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Cassaundra - posted on 02/20/2009

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Oh god, Mary. Don't beat yourself for having to be induced. Two of my four have been induced and the birth process can still be very natural. I had SUCH an incredibly traumatic first birth because /i had this idea that if I took pain meds I wasn't a natural mom. Please be smarter than me and be kind to yourself. As a pagan, I went through a full set of pregnancy rituals with my second and learned that mediacl intervention doesn't take away your ability to control your birth experience. I have developed Gestational and now type 2 diabetes having my kids. (and with a 10 pound baby you're at very high risk for developing it yourself) I have to have my babies in the hospital and have even had them spend time in the nursery. i still use my chanting and other techniques to helpmyself naturally. But I have also learned that for me, an epidural is a tool to support a more natural birth process. By controlling the pain it allows me to control my labour and it has become empowering for me. Your labour is your own and a beautiful natural process, whether you need a little help or not. It's still a miracle. And hey, 3 kids under 4! YOU are a miracle! You go Mom!

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Jessica - posted on 03/02/2014

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My names Jessy, I'm 25, married to Corey, 30, for 4 years, together for 8, with a bright, energetic, highly sensitive almost 2 year old named Eevie. Im
m into ap, np, cloth diapers, co-sleeping, lactivist, and babywearer!!

Agnes - posted on 11/05/2013

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Hello to all you wonderful mothers! I am a first time mom at 30 to my beautiful boy Hugo Danger. He is now 2 1/2 months old, and I can truly say that being a mother is the most amazing and rewarding experience!

Hugo was born naturally without any medications in India where we lived for the past two years. We just moved back to the US and I feel I made the best decision I could have, to quit my job and stay home with my son!

I love everything about AP and am excited to be able to share your experiences as I don't know any other mom who chooses this way. I am tired of being questioned about our bed sharing and holding of my baby. I exclusively breastfeed, wear him everyday and believe in fully brining him up in a gentle, loving an natural way. Fortunately my dear husband fully agrees with me and is an amazing father.

We had some problems with breastfeeding in the beginning where they had bottle fed my LO in the hospital. He then refused to latch and in order to make him eat I would pump and feed him from the bottle after trying to get him to feed from the breast. It was heart braking and I felt like a failure (plus I personally really hated having to pump) and I know that both me and LO were stressed out. The LC just blamed me, and after each feeding time ending with both me and my LO crying his little heart out I thought I would have to exclusively pump and gave up more or less. But then we took a bath together one day after Hugo had been really upset all day. After the bath he spontaneously turned to my breast and latched on himself! It was the most amazing experience, and really taught me to let him lead and most importantly not stress. I just wanted to share that story which was one of the most rewarding moments leading us to now having put away the bottles and breastfeed exclusively!

Tameka - posted on 09/13/2010

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Hi everyone! I'm Tameka and am currently a SAHM. I have two precious daughters. Charlie my bouncy 4 year old and Mackenzie who is 8 months old.

I am so please that I found this group as many of my family and friends question (sometimes hurtful too...) my parenting style. I know that you all 'get it' and it is nice be on the same page with someone else. I do all parts of AP except co-sleeping. Mackenzie won't have it! lol. Oh well, I love to 'wear' her every where and my arms feel empty without her.

One of the bonuses of AP is when Charlie runs up to me for no reason and gives me a huge cuddle and tells me how much she loves me. I am a firm believer that AP teaches children how to be safe and secure within themselves and my children are a testimony of that!! :D

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Hey everyone I'm Tiffany, a stay at home mom, but I have worked part time in the past as a hairstylist, and have been trying on starting my own home based business. I've been a member for awhile now, but never introduced myself.

I have a 17 month old daughter named Pinxit, and am happily married to my husband Emmanuel. He wasn't sure about the whole AP lifestyle, but went along with it, and has become a huge fan. We plan to have 3 children, and are currently trying to conceive again, and hoping for a home birth.

We co-sleep, I am still breastfeeding, I made almost all of her baby food but when I didn't we bought organic, I am a vegetarian so I am raising Pinxit as one as well. I wore her every chance I got(she's 30lbs, so I rarely wear her anymore - besides, she's too active to want to be worn!), and once we moved out of our loft into a house with a washing machine, we started cloth diapering. We have also decided to not vaccinate - I had a reaction as a child and knew I never wanted that to happen to someone I love.

We have lived in 3 different places in the last year, so I haven't been able to start my garden I want to have, but hopefully with our next move we will find a place a little more permanent, and we can eat our own produce. We have spoken a lot about home schooling, and so long a we can afford to do it, I will be home schooling our children as well.

