Worst Stuff You've Seen?

Brenda - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 49 moms have responded )

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So out of all the horrid things we've seen, what is the worst?



I think one of the worst thing I've seen was a woman who was talking about a friend with a baby girl. The girl had a dirty diaper, and the friend took the diaper off and put on a fresh one without wiping the little girl. She was like seven months I think, if I remember right. When the woman asks her friend, well aren't you going to wipe the poop off of her before you put a new diaper on, the friend responds, "Of course not, that's what baths are for."



Of course, this is besides our recent discussions. I think we all agree that spraying your kid in the face with a water bottle, tossing a tantruming toddler into a cold shower, and whipping a kid with plumbing supplies are all top of the list right now. And putting sugar in food just to get your toddler to eat....wow, so much BAD advice....

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Brenda - posted on 05/31/2010

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OMG Katherine, i would die. Principles and teachers are mandatory reporters, no matter what state you are in! That child should have been hotlined then and there. you're friend and the school can become liable for any future injury to the child if it becomes known an abusive situation was not reported. Please, for the child's sake, tell your friend to make an anonymous tip if she has to. They will keep the name confidential and no one will know it was her. This is why school employees are mandatory reporters: we cannot ignore things like this. As a matter of fact, as counselors, even though what kids say are in "confidence" we MUST report if the child indicates (does not even have to come out and say it, the counselor just has to feel like it might be happening) that someone might be hurting them, they might hurt someone, or they might hurt themselves. I would seriously tell your friend to consider how much trouble she could get into, and the whole school, if it ever come to light that the even was not reported. DFS may not do anything, but it is important to get it on record that it was reported. Schools have lost funding and support over less.

Geralyn - posted on 05/30/2010

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katherine, its not at the Principal's discretion. Your friend is a mandatory reporter. So is the Principal. How could he assume that its the first time it happened? I am sure that the first time most likely happened long before middle school - you don't just become an abuser when your kid is 13....

Katherine - posted on 05/29/2010

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Not my story, but a friend of mine is a first year teacher. She has to call a parent in for a conference. The mom is nice, polite, and very cooperative. After they are done talking, mom turns around, throws her son into a concrete wall, and proceeds to punch him in the head and stomach, then turns and walks out. When my friend reported it to the principal, he told her they wouldn't be reporting it because it was the mom's first time ever doing that. My friend teaches middle school.

Noreen - posted on 05/26/2010

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I can't read half these post! Expecially the tube feeding one.

The worst thing I have seen/experienced is smoking in the car with small children or babies in the car. My mom and step dad smoked while growing up. My step dad was a bad chain smoker! He wouldn't even crack the window while smoking in the car. To think about it, I can feel the burn in my chest and throat from the 2nd hand smoke. Now, I suffer from asthma and can't exercise without taking an inhaler 30minutes before. That is child abuse in my eyes!

Anothers that I've just seen are belt spankings, CIO, and one of the worst, I've seen a 6month old baby forward facing!!!!!!! WTH!

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Oh God, this stuff is terrible! How could a mother ever let someone do that to the baby she had carried for nine months close to her heart, and raised for 4 years?! Something severe should be done to these people.

Geralyn - posted on 05/25/2010

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Its very sad. There is something wrong with our legal system when it comes to family law custody and visitation. There is such a heavy presumption that a "relationship" with both parents is in the best interest of the child to protect parents and children - but it is a flawed presumption because it is based on the belief that both parents can equally contribute to the development and upbringing of the child. HOWEVER, the presumption doesn't work in situations like Ethan's. He was tortured, too, like the other little boy, at the hands of an abusive boyfriend. And the mother let it happen. Then they have the gall to try to hide what they did to him. Ethan's last days on earth must have been frightening and agonizing... he died alone... away from his father. Its just not right.

