Anyone have kids close in age?

Nikki - posted on 01/28/2010 ( 39 moms have responded )

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Just wanted to introduce myself! I have a son born Feb 2006 and a daughter born Aug 2007. Yes, they are 18 months apart and are driving me CRAZY! Anyone else have issues with kids close in age? One minute they love each other and they next they are tackling each other to the ground screaming at the tops of their lungs. Really just looking to see I am not alone with this!

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Vanessa - posted on 04/28/2013

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I have one that just turned 1 in april i have a 2 month old and im 1 month pregnant im gonna be busy lol

Carra - posted on 06/29/2010

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You are certainly not alone, I have 2 boys 17 months apart. Some days they love each other and are singing one another's praises and the next day I'm a referee to their fights! I just continue to tell myself it will get better....it will.....right?!?! LOL

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Hi,
My daughter was born August 2007 and my son February 2009 so there is an 18 month age gap. It has been tough especially since my son went through his first year constantly being ill with broncilitis or pnewmonia etc. Not sure I'd do this age gap again if I do decide to have anymore? They do love each other though and when they are playing together nicely it's lovely to watch. I try and get out of the house with them as much as I can and I do sometimes feel guilty that my son never had the attention my daughter had in her first year. Every parent has their good and bad days though, it the hardest job in the world but then the most rewarding. I do look forward to my 2 days a week at work - i get to drink a hot cup of tea!

NaTasha - posted on 06/23/2010

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I can relate my daughter was born August of 2007 and my son was born February of 2009. I have the same issues and then some! If one has something the other wants the same thing. Cup,toys,juice,food,attention etc. It drives me bananas! I look forward to working:) I just hope it gets better and easier when they get older. Good luck to you also:)

Katrina - posted on 06/13/2010

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I have 4 little girls.. my 2 oldest are 19 months apart. They fight and argue one minute, then they love each other the next. I think we all go through stuff like this especially when we have children close in age... just take it one day at a time, it's all anybody can do.

Angelina - posted on 06/09/2010

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Yes, i have two daughters 1 year and 26 days apart. and they are the same way.

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I also have kids close in age--4 of them, 2 boys and 2 girls. They were born Dec 2003, July 2005, Aug 2007, and May 2009. It's certainly crazy in our house sometimes, too! It really is a love/hate relationship at times. My sister and I are also close in age, and my mom tells me that she used to fear that we would end up hating each other when we grew up. But, we're very close now. So, no, you're not alone!

Koree - posted on 06/01/2010

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I know exactly how you feel, my son was born Aug 2007 and my daughter was bor Nov 2008, they are 15 months apart. they act the same way that yours do. i hope that when they get older they we be close.

Carra - posted on 05/20/2010

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My boys are 17 months apart and they can be sooo sweet to each other, and the next minute one is hitting the other or stealing a toy or cup and screaming begins. I am so fortunate though, to have my two and I am confident they will always rely on each other and that was what I wanted for them...to just have a best friend. Best friends can't always get along....right?? LOL Best of luck, this too shall pass!!

Melanie - posted on 05/18/2010

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Nikki,

My Son was born in August of 2007 and my daughter was born in June 2008 and yes you are reading that correctly lol! They are 10.5 month apart and they are the same way one minute they are so sweet to each other the next the are punching each other! So you are not alone! I know how you feel!

April - posted on 05/12/2010

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Nice to know I'm not alone either! lol! I have 3...all 14 mo apart...Aug 07, Oct 08, Dec 09. They definitely have their moments, but for the most part, the older two are stuck together like glue!

Joanne - posted on 05/05/2010

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OMGOSH you are so not alone my kids are 5 and 4 years apart my son will be 12, daughter 7, and the other daughter will be 3 and they fight all the time. It's enough to make me go crazy and they never love on one another unless it's the older ones with the 3 year old the 12 and 7 year old tell each other how they hate one another, i never fought like that with my sisters.

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Your not alone. My boys are 13 months apart. One born july 2006 and the other August 2007. They can be the best of friends one minute and the next minute they are fighting like crazy. Definitely a love hate relationship!

Sarah - posted on 04/28/2010

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My oldest daughter was born Dec 2005 and my youngest daughter was born Aug 2007. they are 20 months apart and I feel the same way. I stay at home with them both for the moment but hopefully in Sept they will go to half day preschool. I am hope that the interaction between other children their own age will help in this.

Karen - posted on 04/16/2010

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I know the feeling...I have 4 children ages 10, 7, 4 and 2. There is only 15 months between my son and youngest daughter. I love them, but some days they drive me crazy,, fighting over toys, screaming, biting each other if they do not get their way. They have a love/hate relationship.