I think I took to this style of parenting so well because my younger siblings were cloth diapered, and I saw my mother breastfeed them as well. Plus it just all feel so right, and I just don't understand how people think we're 'alternative'... I hate to sound elitist, but I don't think there's a better way to be parented.

Natalie Rose - posted on 09/01/2010

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Hi! My name is Natalie Rose, I have 2 children - Avalon, 20 months, and Raven, 3 months. I amnow a stay at home mom and I my husband is a junior in college. Having my kiddos close together has definitely made attachment parenting more of a challenge, but I wouldn't change it for the world and I certainly feel that is a wonderful way to do things. I look forward to talking to other mommas who feel the same way!!

Lucy - posted on 08/22/2010

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hi im lucy a SAHM my baby is 6months old he was exclusively breastfed up until2wks ago when he pinched my apple and started o munch on it so he is just starting down the blw route and breastfeeding on demand

i wanted a home birth but had to be induced in hospital so had all the drugs going!

we cosleep as a family and wear joshua as often as possible,i too feel totally isolated as i dont know any other people who practice AP so would love to make some friends on here

Rachael - posted on 08/17/2010

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Hi everyone my name is Rachael im 19 will be 20 in november and a SAHM. I have a 6 month old son names Ryder i truly am blessed with such a beautiful family : ) I didnt realise until finding this page there way a name for my parenting style! i thought i was the odd one out most people i know are constantly telling me im making my baby clingy and needy. I had been exclusively breastfeeding until starting solids, and am so happy i am able to, it truly has been the best experiance. My son each night spends the first half in his cot next to my bed and other other half in bed me with. I really love being a mummy i couldnt see my life any other way i am the happiest i have ever been.

I wanted to have a natural birth but half way through my pregnancy found out i will never be able to as a result from a condition i had when i was born that never got fixed properly. so had a caeserean birth. i did get to experiance 8 hours of contractions so i got a bit of a taste of what it would be like!

I have recently started him on solids and have been making all his foods. i have a alot of food allergies and intolerances and a family history of them so im hoping he doesnt have any!

thats about me done, Thanks for this page.!! xx

Raven - posted on 05/14/2010

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welcome to the group!!!!!!!!!! love the profile picture, nice to see another buffy fan

Nikki - posted on 05/13/2010

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Hi,I am Nikki, I am a SAHM with a 6 month old daughter Isobel. I love being mum, there is nothing more rewarding and challenging! I didn't know what attachment parenting was until my health nurse told me I was doing it, I can't imagine doing things any other way. I have had a quick read of some of the posts in this community, it's great to see such wonderful ideas and honest comments for some lovely mums. I look forward to chatting with you all.

Raven - posted on 04/27/2010

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My name is Raven, Im 24 and have an amazing 5 month old baby girl Paige. I just learnt about the term attachment parenting and its nice to know that I wasnt doing something wrong, I have been told that I am way to close to my baby but I think its the best thing for both of us. I dont think I could be happier :) . I also practice co-sleeping and wouldnt have it any other way

Lina - posted on 04/20/2010

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Hi! I'm from Lithuania, Vilnius, thats in Europe. Mother of 1, named Olivija, a fairy of almost 2 years old. Enjoying motherhood at home, gladly, 100% of former sallary here compensated by the government to almost every mom.
AP for me was the choice of my child - she likes co-sleeping, she likes being with parents all day and night, and I believe the way of parenting has greatly contributed to that we are raising a very easy to comunicate with, non fussy at all and smart girl. However, we have reserved view on refusing to vaxinate. but we try to be "green" when it concerns food, active and outdoor way of life etc.
Sorry in advance for my English skils - glad to comunicate, but is of course not my native language, nor the first foreign language at school :)
i am always ready to help you with tips on poty training. rearelly read mesages here, but always check my e.mail: puukaas@gmail.com

Sarah - posted on 04/12/2010

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Hi & nice to meet you all. I am Sarah and I am a single SAHM to my wonderful baby girl, Illusia Willow, who turns one years old on 4/21/10 and she is the light of my life! Illusia and I love to be out in nature and go to the park or zoo or just chill at home and watch cartoons (Garfield and My Little Pony being favorites.)



I have been a vegetarian for nearly 8 years and am raising my daughter that way as well. I also try to feed her mostly natural foods with the occasional treat. I Practice attachment parenting for the most part (I just do what feels right, I don't follow any rules per say) and we co-sleep and I plan on breastfeeding until she is at least 18 months. I am aiming to raise her as a smart, kind, conscious individual.



