19 month old likes to test me alot

Claire - posted on 03/20/2009

Quoting Claire:

When is comes to corrective discipline, time-outs are good, but at a young age I found that they're not yet very effective.

My hubby started her on time-outs, and he said they're really helping her to behave.  I'm a working mom, and he's a stay-at-home dad.

Heather - posted on 03/20/2009

Be consistent with punishments. My son 19 mos is going through the throwing himself on the ground and crying. Also hitting that he picked up from the day care kids. When he throws the tantrums I mostly ignore it unless it gets out of hand then I will pick him up and put him on the couch for a time out. And it normally works. I've learned if you give them slack they will continue to practice that behavior. Nip it in the butt before it is too late. I know some days you wonder how you will make it through it. Just remember you just have to make it to nap time lol

Alanna - posted on 03/20/2009

Thanks.. She's actually been getting a little better cauz i have been a little more firm with her but she still has these moments where not even that works.. We went out to eat and in the middle of the place she started having a fit. i got up took her to the bathroom let her finish her tantrum said she was a bad girl and mommy is very upset with her and told her no on the screaming we went back out and she sat there as good as can be...lol

Naomi - posted on 03/20/2009

my son went through a minor stage of that, I found if you are firm & consistant they will learn, but if you cave in and allow this behaviour to be accepted without a consequence..even once... they will continue to do it because the behaviour gets what they want.

Good luck:)

Alanna - posted on 03/08/2009

I tryed the time out she screamed till she passed out.. i spanked her but lightly but still something to feel screamed and threw a toy at me... i yelled at her she came up to me looked at me with her big eyes and gave me kisses.. i have no idea what else to do its like she makes fun of how we punish and how we try to do anything to her.. im outta idea and have no more ideas of what to do..

Vicki - posted on 03/08/2009

Yes my little boy is 19 mths old 2day.He sreams throws things in temper and hits.I just ignore him.I no how u feel.Hopfully they will grow out of it.lol

Anita - posted on 03/07/2009

Had it.

No more warnings to your daughter... first time she disobeys punish the bad behavier. Stay consistant.  It will get better if there are set rules and you stay with them 100% of the time.

Alanna - posted on 03/07/2009

I hope that works. I tyred everything to stop but she'll throw fits like its nothing... When she doesnt want her diaper changer she kicks me screams etc.. i try not to hit her at all but sometimes i just wanna smack her on her little butt.... I'll try this for a little bit and see if it works. Thank you so much

Claire - posted on 03/07/2009

I have this problem too, but likely not to a very large degree.  My 18 mo old will scream or hit when she's angry.  I think that she picked up the screaming from my hubby & I, so we've stopped.  We don't fight alot, but we've learned the hard way just how impressionable we are to her.

Where do you think she could have learned this behavior?  If you think she picked up any of it from you or other adults in her life, then that should be changed immediately.  She won't learn to respect adults if they don't set positive examples.

When is comes to corrective discipline, time-outs are good, but at a young age I found that they're not yet very effective.  What we've done is to immediately put a stop to the behavior as it occurs, by getting very close to her face and using a firm tone with "no".  Shortly afterward, we reassure her that we still love her or will initiate postive playtime - to distract her from the thoughts tht made her upset in the first place.  Slowly, she has improved.