Nikki - posted on 05/25/2010

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I just recently read about the Ethan Stacy story it made me sick to my stomache I couldnt stop crying looking at his pictures, such an innocent little boy who should have been able to grow up and enjoy life... wtf is wrong with people... I feel so sorry for his father

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Oh my God! That video just made me cry, I couldn't finish watching it! We mostly take our 10 1/2 mth old with us everywhere. I'm afraid to even leave her with my inlaws because they like the CIO method. The worst things I've seen aren't as bad as all that, just people telling me that I should just let my daughter cry. Some of our friends (without kids) tell me I should lay my baby down on a bed, by herself, to go to sleep! I pray they never have children...

Nikki - posted on 05/24/2010

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Ive seen alot of things

1) 2 years ago on Mothers day we went to buy flowers for my mom and the parking lot is shared by the Liquor store, a woman parks beside us and we were just standing by our car and she asks us if we could watch her newborn baby while she runs into the liquour store quickly.... ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!! Im a complete and total stranger who knows what could have happened , because she needs alcohol. I was in complete disbelief. I agreed to watch her daughter in fear she would ask someone else.

2) cereal in a bottle at 3 weeks because they cant handle a baby who needs to eat every 3 hours and wont sleep through the night.... WOW why are you a mom. The poor babies digestive system, so young.

3) crying babies who`s parents just leave them to cry , I just wanna pick them up and soothe them


On another note... I had PICA, Im thallassemic ( iron deificient, but i cannot take iron pills because my body cannot process iron in that strong of a dosage, so i have to eat high iron foods, during my pregnancy. I craved and consumed ICE, i would buy a bag from the corner store every two days and just sit there chewing on it, drove my husband nuts but without it i was miserable. I also craved the smeill of new tennis balls and permamnent markers, that I have no idea why, don`t worry i didnt take up the marker sniffing, but tennis balls have filled my house , my dog was very pleased

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Geralyn - posted on 04/16/2010

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Brenda, I just saw that story and posted about it. I think that the punishment needs to fit the crime - he should be tortured just short of death but made to live out his years in prison with no parole.

Brenda - posted on 04/16/2010

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Terrible. My husband tried to read the news on his break (on his phone) and headline on CNN was a man who beat his girlfriend's four year old so bad he died. She tried to get between her son and him and he beat her pretty bad too. The reason? He wet his pants.

Jessi - posted on 04/16/2010

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what a sad sad bunch of stories! poor babies!!! people around here think its WEIRD and UNNORMAL for me to be parenting the way i am. it came natural to me-hadn’t even heard of attachment parenting before i came on circle of moms and it was cross referenced to make a point. i was like.. hmm whats that?! anyway..

worse things I’ve seen: COUNTLESS people around here not using car seats. people trying to convince me not to use a car seat.
my nephew (inlaw)s mom who doesn’t spend a decent amount of time with him. didn’t bother even trying to BF, went off formula strait to bottles full of nothing but chocolate milk then cool aid etc. salts the crap out of his food. puts sugar on everything. this poor little boy is 51/2 still on his bottle, barely potty trained and going through some emotional trauma. they don’t discipline him with any regularity - so any time he does something wrong (hitting his mom or grama spitting on people etc) if they do say "no don’t do that its bad" he screams and cries and says "you don’t love me" . his mom and dad split up and they don’t monitor their behaviour around him -they constantly bad mouth the other in front of him etc. His poor front teeth are rotted to the root and the back teeth are pretty bad too. She says "hes started loosing his baby teeth so there’s no need to go to a dentist" watching that poor lil guy try to eat something like a hot dog where you have to bite with your front teeth is heartbreaking (not that the whole situation isn’t!) he tries to bite with his side teeth. ugg! ive seen his mom hold a smoke to his mouth and let him inhale when he was about 2 because he was curious what she was doing. (yep they all smoke and in the house with him) this poor lil boy has suffocated a kitten because of lack of supervision, taken off down the road with no one noticing when the neighbours brought him back his mom was like.. oh i didn’t even notice him going. AHHH.
Needless to say visits to the inlaws are stressful mostly! my sister in law KNOWS im against her parenting ways and knows i think shes terrible person for doing this to her baby. We’re in a small town with a lot of people practicing terrible parenting techniques. ive just listed the worst ive seen. she mostly does take care of him even if negligently and has a mostly stable home so he wont be taken away from her. The stupid thing is when were there they listen to our rules about not smoking and not much sugar etc.. they constantly tell us how amazing our girls are but still no change to their parenting philosophy ..

sorry so long.. good to vent i guess...