I personally love poetry, photography, art, animals, all things glittery and being a mommy! Love to make friends with other mommies with similar interests and hope to be able to contribute something positive to this community.

Anne - posted on 04/02/2010

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Hi. My name is AnneMarie and my husband and I have a beautiful 14 month old daughter. She was born while we lived in the USA but then we all moved back to Britain where we are originally from. My little girl is a real character, a whirlwind of fun and trouble all at once. We are looking forward to the time when she will sleep better though as we are quite tired. Both my husband and I are scientists but at the moment I am a stay at home mom. We co-sleep, are APs, eat organic, vegetarian, basically everything that is generally considered wacky! :-)
My baby was born naturally without meds which I am glad about although there was talk of having to do a caesarean because of worry over the continuous foetal monitoring. I regret listening to the staff in hosptial telling me what to do during labour - it resulted in her being without oxygen for much longer than she needed to be. She had very bad colic for the first 3 months of life and I worry about that bad start she had. She is still breastfed but she will only take bottles so I exclusively express. I hope to continue until she is at least 2 yrs and beyond if I think she will benefit from it. My baby loves cars, books, animals, taking the back off electronic devices and removing the batteries, lugging enormous objects around the house, running around like a maniac and getting in to all sorts of things she shouldn't. I hope to meet like minded, caring and unconventional people. I don't feel like there are many people I can talk to about parenting issues because the responses I tend to get are always things I know will not work and I don't agree with (eg CIO). I am tired of people assuming that one size fits all and that my little girl will conform to their generic placid baby model. I welcome open minded help and advice and for this I joined the AP community. Look forward to chatting to you all.

Amanda - posted on 03/09/2010

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Hi ! I am Amanda, I am 40 and a SAHM and married to the man of my dreams. My son Benji is 8 months old. We apply attachment parenting principles in our parenting style, and we are also plan on incorporating Alfi Kohn's "Unconditional Parenting" strategies as he gets older.

Benji was exclusively breatsfed until he started solids at 6 months, and is still nursing and we plan on extended breastfeeding. We co-sleep and babywear, but now that Benji is crawling he is sometimes, more interested in moving about on his own, however he still spends a good deal of time in arms.

We respect the needs of our son and are responsive to them, I am verey opposed to the CIO practices and "sleep training." Benjamin is intact and we avoid medical intervention as much as possible.

Mayra - posted on 02/23/2010

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My name is Mayra and I am a WAHM. We've been using Co-sleeper with our first baby girl, Elizabeth. I'm 21, and I feel that motherhood is a beautiful gift. My little baby is an angel! She has been amazing from day one. :)

Leighanna - posted on 02/21/2010

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Hi I'm Leighanna, I'm a sahm to Saffiya, she's 13 months old. We have enjoyed babywearing, although she's walking now and far too independent to let mummy hold her. We co-sleep and my life is very much baby led, I am against CIO and all the other harsh techniques the professionals seem to want us to practice. She's a very happy child, confident and loving so I know I must be doing the right thing despite the criticisms. I look forward to chatting with you ladies x

Caroline - posted on 01/18/2010

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Hi my name is Caroline, Im a 34 yr olld SAHM. My Children are Trenton 12, Steven Hiroshi and Rylan whom we call Louie. We call him that because he looks like a little Louie. We like to read play games and explore. I hope to chat with and meet some moms out there that share the same values and ideas even if they are different I think diversity can be good thing!

Noreen - posted on 01/14/2010

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Hey!! I'm Noreen and I am a stay at home momma to Kaleb 5, Noah 3.5, and Abagail (Abby) almost 4 months. I am also the wife to my wonderufl husband, Ronnie and have been for 5.5yrs. I have breastfed all of my babies and I am still breastfeeding Abby and plan to for atleast 18months. I only breastfed Kaleb for3-4months but made it to my long term goal w/Noah, 12 months! I have co-slept/sleep with all of them and babywore/wear all of them and practice natural parenting and cloth diapering. I am against CIO and other "standard" ways of parenting for the most part. It just doesn't work for us! :O)

Nicole - posted on 01/13/2010

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Hello everyone! My name is Nicole and I'm a navy wife to a man named Danny. We have been married for 6 1/2 years and have two beautiful boys. My oldest son Andrew is 4 and my youngest is going to be a year on the 28th ahh!!! ;( I gave natural birth to Mason and practiced breastfeeding, co sleeping, baby wearing, natural practices and cloth diaper! I love being a stay at home mom and I'm currently making the switch to organic foods and environmentally friendly cleaners. Can't wait to get to know you ladies!

