is anyone else child still not potty trained?

Brandis - posted on 03/28/2011 ( 154 moms have responded )

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i ask my son " do you need to potty" about a thousand times a day...he always says "no"...ive physically sat him on then the potty for him to pee and have waited at times up to 30 mins for him to do something...he cant sit still on the toilet just constantly wiggling around and unraveling the toilet paper....ive put him in regular underwear so he knows that he pees on himself and what its like and he'll tell me he has to pee while he's peeing on himself....i dont understand one week he'll be all about peeing on the potty then the next he'll yell and throw a huge fit if u dare ask him if he wants to potty.....ive cried about this, i feel like a huge failure "why cant i get my son to pee in the potty".....i feel almost pathetic....my younger 3 year old nephew goes to the bathroom completely on his own and he's 6 months younger than my son....my husband tries to help but he just winds up yelling at him and i dont feel like that helps at all.....i dont know what to do

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Kumari Ghafoor - posted on 09/15/2012

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Three Day Potty Training Book by Lora Jensen. I will email it if you email me.

Kara - posted on 10/21/2011

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I have been trying to potty train my son on & off since he turned 2. It has not yet worked. (He'll be 4 yrs old in 2 months) We have tried it all, charts with stickers, 'prizes', candy, underwear only, no underwear (nothing on), videos, books, a little potty, a potty that attaches to the toilet, a small toilet seat built right into the grown-up one, watching his friend or his father go to the bathroom, you name it! He doesn't seem to care that all of his friends are trained, he doesn't care that only 'babies' wear diapers, he figures he can wait for a 'prize' until his birthday. He's got everything reasoned out. We had to change the sticker criteria, but he used to get one for every time he tried. So he'd 'try' all the time just to get his prize. But he never actually went potty!! Now, he only gets a sticker when he actually does something in the toilet.
His babysitter is good, she runs him in there every 20 minutes or so. Problem now is that he holds it most of the day, and then we have a flood about 10 minutes after we get home from the babysitters. Now I worry about how bad that is for his health! I have to reiterate that although we have tried all of this, he doesn’t seem daunted by it, it’s just not something he wants to do. I know he won’t be in HS wearing a diaper, but like the other Moms, I’d like to get him into preschool next year! I just keep telling myself over & over & over that he’ll do it when he’s ready. It’s just so hard because he’s always been ahead of the curve in EVERY other milestone….

EMMA - posted on 03/08/2012

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my daughter is 6 in november she still isnt trained in the night each child is different hun dont worry he'll be trained when he's ready my daughter wasnt trained in the day till she was gone 3 so your not pathetic hun as i said all children are different i know how you feel because i feel the same sometimes but as i said don't worry your not pathetic!x

Sarah - posted on 03/29/2011

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my son is 3 years old and starts full time school in sept and is not completly dry he still wee and poo's him self but he does have adhd if he did not it wud be easy for me i have 3 boys and they all did different things but my youngest this works i praise him in the morning if his nappy is dry i say thats a really good boy ur nappy is dry in the day i use a toilet chart with stickers i chooses one for himself and one for the chart and he loves it and i keep asking him everyhalf hour do u need a wee lol xxx but its working dont ever shout at him or will put him off if he doing it on purpose just tell him in a firm voice no its dirty u a big boy now wen he does go to the toilet really praise him u are not a failure its hard thing to do u just got to keep up with it and dont give in

Jenny - posted on 10/27/2011

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My son turned 3yrs in sept and hes the same way its driving me crazy!! when he has to go #2 he will hide thats when ill hurry up and put him on the toliet but he will sit there for 20min and not go then ill put underwear on him and he will cry cause he dont want them on but when his diaper goes back on he will go. I dont know what to do!! I had no problem potty training my 9yr old girl but yet every1 tells me its diff with a girl and boy that the boy is harder

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Leanne - posted on 09/12/2012

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my son is three nearly four and still will not go to the toilet he will if i physically sit with him until he does something but he will not tell me and will just wee on himself and i feel the same

Bex - posted on 09/09/2012

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I'm re-replying here as I got a prompt in my email. I think last time I posted my little girl was still in her nappies.