Geralyn - posted on 04/16/2010

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Nicole, that video is heartbreaking. That little boy must have been devastated and tormented. How sad. That woman should be taken out and tortured and then shot in my opinion. Just a shooting would be too easy for her. I want pain inflicted on her. Unfortunately this is one story of many that go undetected.... Unbelieveable.

Taralee - posted on 04/16/2010

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OMG Nicole I have been crying since watching this woman abuse that little baby. I hope to god she goes to jail....and I normal do not hope ill will on some one....but I hope jailhouse justice is done to her!! GRRRRRRR!!!!!

Taralee - posted on 04/12/2010

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' slapping a child across the face' ; 'punching a child'.....these brought me to tears, I have never punched or slapped ANYONE in my life and can not fathom doing this to my child, you women must have been in shock seeing this. I know that this is an overstated phrase but....ppl should have licenses to have children. I think of all the amazing friends I know that have had so much trouble getting pregnant, and would make such great moms and dads, and would love for a child to want them to come back to the car, or even have to deal with the things kids do b/c they would be their kids! Urggh unfair!

Sarah - posted on 04/12/2010

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Wow, I am glad I do not leave home much, some of these stories have me in tears. The worst I have ever seen is a guy in Walmart bop his toddler on the head for not being quiet and that was quite difficult to watch.

Brenda - posted on 03/28/2010

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Oh Lord yes. If you know your baby has Pica, for goodness sake keep the stuff away. Jeeze. Would you leave the detergent out if the baby wanted to eat that? How stupid.

Traci - posted on 03/27/2010

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She did say that she was dx'ed with Pica, so who knows. It would seem to be common sense to at least put them out of reach, if not like, you know, NOT SMOKE IN THE HOUSE.

Anne - posted on 03/27/2010

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I had heard of that in pregnant women (my grandma ate ashes from the fire grate) but didn't know it applied to babies. Thought they all ate unpleasant stuff if left to their own devices - like dirt and slugs! My baby eats few strange things but I don't think it's pica as her diet is good. I stop her of course but she would munch on tissues all day long if she could, even the baby wipes and they must taste yucky. We often have a battle for them at changing time. Cigarettes though must be pretty foul, I think even my little girl would stop at that.

Brenda - posted on 03/27/2010

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That baby has a problem. My sister used to lick ashtrays (my mom was a smoker almost until her death), and suck on spent matches. It is a form of Pica (is that right?) and the child that eats stuff like that is missing something in their diet and needs to be taken to a doctor. A normal baby will not eat ashes and cigarettes...the taste alone is horrible... My mom knew there was something wrong with it though and took her to the doctor. Terrible.

Anne - posted on 03/27/2010

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Wow -how much nicotine and chemical crap did that baby consume!!! Lucky it didn't kill her!

Traci - posted on 03/27/2010

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I have a teenager helper that I sometimes employ to come do grunt work around the house. His girlfriend came over with him the other day. She thought it was funny as she talked about her 18 mo old getting into ashtrays (and eating the butts), and EATING HALF A PACK OF CIGARETTES. "She didn't even get sick or nothin'! We didn't have to take her to the doctor, because she didn't even throw up." Seriously? I wanted to slap her into next week....

I'm beginning to think my little town is a pit of suck, or maybe it's just that it's so small the suck is more pronounced.

