depending on which growth spurts he was challenged with or which interesting/fun thing/activity was pushing the elimination need in the background. When he was 18 months we had the big breakthrough. No more accidents no more diapers in the night, just absolutely amazing to see his little butt enjoying total freedom :-)
Now, a week ago, he started peeing in his pants. He does that absolutely consciously, he tells me beforehand with this huge grin on his face that he now is going to pee in his pants. :-)
(which tells me he is still aware of it, that's good...)
Right, what have I done so far. I have stayed pretty cool, my intention with the EC was never to get him out of his diapers as soon as possible but rather to add another little puzzle piece of communication to our relationship. It was a very exciting and enjoyable journey (most of the time ;-) Of course the fact, that he was out his diapers was super cool, relieving, this chapter is checked! Sure I was happy.
I have put diapers on him again, now and then I leave them off, but that just means more laundry....... a lot of laundry, pants after pants after pants....
I have reacted sad/disappointed, and then thought, no, this is not what I want, he cannot disappoint me, no matter what.....
I have reacted like it is the most normal thing in the world to take off his wet pants and put on some new ones....lalalala, did you like your lunch pumpkin?
I have bought him Thomas the Train underwear!!!!
Most of the time now I react with humor, oh goodness another puddle of smelly peepee! But fear that this could encourage him to keep going.... the thing is he really doesn't seem to mind being wet at all, I have left his wet pants on for a bit the other day, he will not ask me to take them off....
Oh man, too many thoughts? Shall I just wait and relax? Is this just the beginning of two-year-olds' independence exploration, a phase that will pass? Will he get used to the convenience of diapers? Now, that I just got used to the convenience of no diapers...
What do you guys think? Any ideas? Is there a nice book that could encourage him? It worked with brushing his teeth, I got a book from the library with a crocodile that's rushing its teeth, he now always wants to be the crocodile :-) Oh and the electric toothbrush with the train on it (named Thomas...) has worked wonders, too (We live very close to a train track, so this is a big thing!)
Anyway, I appreciate any input on that matter!