Vicki - posted on 12/14/2009

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I'm Vicki, my baby boy Aneirin is 5 months old. We planned a homebirth but had to transfer and had vacuum extraction in the end. We're happily boobing, co-sleeping, baby wearing and enjoying baby life. I posted a few times on the main board for babies this age but somehow I don't think I'll fit in there.

Pre-baby I worked for the ambulance service here as a comms officer, plan to go back when A is one.

Veronica - posted on 11/21/2009

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Hi, I'm Veronica. I had my beautiful little boy on August 18. We planned a home birth but things didn't go as planned and I ended up having a c-section. Oh well. Motherhood has been awesome and transformational. We co-sleep and I breast feed. I am a Social Worker (MSW) and provide parenting classes to low income families so attachment parenting is right up my alley. I just went back to work on Wednesday, I work three days in the office and two days at home. Mikhail will be in daycare twice a week (my aunt owns a childcare center) and my husband will care for him once a week. I will be pumping my milk when I am at work. I had been dreading my return to work for months. So I have been planning, scheduling and doing everything possible to make the transition as smooth as possible for both of us. Thursday was my first day back at the office and Mikhail's first full day in childcare. Dropping him off was really tough for me but he did well initially. He didn't start to cry until late in the afternoon. I think it finally hit him that I wasn't around and he started to miss me. It wasn't too bad since he was familiar with the staff they were able to soothe him. I started transitioning him about three weeks prior to me starting work. I would take him to the center everyday for a couple of hours at first and gradually increased the time so that he could get familiar with the space, sounds and people. I think it helped him but I was still a mess. But since Thursday I have noticed that Mikhail has been a little fussier, wants to be held more, he's a little clingy with me and needs me to lay with him while he naps. If this is what he needs this is what I have been giving him. So this is where we are at right now

Jessica - posted on 10/28/2009

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Hi my name is Jess and my husband and i recently welcomed our first born son Ethan into this world with a great home birth! I always knew this is the way i would parent, as my parents did for me(my husband and his parents , not the same). Didn't realise it was AP, just the way i thought it was supposed to be.Very glad my husband agrees with AP, even when he grew up knowing mostly about CIO and 4hourly feeding etc

Glad to have joined this group to speak with like minded people

Andrea - posted on 10/26/2009

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Can I join this group? I have 4.5 year old twin boys and I am a SAHM. We decided this was the best since I found out I was PG with 2 babies. I never knew the parenting style I practiced had a name. I found an AP group for multiples when my babies were 7 months old. I have been going strong ever since. The reason I want to join here is that on the other group I am one of the moms with older kids and nobody can give me advice on older kids not babies anymore. I hope to find some moms here that can lend a helping advice. I had a vaginal birth and as much I could have a medication free birth I didn't know I could refuse the epidural but I did as long as they allowed me to the last hours of my labor. Unfortunately they were premature but I was at the hospital all day and pumped milk all night to be ready for when they were ready to nurse. Lots of bumps with nursing but we made it longer than I expected to nurse.

I struggled as I had PPD but with my husband we always managed to respond to the babies' needs, and of course mine too. I wasn't functioning fully well in the first year due to severe sleep deprivation and my kids still don't sleep through the night but I would never change the way I want to parent even if I miss the mark sometimes.

I have a few questions about older little people like mine, about that ever recurring sleep saga, without involving crying. I am happy to say that my night time parenting is pretty much on target, day time could always improve and I believe it will once I get more sleep. Until then I strive to be as good as I can be, knowing that I am not perfect and there is always room for improvement so I won't get complacent about where we are now.

I coslept with my babies until they turned 2, and after that my husband or I stayed in there room, which suited us because he sores and I couldn't sleep with him anyway ;0).

Now that they are older we are experimenting with yet another arrangement (we do that a lot as they get older and things change all the time). I nursed exclusively until 7 months and extended nursing until they weaned. My goal was 2 years, but one self weaned at 18 months. The other needed a bit help at 28 months because it wasn't working for either of us - I can describe what that looked like if anyone is interested.

I used different baby carriers and carried both until I couldn't manage the weight any longer, around 9 months. After that I carried one at a time, and had the sling with me where ever we went. I made reversible mei-teis for both of us so my husband could carry a baby too. I still carry someone if they need to but the weight is starting to limit that again.