Well she's 3 years and 9 months now, and 3 or 4 months ago, all of her own accord, our little lady decided to use the potty. We never pushed it. We bought a potty at about 2 years and explained what it was for and it had just sat and collected dust in the bathroom haha... She'd managed one wee in the potty at about 2 and then just wasn't interested. So we left her to her own devices. I think all children will do it when the time is right if you don't force it. Sure it's possible to train and i know some parents see the advantage of that.



What we found tho, is because our girl was making the conscious effort to use a potty - after a week there were no accidents, she handled it so well at nursery and they told us how well she was doing. about 3 days after first wee on potty, she was using it to poo as well.



Now we just put her in a nappy overnight, I'm waiting to see that it's dry and she asks first thing in the morning to go.



Like I say I know she could have got there sooner if we'd been more 'actively encouraging' but I also didn't wanna risk pushing her before she was ready. Yes we've spent loads on nappies but the most important thing to me is her sense of achievement, the communication that she is proud of herself.



They all get there in the end. Now our nearly 2 year old watches her sister and I'm thinking she may decide sooner, but again that choice is hers.



Good luck to everyone with whatever stage you're at :)

Jamila - posted on 09/06/2012

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my son is going to turn 4 this September 19 2012 and he is going to start school tomorrow

and the problem is he goes washroom only to pee but he is scared to poo until i put a diaper on him he doesn't poo ....so tired not giving a diaper and it went few days not pooing he would hold it ....i am so worried what am i going to do??? because school toilet is so big that he would fall inside he doesn't like standing and peeing he wants to sit and pee .........i am so scared and confused what to do ...should i put a diaper on him when he goes to school???can any1 tell me what to do

Stacy - posted on 03/19/2012

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I have the same problem. My oldest who is now 11 was potty trained by 2. Night time was the hardest with her. My youngest is turning 3 and I have a hard time getting her to go. She'll tell me after the fact that she needs to potty. I've even tried to get her into baby books about going potty and they are the only books she has absolutely no interest in. I think every kid is different and when they are ready they'll start. At least that's what I'm hoping and praying. You are not a failure though. Every child develops at different rates. So don't give up! :)

Laurie - posted on 03/18/2012

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First of all - him not being potty trained yet at 3 plus years old is not your fault. If you have tried that hard and it still hasn't happened, more than likely he isn't physically ready yet and no amount of coaxing or threats is going to accomplish it. My son was about three or four months short of his fourth birthday before he was potty trained during the day. We tried hard to get him potty trained when he was about two and half. I got to the point where he could go potty on demand but I could never get him to initiate going and as a result he had a fair number of accidents - usually at least one a day and it didn't bother him in the least. It was too much work to maintain and he went back in diapers for more than a year until he was ready then it happened pretty much over night.



Yelling won't help and will probably make it worse. Perhaps stop even mentioning it to him for a few weeks and see what happens. My son is only just now (at four months past his forth birthday) managing to keep a dry pull up through his two hour afternoon nap. He still wakes up with a wet pull up every morning. Encourage your son when he's receptive and don't push when he's in one of his fit throwing weeks. Never fear - he will learn do go potty eventually.



It usually helps to find a reward of some sort when they successfully do what you want them to do. In my son's case, at the moment the reward for a dry diaper at nap time is he gets to have popcorn for his afternoon snack which he adores at the moment. If he manages to wake up dry in the morning (which has only happened twice so far) he gets a more elaborate breakfast of pancakes or french toast. Our reward when he was first learning to go potty (and the first step appears to be that you take him to the potty and he can go pee within a few minutes of sitting down) was that a successful pee in the potty got him a sticker he could stick on his little potty. He liked to see visible evidence that he was having lots of successes.