Ella - posted on 04/15/2010

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U are definately not alone! My daughter was born Aug 2007 and my son Dec 2008 and are 15 months apart. It is a mess already! But it is kinda cute sometimes. They can fuss and fight all day but when my husband or I go to fuss or spank one of them its as if the other one feels it and jumps into protective mode. They dont want nobody messin wit they sis/bro. So cute and challenging all at the same time

Jayne - posted on 04/15/2010

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Mine are 18 months apart too. Nathan was Aug 07, Megan Feb 09. One minute the big one loves his sister, the next minute he wants her to go away. She just wants to do everything he does.
The pushing/fighting are hard to manage, and you cant let them out of your sight for even a second or there are tears. As much as he bullies her, my son still protects her in groups or a the playground. she is "my" megan then :)
Hopefully they will get along as they get older. Staggering their naps has helped us. I get to spend one on one time with each of them and do 'special' activities then (crafts, puzzles, books). It means the house is messy or the laundry unfolded but luckily my husband would rather have happy kids than a clean house.
Good Luck!

Rickand Bethlee - posted on 02/15/2010

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Hey! I have my little girl born in Aug of 07 and twin boys born july of 08. They are 11 months apart. They normally are ok with each other, but do have their little fights. I usually try to let them work it out. I do not put up with hitting, biting - anything harmful. If they yell for too long I also step in. I do not alow screaming!!! The nice thing about them being close in age is that they don't have problems with other children in the nursery at church. They are use to sharing or not being first to get their cup of goldfish, so that is good!

Melinda - posted on 02/15/2010

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hi. my son and daughter are 13 months apart. Landen was born 8/31/07 and his sister was born 9/30/08. They are definately a pair. They argue one minute and are playing the next. i give them time to play together and time to solo play. Then we do our daily routine and afternoon its solo play first then family time after that. it makes it easier because my son realizes that he has time with me to himself and that cuts down on the wrestling and tackling.

Evelyn - posted on 02/08/2010

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My 2 are 17 months apart, my daughter born Aug 07 and my son Feb 09. It has been very full on but also wonderful to watch them grow up together and become good friends and playmates. I guess some days are harder then others it's nice to see so many people that also have kids close and know that your not alone and others are facing similar struggles.

Annie - posted on 02/06/2010

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i have two boys 16 months apart. my 2 year old does nothing but whine because his little brother chases him and swats at his face ect. I totally understand. lol Over all they love each other though.

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Mine are close as well...but my 2 yr old is the oldest :) They are 22 months apart...both boys. As of right now, they love each other dearly, but I am starting to see some changes as the baby wants everything the 2 yr old has. Fun fun!

Shana - posted on 02/06/2010

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Hey Nikki, you are not alone. I have four children but my last 3 are right behind each other. My son Kyree was born on Aug 29, 2007, daughter Sanai was born Aug 3, 2008, and my son Siraj was born Oct 23, 2009, and my oldest son was born Feb 13, 1998. My days are so crazy with the middle ones. The don't do much fighting right now, but I do have a problem with my 2 yr old always trying to wrestle with my 1 year old. She is so tuff!! I wanted her to be this little princess because she's my only girl, but she's a princess with a flare lol. And she's the only granddaughter so she is surrounded with BOYS. The youngest is onlt 3 mmonths old so he still sleeps alot. I find that if I sit down with them and play with them it cuts out all the havic. I have to keep a tight schedule or my day will be so off. I try to get "house work" done during there nap times. They still nap 2x's a day. And far as "me time" that really doesn't exist at this time. So since you have 2 I would try to take them out let them run that energy out. Spend alot of time on the floor with them for play time. Set up a schedule and stick to it. I hope this helps you

Belinda - posted on 02/05/2010

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I have four children, May 2005, August 2006, Auguster 2007 and May 2009.
My eldest is undergoing diagnosis of autism, and my youngest has cystic fibrosis. The older two are best buds and the younger two absolutely adore eachother. but put the middle two together and fur flies!!!!

Our lives are a constant juggling act with kids, doctors visits (that includes the 10hrs travelling to see the CF specialists every few months), owning a business and trying to spend time with eachother.

There are days Im banging my head against a brick wall, but what can I say?? I love being a mum!!

Melanie - posted on 02/05/2010

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Mine are 16 months apart. They were born in April 2006 and August 2007. I'm finding that is it just starting to get easier. Our saving grace is that both of us are very involved with the kids. When I have to do it alone (business trips, etc), it is much more difficult. Both kids are also in daycare so I'm only dealing with it evenings and weekends.