I plan to home school, I am doing some research about that but my kids are in JK part time 2 or 3 days a week this year to try it out and to give me some break I never had and I catch up on sleep when they are not at home. This is the first time they are out of my sight for several hours in a row which we are trying to get used to and they are doing well, probably better than I LOL. I am lucky to have a husband who can work from home and he helps a lot but I still am solely responsible for the kid stuff and he is responsible for bringing home the bacon. We try to remember that although we both have a role we can be flexible and help each other but other than that I never had any external help. Hopefully we can go on vacation next year with 2 little kids that we could never do comfortably with the demands they placed on us. I am still ttc and hope to have at least one more baby if I get lucky enough and will continue with AP for as long as I live. I have been called crazy for ttc after twins and for practicing AP and breastfeeding 2 at a time but, oh well, this is what we imagined when we decided to have kids anyway, it isn't their fault that they arrived at the same time and both need me equally. I don't feel I have to report or answer to anyone who doesn't agree with our parenting.

Timna - posted on 10/18/2009

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Hi all! My name is Timna. I'm mostly a SAHM, but I recently was recruited to be a breastfeeding peer counselor, which is mostly from home. I have 2 daughters. Aurelia is 2, water birth, & still breastfeeding. Serafina is 6 months old, also natural birth, but I got out of the tub for the final pushes. We have a family bed, but we're having a hard time helping Aurelia adjust to our larger family. She feels quite rejected when Sera takes my focus. I'm hoping to learn a lot from you all, and get advice from some like-minded mommies.

Jenne - posted on 08/07/2009

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I'm Jenne, a stay at home mom to a 2.5 yr old boy and a 2 mo old girl. His birth was traumatic in a hospital, hers was a triumphant and relaxing unassisted birth. My husband is a graduate student, I completed my Masters last year. We cloth diaper and bed share. I'm tandem nursing both children. Because my son's birth made me aware of birth trauma, I know am a co-organizer of the non-profit Solace for Mothers (www.solaceformothers.org).

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Hi Everyone. I'm Michelle and we have an 11-month old darling, Madeline. My husband and I both work, although I work reduced hours and Madeline goes to an amazing, AP-philosophy daycare a couple days a week. It's been beautiful to watch her create such a strong, loving bond with another adult beyond just my husband and I.

I suppose we practice AP, but I really think we do what feels natural. Breastfeeding, co-sleeping and so on. I do what is best for Madeline - even when that means co-sleeping when she was content with that, and now her crib in our room since she sleeps and is happier there, saying No to "danger" or "dirty", or giving her vaccines due to the long-term health benefits. I firmly believe in "to each their own" when it comes to parenting, but I also follow the benefits of sanity - keeping your head (or tending to the garden of your mind) is important as a role model for your child and as a caretaker in her life. Whatever your choices, make the one that is right for you and believe in yourself! I just ignore the nay-sayers. Our happy children are the result of making the choices that are right for us!

Dana - posted on 07/06/2009

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Hello Ladies!! My name is Dana, my husband and I have a 11 month old. His name is Ethanael, although we call him Ethan. I'm in my early 30's and hope to have at least one more. I have a condition, bicornuate uterus, so my son was breech and 6 wks early. He stayed at Cleveland's Rainbows and babies for 2 wks but we got to room in with him. We had a rough go with breastfeeding but I pumped like a mad woman and finally got him to latch on at one month. I would have loved to have a vaginal birth but had an emergency c-section after going to 6 cm with no meds. So I did get to experience a little bit of labor. Luckily no one has ever given me any grief over a c-section, which is good b/c recovery sucks! After I had him I was so sick from the spinal,I spent 5 minutes trying to get into the wheel chair and an hour sitting in it and crying b/c I couldn't even imagine wheeling across the hospital to see him in the NICU. Luckily, I had them remove the epidural and was able to see him about 4 hrs after I had him. So between that, the fact that he couldn't latch on and that it hurts like hell to hold your baby with a incision across your lower abdomen, I wouldn't have it any other way as far as attachment parenting and co-sleeping

Geralyn - posted on 05/10/2009

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Quoting Karin:

Hi, i'm Karin, and i have one daughter, River, who's 15 months. Her birth was supposed to be natural, but despite a very supportive midwife, i ended up hooked up a billion monitors and drips because of some heart rate fluctuations, and it certainly didn't feel natural or empowering at all. Next time i would really rather have a home birth. i'm a big fan of co-sleeping, baby-wearing, instinctive parenting, and ecological nursing. Sometimes it's a very hard job to be a conscious parent and do what you feel is right in spite of all the counter-intuitive and often downright cruel advice you get from others, but the payoff is worth it. i really love to tell this story: when my sister-in-law had her baby 6 weeks before mine, she told me she really wanted her son to be independent, and if i was smart, i would make sure not to hold my daughter too much, beacuse she would "start to like it". As if that's a bad thing!! Well, her son now is very clingy and insecure in public, while my daughter (who i held ALL the time, and still do) is very outgoing and rarely needs reassurance when she's around other people/kids. It reminds me of what Dr. Sears says: a need that is fulfilled goes away - but a need that is ignored turns into something else. Anyhow, always glad to be meeting like-minded moms!