If it takes your son a half hour to go pee, he either hasn't figured out how to go pee on demand yet and he's probably not ready for toilet training yet or you are taking him too frequently/too soon after liquids. Once he learns how to go pee pretty much on demand (at which point you can keep him dry by taking him fairly regularly) then the next step is getting him to tell you in advance when he has to go so he keeps himself dry. This last part took a long time with my son.



Try not to compare your son to other kids. I would probably drive myself nuts if I did that. For example, my daughter is now just past two and a half and starting to show an interest in potties and potty training. If she has her diaper off and she wants to try I let her go. She has only managed to actually pee once I think so it's going to be a while. Her female cousin is about 6 weeks younger than her and is fully potty trained and has been for a while. They are different kids and I don't push my daughter as a result.

Brittney - posted on 03/16/2012

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Yelling wont help but keep putting him in cloth training pants, naked time, and/or underwear. He will figure it out. That is what I did with my daughter who I had trained at 15 months, one day it just clicked.

LeeAnn - posted on 03/09/2012

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I have twins (boy & girl), they'll be 4 in May and I think we're finally beginning to make a little progress. It's been very frustrating but I'm doing my best to keep things positive. When they have accidents I talk to them about how good it will feel when they can get to the potty on time. I "set them up" and make them drink a lot, then put them in their potties in front of a video for about an hour, so they're sure to pee and feel successful.

I have to admit that I'm confused about all the comments about 3 year olds that are ADHD. Isn't that just part of being 3? I think it just goes with the territory and most will grow out of it.

Zee - posted on 03/07/2012

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Every child is different and hits those milestones in their own sweet time. All you can do is be patient and give him the opportunity to use the toilet as often as possible. There's no point fighting or getting yourself upset about it. When he's 100% ready, he will just do it. I've been through this with all three of my children and trust me it's not worth the fight. They are all potty trained now. And don't worry about what your nephew's doing. I know it's hard not to compare them but you'll just make both of you unhappy. Hang in there momma and good luck!

Kirti - posted on 02/27/2012

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My son is 2 yrs and 2 months. He learnt saying Pee [in hindi] and telling in advance last summer [2011], But now when winter started he stopped telling may be coz of cold potty seat. :D



he don't poo in pants or even Diaper. that's the plus point. I hvn't still started night time potty training.

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My daughter is the same she goes nursery in September yes along way away but I'm scared I won't get her potty trained by then and she be in pull ups stil how embarasing, I'm doing everything taking her to the toilet every 15-20 mins I give her rewards I race her to the toilet but she will not tell me when she needs to go ehhh so frustrating xx

Samantha - posted on 02/20/2012

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BRANDIS!!! Congratulations, you have just entered into the wonderful world of potty training a boy. Believe it or not... that little guy of yours is really a small version of your husband.In fact he is a small version of men in general. You know how we have to encourage our men and praise them for, oh I don't know...putting the seat down on the toilet or washing that bowl of cereal that he 99% of the time just leaves in the sink? He may then go on to talk about the task that he accomplished for hours perhaps days to come...We wonderful women just GRIN and BEAR IT letting them think they thought of these "chores" all on their own. NO IT HASN'T BEEN DRILLED INTO YOUR HEAD AT ALL DEAR...IT WAS YOUR IDEA...RIGHT? . Like your husband... do so as well with your little man in potty training...first, make him think its his idea to go potty, after he see's that "he's in charge...treat him as we do our husbands when it comes to well anything; it will work every time. Praise his "idea" and let the world hear how wonderful it was that he peed on the potty all the while it being"his idea"!!!! Good Luck and God Bless...samantha

Megan - posted on 02/20/2012

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My son turned 4 last month, he also refuses to use the toilet. I also have no idea how to potty train him. his cousin has been potty trained for about a year and half with no problem. I also tried rewards, using a smaller seat for the standard seats, and other stuff. but nothing works.

