Working mommies? Stay at home? or work from home?

Taralee - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Do any of you work from home? Or are domestic engineers :) ? What do you find are the pros and cons of being any of these and an AP Parent.

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Minnie - posted on 06/11/2011

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I am currently looking for a part time job. My youngest is a little past 2 1/2. I would not have considered it prior to now, and I'll only be working in the evenings or weekends, when Dad can watch her and her sister at home, where they feel most comfortable. We've stretched the time that I have stayed home for as long as possible.



I don't like the idea of being away from my nursling for a few hours, because she won't have on-demand access to her boobage, but we have to, because Sallie Mae is killing us, and I really have a huge desire to get my RN and IBCLC. I know she can handle it. It'll be a bit stressful for a while, I'm sure, but at least she can go to her father for comfort.



And I have no clue what to do when Matt goes on his business trips. I have an AP mom who offered to be a back-up sitter (and for free!) when he's away, but he'll be away for nearly a month in August, and they'll have to go to her house. Maybe the job won't work out then....

Kim - posted on 05/04/2010

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I am a work at home mommie...at first I would just do my work while the little one was sleeping (usually in a sling or moby with me) because in the early days he did tons of it. He continued to take 2 naps per day until he was 14 mons old. After he dropped one of the naps it was close to impossible to get all of my work done. So now I have a nanny that comes in to play with him for 2 hours in the afternoon. I am available to nurse during that time and he actually is really excited to have Meggie come play.

I would say that I am absolutely grateful that I work from home so that I can AP. I would say that the only con is less important things just don't get done or are put on the back burner for a rainy day. Lil man is most important and his needs take most my time. Oh and my CIO friends kids sleep longer at night than my little guy which I am a bit envious of but still think AP is the way to go. In the long run I truly believe my little one will be better off! There are so many pros but to name a few...my little guy is very mild tempered, loving, sweet and self confident. I really think AP helps babies have an easier transition from womb to the outside world and thus less trama.

Geralyn - posted on 05/04/2010

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I stayed at home for about 4 months, but then went back to work. I have worked out of my home for the last 20 months. During the months that I have worked, my hubby has been a SAHD. I was able to breastfeed on demand for 19 months, and I was able to have significant contact with my son during these months - the benefits of at least being at home. The con was that my mind was elsewhere when deadlines and other stressors arose, which is NOT conducive to AP. You have to be present in the moment - your mind cannot be wandering to things that you need to do or should have done.



I am getting ready - with the pending birth of our daughter in August - to take several years off to be a SAHM. I am so looking forward to it....



AP does require a significant amount of time - and I was grateful that my hubby could be there for our son... It helped to create such a wonderful bond between them.

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Erica - posted on 11/30/2011

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I personally am a working mommy, though I also am working from home in the evenings am and hoping to be able to work full-time from home by this time next year.

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Stacey - posted on 11/07/2011

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I love it to. plus we just earned a car and 85% of my car insurance paid by mary kay too. We also get 50% off all our products and holiday gifts. I wouldn't change a thing

Stacey - posted on 10/31/2011

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Prior to Mary Kay I was Director of Medical Surgical Services at a Regional Health System. Lots of hours. I desparately wanted to work from home. Decided to give MK a try, not sure what to expect. 3 kids at home. Currently Ive earned the use of a MK career car, 85% of my car insurance paid. I work from home, I have an office assistant that helps manage. Love my life. For today only this amazing offer is available to you for only $75. You get $455 in full size retail products that you can use for yourself or use to make a little extra money. You Choose!! Mk gives Choices

Amy - posted on 07/31/2011

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SO whare are these legit work at home mom jobs? I am sure others want to know as well!

Charity - posted on 06/20/2011

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I work from home and love it. No daycare, or gas being used. I work with Melaleuca. so I dont have to sell anything. Its great. I have much healthier products in my home and also i make a great income to support my four small children.

Amber - posted on 06/11/2011

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I work from home, as a biology professor and an IBO through a company called Ameriplan. I work part-time at the local community college teaching biology, but I only work about 20 hours per week on average. This wasn't giving me enough income so I was frantically searching for another online opportunity. I finally found Ameriplan, and now I have a supplement to my and my husband's incomes and I am able to be a stay at home mom. Of course, since this has been my lifesaver, I am always interested in showing it to other moms! We are hiring right now, and I am a recruiter/ interviewer for them so if anyone is interested, message me on here!

Katherine - posted on 05/08/2010

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It's work either way. I love being home with the girls, but I also like to have my respite. I call work my respite lol. I just started a new job and the hours are afternoon, so far so good :)

Geralyn - posted on 05/05/2010

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I think the helper is the best thing to do, because as you say, the alternative is not being able to be at home. Its a challenge, and takes a team effort with lotsa balancing, but its worth it. My hubby recently took a job, and I am winding up my work to be at home but it will take several months. I have a helper coming in who totally embraces AP. She is wonderful and trustworthy. She is really bonding with my son. There are helpers out there who would embrace AP, which to me is very important.

Anne - posted on 05/05/2010

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I work from home and it is difficult to balance it with AP parenting but as you say the alternative is not being able to stay at home at all. My mom and husband help me out with the running of the house, my mom watches her for part of the night and my husband plays with her for an hour in the morning. That is so that I can have time to express milk, catch a few hours sleep and be able to do computer work at night when my baby is asleep. I find it's the only time I can do it because the rest of the day my baby wants me for things and I'd feel too guilty to concentrate if I didn't go to her. I think a helper is a good solution. Even if your child isn't happy being looked after by someone else for a few hours then you could perhaps get someone to at least do all the housework so that might free up some of your time.

Taralee - posted on 05/05/2010

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Thanks so much ladies! So far I have been able to do evening appointments and have hubbie take care of her; that covers one job. But my other job is writing and I am having a terrible time meeting deadlines. Yet I will not sacrifice very precious time with my daughter to get it done. Plus, to be honest, it is hard to be creative when a baby is asking for your time, and you want to be with them. Just having a hard time balancing it all. The irony is that these professions help me pay bills and yet stay home with my girl. Perhaps a mommy's helper for a few hours a day? Or even every other day?

Vicki - posted on 05/04/2010

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I am on maternity leave until my boy is 18 months, then I will go back part time. Originally it was 12 months, but we're doing ok financially so I extended. I work for the ambulance service doing 12 hour shifts so it's a different situation than coming from office working. He'll be too young at 12 months to be apart from me for that length of time. I'm still nervous about it at 18 months!

I'll be doing one day (7am-7pm) and one night (7pm-7am) a week when I go back. I'm assuming he'll be more reliant on solids by then. If he's still having lots of boob I'll have to learn to express.... haven't done it yet!

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