Karin, I so appreciated hearing your story!  Too funny!  Its so true what you said.  My son is so comfortable exploring and behing held and interacting with others, and I'll watch him...  He will look back at me, as if to check in momentarily, and then continue his play and interaction.   People will ask if they can hold him, and they seem a little tentative as though he may start to cry (like some children do when its anyone but mom or dad).  He always goes into their arms comfortably, but then when he's done, he reaches for me.  I am so proud of him.  Its just as Dr. Sears described it.... 

Geralyn - posted on 05/10/2009

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Lucienne, thank you for the article! While I do like Dr. Sears' books, its true what the article says, that many times, the "attachment parenting" books do not give you guidance on how to respond in many situations. Have you come across any books that would provide any guidance, including for children over the age of 2? After reading Dr. Sears' books, I am definitely needing more information!



AP not only has made a wonderful bond between me and my son, but my husband and my son have this incredible bond that is so fun to watch. My husband who is typically skeptical about things is a HUGE believer in AP, and he works hard at it.



It would be great to continue to share articles, books, resources that would assist us all in outting into practice AP. I agree with Lucienne that people need to become aware of the benefits of AP. It would also be great to share applications of and experiences with the AP priniciples, which is what I am hoping to do through this group. Its one thing to read about it, its another thing to practice it and hopefully perfect it....



Its funny because I was at a party this evening with my 13 month old. He was pretty much the only child there, for obvious reasons that most of the parents wanted a free night from their little ones (nothing wrong with that!) and the location of the party was not conducive to having little ones running around. It was not an evironment where many children would have done well. Everyone was commenting on his easy-going nature, and happy nature. While they were quick to conclude that it was "nature," my hubby and I realize that while nature has helped in creating this wonderfully adjusted child, the nurture part (AP) has contributed immensely.

Lucienne - posted on 05/08/2009

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Hi everyone

Im Lucienne, my partner Josh and I have a beautiful little chap named Elijah Phoenix, he's our first and I will tentatively say last (pregnancy did not agree with me at all). He was born by ceasar and boy have I been scorned for that, but I did what was necessary.

Josh and I have made the interesting change from surfing, snowboarding and partying around the world to hanging out with Mr Baby, and i do not miss ANY of it... being a mother is the best thing in the universe.

My rad mother raised me using AP and I just thought thats what you did! I was so suprised/shocked to find out that my friends where weaning their babies and sleeping in seperate rooms from them and so on that I did a search and discovered AP



Our baby has allllways been right next to me, since day one and I have to really hand it to Amie for starting this amazing group its just SO important for people to become aware of attachment parenting and see the benefits. If anyone is interested in some light reading i can recommend a paper called "The Science of Attachment:The Biological Roots of Love" by Lauren Lindsay Porter. I found it on an Australian website here is the link to the paper - http://npsydney.com.au/node/413



So yeah, enough babble! Im so happy to be in this group and I hope to meet some other amazing mothers to chat too!!!

Geralyn - posted on 04/30/2009

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Hi everyone. My name is Geralyn, and we have a liitle boy, Noah, who just turned one. He's our first. He truly is a miracle after IVF, and from Day 1, we have cuddled, and hugged, and kissed him. We are big believers in AP and in co-sleeping. Noah has also exclusively been breastfed, which has been the most incredible experience for us (after a painful start - I am so much better prepared for No. 2, if we are so blessed....). Noah is the love of my life (besides my hubby, of course). Every day, we see the benefits of AP with my son - while part of it is nature, the other part, nuture, has played a big role. Like the other posters, AP came naturally to us and totally fit with our beliefs on child-rearing.



Funny thing... I was just watching "Meet the Fockers" with the scene where Dustin Hoffman's and Barbara Streisand's characters were talking about how they raised their son (AP and co-sleeping), but they described it as being "Fockerized." Very cute.... Apparently, my son has been Fockerized....

Tiffany - posted on 04/04/2009

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Hi my name is Tiffany and i have one son age 2 named jaden. he's really smart for his age and knows over a hundred words.

Maybe you can explain to me what this co-sleeping and attachment parenting is?