Julia - posted on 03/26/2010

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Ouch... I had to stop reading at some point... I really can only take so much of it..
the worst things that I experienced are "not that" bad but bad enough to scream and pull my hair....
I only had my son and was talking to a good friend of mine, a very passionate and caring mom of two girls. I didn't know about the term Attachment Parenting back then, I just knew I would carry him, breastfeed him and I knew it was cruel to leave kids crying in their cribs and that I wanted him all snug next to me the whole night.... well assuming that she never left her kids crying (since she is the nicest person!) I blew off my steam about the common torturing practice and was shocked when she told me she did the same thing, set the alarm to 10mins and escaped to a different room where she couldn't hear the crying since it was so painful to resist the strong urge to go to her baby.... G, that was so scary for me to hear! How painful does it have to be for both? Just because that's the way it is done.....I just thought this culture is so screwed up.... Another former friend of mine told me that she was so proud of herself that she had become much more relaxed with her second child, when he was crying in the crib she now managed to stay away for 5 mins... what an achievement........So far I have only seen the "usual" things, little newbies in their car seats in shopping malls all exposed to that overstimulating chaos, moms not responding to their babies crying, ... gives me always a very hard time....

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Thing thats annoyed me the worst was one of my mates daughters run into the room crying saying a little boy she was playing with had hit her so her mother slapped her across the face full force because she was crying and telling tales when she should have just hit him back . Everyone in the room was gobsmacked little girl was only about six. Another time i was annoyed was in the supermarket mother with a newbornish baby in a trolley screaming blue murder, after half an hour of none stop screaming i went up and said to her for christs sakes will you have a look at that baby before it passes out from screaming so much. Poor thing was obviously hungry or something. She said whats it to do with you and i said its to do with everyone in here seems as we've all been listening to the poor thing break its heart, pick it up and feed it for christ sakes! So then she said well what do you know about kids lol so i pointed to my three sons trailing behind and said i know enough not to leave a baby that small scream so long. Maybe i should have minded my own business but my youngest was only about two months old and that baby crying was grating on my nerves and making my boobs leak lol.

Brenda - posted on 03/22/2010

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Bah, you have to treat the baby now and them. :) I remember when my first was too small to handle a fry I'd give him the "fry guts" from the inside. :) We ate out more then. But Nick LOVES Oreos and peanut butter cookies....LOL! He looked like he was covered in dirt the other night after his brother gave him like three Oreos....it was funny... :)

Traci - posted on 03/22/2010

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No, of course we wouldn't just willy nilly give her all she wanted. We'd give her one fry, cooled, not crispy, blah blah blah. it's still weird to think we are giving her fries and she's so little, but in the end, I'm not going to stop him from feeding her all this stuff. The only saving grace is that she only gets healthy stuff or breastmilk when he's out of town, so I suppose every now and then doesn't hurt.

Brenda - posted on 03/22/2010

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I just think of a six month old, and the insane choking hazard, because I'm assuming they don't bother to monitor the baby eating it anyway....

Traci - posted on 03/22/2010

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Reagan (8 mos now!) has been getting a fry for a few weeks now. When my husband flies out, we stop of the McD's by Detroit Metro because it's so far from home and she usually needs a break by then. He's given her a taste of Sprite, but only a tiny bit, and mostly for the bubbles.

Actually, he's given her a lot of things I wouldn't have.

But I can't imagine a) propping a bottle up filled with anything or b) giving a WHOLE bottle of pop to a child. That's just insane.

Brenda - posted on 03/22/2010

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OMG, and I felt bad because I let Nick (10 months) have his first sip of coke from a coke bottle....and who in the hell gives a six month old a burger and fries? I'm just now letting Nicky take a fry when I get them! Ugh...

Nicole - posted on 03/22/2010

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I work at Burger King (lame, I know)- I get to see the dregs of mommy society regularly :O. One couple (regulars) always fills there less than six month old girl's bottle with coke. It hangs from a bottle propper of the stroller. They give her fries and burgers to- while she is in a reclined position strapped in the stroller. I regularly get scolded because I yell "bottle propping kills!" and "boobies for babies" from behind the counter. Not to mention the parents who come through the drive through with babies not in carseats. Arrrgh!