They play with each other, but they can't do it without supervision. They also love each other quite a bit.

Kendra - posted on 02/03/2010

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No your not alone on this. I have a girl born Aug 2007 & another girl born Oct 2008. They are 13 months apart. They play well together most of the time & yes they can drive me crazy as well. but I love my girls so very much.

Mommy For Life.

Cecilia - posted on 02/02/2010

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Hi!No you´´re not alone =) I got twins when our son was barely 1 1/2 years old. And that behaviour is just normal =)). The twins are now 1 years old and the olderst 2 1/2. One second he loves them and the next he pinches them.
Cecilia

Leanne - posted on 02/02/2010

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I can identify! My son is 5, my daughter is 3 (March 06), and my baby is 2 (Aug 14th, 07). Sometimes is the girls against the 5 year old, sometimes its the oldest & youngest against the middle, others its the older 2 against the baby. You never know! My husband can't understnad why I need some time to myself once he gets home! LOL Not only can I not get anything done, I can't have any time to myself. A lot of the time, they all play well together. Finding things they can all do together is important, like throwing the ball around, reading books to each other, acting out their favorite movie, etc. Other times... sigh and join in on their madness! If I join in on the fight, they usually end up laughing at me so much they forget what they were fighting about! Good Luck!
Leanne

Melissa - posted on 02/02/2010

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u are definately not alone. i have 3 kids, 13 months between child one and 2 and 23 months between child 2 and 3. its so full on but so much fun. my eldest is 3 and him and his kid sister are always at each other.

Shannon - posted on 02/02/2010

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My son was born November 2005 and daughter born August 2007. I can totally relate. When they are separated they are different children. Calm, play independently..etc. When they are together it is a constant battle, bickering, screaming=mass confusion. I can't get anything done!

Christine - posted on 02/02/2010

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I have 3 and there is 19.5 mths between my 1st and 2nd & just shy of 20ths between the 2nd and 3rd. It is a crazy screamfest almost daily. Some days I need a whistle and ear plugs & a sound proof penalty box.

Kitsy - posted on 02/01/2010

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My kids are 16 months apart. Auden was born March 27th 2006, and Raven was born August 3rd 2007. They fight a lot, but they also play very well together, it seems to vary day to day. I try to let them work out small squabbles amongst themselves, that seems to work well.

Amanda - posted on 02/01/2010

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i have s soon born in 2006 and another son born 2007 they r only 13 months apart and i know how u feel that is my everyday life i just try and tell them they should not fight that they r brothers and they should love each other some thimes it works and sometimes it don't

Ivy - posted on 01/31/2010

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Isn't funny, how they react to each other? I also have a son born Aug 06' and a daughter born Aug 07. They look like twins and act like as well. For the most part I am glad they are close because they do play well together. But man, there are days they fight and scream. When I was little I had a sister 5yrs above me and a brother 5ys below me so we really had nothing in common until we were adults, so seeing my kids get along/fight, I really enjoy, cuz they, hopefully, will have that bond all through life. That or really dispise each other and never talk. LOL.

Sonia - posted on 01/30/2010

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Hi, well there's 15 months between my boys & they're now 9 & 10. I wanted them close together & I'd be lying if I said it was easy, but it wasn't that hard either - I have a 2 year old boy now & he seems more trouble than they ever were!!! Saying that they do have the odd fight but I think thats what you call sibling rivalry! I think alot of the fighting is competition on who can get your attention first! Just give them lots of love & cuddles and walks to the park, maybe even making pictures at home using cut up birthday cards etc. Are they at play school, get them to let off a bit of steam that way! You'll be fine!

Cara - posted on 01/29/2010

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Hi there, your story sounds so familiar, i have 2 daughters, one born july 06 and one born in aug 07. its a struggle keeping them occupied, but i find that when they are both enjoying activities (swimming running, drawing, singing etc) is the best part of my day, no screaming, arguing, fighting etc! pure bliss, might be shortlived but enjoy the moment! they attend different preschools and often when we all arrive home are very happy to be together even if the moment only last 15 mins! lifes great!

Lisa - posted on 01/28/2010

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No ur not alone at all - my 2 are 16 months apatr and again a boy and a girl although the girl is older, All the 'play' fightinfg is completely normal but I am trying to encourage more games where it takes 2 people - as simple as throwing and catching a ball to eachother or playing row row row the boat and asking the older one to 'read' a story to the smaller one. But I have also found that if I'm stuck in the house too much it gets worse - they definitely need to let off steam - get wrapped up go for a walk or go feed the ducks or maybe an indoor play area and let them run about....!

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