Karin - posted on 03/13/2009

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Hi, i'm Karin, and i have one daughter, River, who's 15 months. Her birth was supposed to be natural, but despite a very supportive midwife, i ended up hooked up a billion monitors and drips because of some heart rate fluctuations, and it certainly didn't feel natural or empowering at all. Next time i would really rather have a home birth. i'm a big fan of co-sleeping, baby-wearing, instinctive parenting, and ecological nursing. Sometimes it's a very hard job to be a conscious parent and do what you feel is right in spite of all the counter-intuitive and often downright cruel advice you get from others, but the payoff is worth it. i really love to tell this story: when my sister-in-law had her baby 6 weeks before mine, she told me she really wanted her son to be independent, and if i was smart, i would make sure not to hold my daughter too much, beacuse she would "start to like it". As if that's a bad thing!! Well, her son now is very clingy and insecure in public, while my daughter (who i held ALL the time, and still do) is very outgoing and rarely needs reassurance when she's around other people/kids. It reminds me of what Dr. Sears says: a need that is fulfilled goes away - but a need that is ignored turns into something else. Anyhow, always glad to be meeting like-minded moms!

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I just caught my own typo!!! My son was about 1 1/2 wanna he said he wanted to walk!! I am also going through a split away from my sons father!!



 

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Hi...I am Michelle. A SAHM for the most part. I am full time college student working on my masters in Physical Therapy. I have practiced attachment parenting from the start. I wore my son proudly til he was 2 1/2 and he told me "mommy no more, I wanna walk". We breast fed til about 2 when he then weened himself. He is almost 4 now and still co-sleeps with me. I am recently a single mama....

Amie - posted on 02/23/2009

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I, too, have had a hospital birth with our oldest (now 3) and was in back labor for 48 hours before I finally caved and got an epidural. Let me tell you, it was HEAVEN! In the 20 minutes following my epidural, I went from 5 cm to fully dilated, the doctor cancelled the pitocin order, and I got a short (but much needed) nap. 22 minutes after that, my beautiful baby girl was born, and I was SOOO in love. Giving birth is an amazing experience, medical intervention is a wonderful tool when needed, and natural birth or not all mom's are amazing.

That said, the reason I talk so much more about my home birth is that it was an INCREDIBLY empowering experience, in SO many ways. For me.

I don't want anyone to feel that they are less of a woman for not giving birth the way I did - just as I would expect that no one here would accuse me of being less of a mother for choosing to birth outside of a hospital.

I'm very glad to hear that you have had some good experiences. But ultimately, the birthing is not the important part....its the mothering. And I think we are all wonderful mothers ;).

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Hi, I'm Marie and a SAHM moostly. I have a 7 month old boy, Bodhi. I gave birth to Bodhi in a hospital setting with the help of an awesome midwifeand doula. I was initially hesitant about a hospital birth, but ended up having an amazing experience thanks to both and the hospital staff. I gave birth naturally without medication and never once laid on my back to do so.

Bodhi has slept with my husband and I since day 1. I wear or hold my baby frequently and when he plays on the floor, I am right there with him either engaging him or sitting back "in the shadow" so he feels safe to explore. I am a physical therapist and very much into infant development and have been enjoying watching my son learn about gravity, space, and his Self.

I have recently been reading a book on attachment theory, and am discovering that my husband and I have already chosen to raise our son with those ideas in mind.

I am very thankful for this group/community and feel we have similar ideals for raising strong, independent, and compassionate children.

Brenda - posted on 02/22/2009

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I used to pass out from needles but I honestly didn't see the epi needle.  It also just really felt like a pinprick...and was nothing compared to the incredible amount of pain I was in.  The worst part was sitting there through three hard contractions while they put it in!!  (Dumb back labor....and pitocin)

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It's funny you two bring that up.  Immediately after my second was born I comforted myself thinking that the next time I was going to have the epidural.  But then the time came and it was my third. (I thought these things were going to get easier!)  And when it was not easier really at all I have begun telling others that even though I had three without pain meds I have no idea why I did that (other than bragging rights - but even those did not make it feel better) and I do not recommend it.  I am going to SERIOUSLY consider an epidural with the next one.  Or maybe I'll try to travel to a birthing center or some place that has more natural options for pain regulation (they wouldn't even let me take a shower at the hospital - or eat anything since I was on the pit).  Of course, the epidural is a big scary needle. . .maybe if I made sure not to look at it or think about where they are sticking it (cause that gives me the willies - hehe).