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Here is mine...a friend's husband has recently decided that thier baby girl who is 7 months old should start learning to fall asleep on her own rather than her mom rocking her to sleep....so there were letting her CIO not for long periods but for about ten minutes at a time one night my friend said she couldn't stand hearing her baby cry any more and she didn't want to do it her husband told her if she didn't like it she should go sit in the garage!!!!! How sad is that i haven't talked to her since so I don't know how it is going but I feel bad for her.

Sarah - posted on 03/19/2010

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This all just turns my stomach and makes me want to cry. My heart goes out to babies left to "cry it out" even... I think this is what obviously leads to damaged adults who repeat the cycle of abuse over and over again. Not that CIO babies are necessarily victims of abuse, but I think you moms know what I mean. What is funny to me is that there are so many folks out there who think what WE do is wrong, attachment parenting, nursing beyond age 1, co-sleeping, etc.

Traci - posted on 03/16/2010

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When Reagan was a few weeks old, I ran to the party store to get a pop while Mom watched her sleep. I saw a car pull up, parents in the front and a girl, maybe 10-12 mos, in the back, no car seat. She was crying out the window for her Daddy to come back after he got out of the passenger seat. He came back to the window, and I thought he was going to lean in and kiss her. He slapped her hard across the face and yelled at her to shut the f**k up while shaking his finger in her face. I stood in the middle of the parking lot, in total disbelief of what I had just seen. The mother saw me, and turned and said something to the man quickly. He huffed himself up and asked if I wanted a piece of him, and I told him that his woman may be scared, and his little girl may be scared, but I wasn't. The woman in the drivers side gave me this look of, 'but what can I do?'

I took the license plate number and called the police. By far the most disturbing thing I've seen to date.

Eva - posted on 03/16/2010

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My aunt use to put diet soda in my cousin's battles when they were babies... my friend gives her kids bottle full of cholocate milk =(

Brenda - posted on 03/14/2010

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My husband and I joke about giving benedryl to our kids...but we don't even have any! Neither of us would ever do something like that. I'm wanting to hear about the feeding tube situation too...

Oh, and a while back I posted about this but in case you missed it:

The babysitter that "fixed" a four month old boy's circumsision site because it didn't heal "right". The urologist "thought" he could correct what she had done by cutting on the baby's penis.

Geralyn - posted on 03/14/2010

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Taking a feeding tube out??? What the...? What happened? [Not to react to just one, but they are all appalling incidents...]

Katherine - posted on 03/14/2010

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giving benedryl to sedate "rowdy" kids

cereal in a damn bottle

taking a feeding tube out

putting a blanket over a child's head to "make" them go to sleep, while holding them down. THAT was done at a daycare I worked at and when I reported it, I got written up.

Brenda - posted on 03/14/2010

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I worked with a woman who had a sister that used to run an in home daycare. She got shut down for biting one of her daycare kids because the kid bit another kid. Did not take but a couple weeks for her to get shut down, and she was genuinely surprised when it happened. That was the worst part I think.

April - posted on 03/14/2010

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i know someone who repeats the offense that the child does. if the child hits his sister with a toy, the mother does the same thing to him. she also pulls her kids by the ear and drags them away by the ear.

Geralyn - posted on 03/14/2010

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My brother witnessed a mom turn around while driving her SUV through a busy parking lot and, with her fist, she punched down at her child. Not sure how old the child was.... He was ready to pull her out of her SUV.

Minnie - posted on 03/14/2010

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Worst I've seen?



Mother paddles her two year old's bare bottom with a spatula (she was in potty training) for not coming when called.



Mother slaps her two year old for running eagerly into her arms and accidentally bumps her chin with his head.



Mother in checkout line with two week old in bucket facing away from her, crying to the point of gagging and breathlessness; refuses help from multiple people and continues to place groceries on belt.

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