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Cassaundra: Thank you so much for your comments about induction. (I had pre eclampsia and am at high risk of develping it again)  I did the same thing.  I really beat myself up for a while because I had to be induced and as a result I had horrible labor pain from the pitocin that I could not manage without pain meds/epidural.  After 16 hours of constant increasing pitocin I relented and took Stadol and also an Epidural.  I've tried to tell other first time moms this, and always get overrode by natural moms that go on an on about how medical intervention is horrible and pain meds are the worst thing ever, as if my experience makes me less of a mom because I couldn't handle it.  It took me a while to come to the same conclusions you have, that its okay.  I did what I had to, and in my opinion, my pain management allowed me to give birth without a csection.  (and its always nice to run into pagan mommies) ;)

Mary - posted on 02/20/2009

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Oh, I get it, SAHM is Stay At Home Mom, isn't it?  Do I win a prize for figuring that out all on my own? :)  I guess I am one of those, then, too.



Hello, I'm Mary.  I have a 3.5 yr old, a 2 yr old, and a 6-month-old.  I have been an attachment parent by instinct the whole time - I found out what to call it somewhere along the line.  I love wearing my kids in slings but my kids are BIG kids (my 6-month-old already weighs 25lbs) so it is just not practical to do it as much as I would like.  I'm glad I stumbled upon this group.  I highly dislike the cry-it-out method (although I have tried it in desperation) and sleep trainers.  Dr. Sears is probably my most trusted resource, other than La Leche League.  Lately I have been getting a bunch of difficult suggestions from "concerned parties" and it is nice to come read the conversations here and get refreshed. 



Oh as for home-births - I bet those were amazing.  I have always wanted to try that but there is not much support for it where I live.  I was very disappointed with all my births so far.  They gave me pitocin with my first to speed up the labor - ouch!  I did not have any pain killers.  Then my second baby had to be induced at two weeks past my due date (and came out at 10lbs) - once again lots of pit and no pain med.  I was just sure my third would be easier but I had to be induced AGAIN - this time at only one week overdue but my third came out at 10lbs 15oz!  My husband and I want to have more. . . my ob says if we do he will probably induce me a couple weeks early.  I guess I'll probably never get to see those wonderful natural labors that other women have.  Woe is me - heh.

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hi my name is karen and im a sahm, i have two boys victor and charlie and both my births were natural with limited medical intervention altough due to health reasons i couldn't have them at home. im a full time babywearer to charlie (dont own a pram for him yet) and we co-sleep also, we also do abit of ec'ing with charlie, my breast feeding story is long as i have IGT but we are still going and id like to go untill he self weans, we also use cloth nappies :) mostly wonderoo's

i am fom london, engand

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Hi,Im Caroline, mother of three boys..I have used cosleeping with all three boys my oldest son moved out of bed when he was 5 (hes now 11). I have two inn bed with me now and still nursing one. Im a sahm looking for friends in similar situations.

Brenda - posted on 01/21/2009

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Welcome, Lisa!  It is a hard road some days, but I think we all know it is better for our children.  :)  And that is all that matters!

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I am Lisa, also an SAHM. My son is about 5 months, and a generally very happy boy!  My husband have just been following our hearts when it comes to how to raise Keegan.  We had never heard of attachment parenting, but we easily fall into that category.  I cannot stand the idea of doing anything that makes my little guy sad or feel abandonned. He does not have to be independant at 5 months!  I get a lot of opposition and even judgements when it comes to the way I am parenting.  It is SOOOO nice to connect with other women doing the same!!

Brenda - posted on 01/14/2009

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Thanks.  :)  Yeah, this are starting to work out.  I just have been a litle more forceful with the husband lately....lol

Cassaundra - posted on 01/14/2009

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poor brenda, it's tough when you're surrounded by fools who think their opinion is more important than you, the Mom!



If you feel strongly, you can put your foot down and tell your hubby the uncle has to go. Kids come first! and you know best!



nice picture by the way, you look cute pregnant!

Brenda - posted on 01/14/2009

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Hi there, my name's Brenda, and we have one son who is 3 1/2, who still co sleeps with us.  He was enjoying his own bed for a while, but his uncle had to move in with us about six months ago, so he's back to cuddling me at night.  We're expecting our second son in May.  As much as I'd like to go natural I'm prepared for not, last time I had pre eclampsia and had to be induced, so I definately had drugs.  We'll see how it goes this time, I'm hoping just not to be induced at least.  I'm currently having issues because my brother in law that is living with us is decidely not of the same mind as I am of how to treat children, so it has been a challenge adjusting to him being around.

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