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My son wasn't truly "potty trained" until last month, at the age of almost 4 1/2. Before last month, he would go every time we would put him on the potty, but he would not ever tell us when he needed to go. Then all of a sudden out of the blue last month, he just started going in and going all by himself. Never even a "Mommy I need to potty". When your son is ready, he'll do it. And I agree...tell your husband to knock it off! Positive reinforcement...not criticism. We did the happy dance everytime my son used the potty and told him he was a big boy. Now when he goes he tells me that he's a big boy!

Katie - posted on 11/11/2011

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My son did not potty train fully until a month before he was four. There is NO SHAME IN THIS! All kids will in their own time. I would reccoment Elmo's potty training dvd. It helped us, and my kiddo still likes to watch it. Don't make a big deal about it. and absolutely tell your husband to knock it the hell off, he is making the issue a PROBLEM. and it shouldn't be. Take a weekend and longer to keep him in underwear during the day, if you leave have him go potty before, when you get there, and before you leave. Bring extra clothes 3 pairs shirt, pants, underwear, socks, and shoes. Don't push him it will turn into a battle of wills. Just be consistent. Praying for you. Don't let the potty make you feel unworthy of being the great mom you are!!

Kim - posted on 11/11/2011

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my daughter will not go on the potty, she barley fits the pull-ups asnd we don't know what else to d. we have tried the timmer , rewards, sticker getting her her own potty. nothing work we got her cute new underwear she doesn't mind being wet or dirty. i hope you have bette luck than me......i'll let you know what eventually will work when i find it....

Zee - posted on 11/10/2011

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You are not a bad mom and you haven't failed. Every kids is different. When they are ready they will do it pretty much on their own. Right now it's probably turned into a bit of a power struggle between you and him. I'd back off a little and relax about it.

The thing that worked the most for us was bribing them. I had a box of smarties in the cupboard and when he'd go on the potty he'd get a few smarties. We don't usually have candy so that helped motivate him. It won't always work but you need to make sure you don't give it to him when he doesn't go. I actually had to take time out to go in the bathroom with him and "listen" to see if he peed. When they are using the toilet consistently then you just stop the candy. Surprisingly they don't make that big fuss about it. In the meantime casually bring up all thing that's great about not wearing a pullup or diaper. But backing off a little might just be the best thing you can do. Good luck!

Rian - posted on 11/07/2011

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Be patient! I know it's hard to believe it will ever be over and the frustration will be gone, but it will. My son turns 4 the day after Thanksgiving and it seems like this last entire year we have been trying to potty train him. We got him to the point where he would always poop in the toilet but never pee. It seemed like one day he decided to do it and for the last 4 days he has been wearing underwear, even when we go out and only the first day did he start to pee and stop himself and run to the potty! We were so excited. I guess they really do need to be ready, just wish they were on our schedule as well. Good luck, I still have my 2 year old daughter to train.

Angela - posted on 11/03/2011

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I have 3 boys and totally understand!! Keep trying!! But dont force them. Just try to keep up a consistent routine to go potty. My first one was a breeze little over 2 when he was fully trained. My second I started too early I think and he is STUBBORN too. Anyway he is totally trained now but i just kept at it and all sudden he just started not wetting so its definitly in their own time but dont give up cause then it will be rough. You are not a bad Mom just because they are not potty trained!!

Shana - posted on 11/02/2011

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my son will be 3 in dec. and isn't even close to being potty trained. he wants to wear big boy underwear and i told him he had to tell me when he has to potty when he wears them but he'll pee in them and then tell me! we are a work in progress.

Rebecca - posted on 10/31/2011

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every child is different my son didn't start potty training until he got home for school one day n just started going. wishing you luck. i felt the same like i was a failure plus our child has a learning problem so i feel like one anyways,

Ashley - posted on 10/28/2011

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Just because your child doesnt sit still on the potty doesnt mean they have adhd. My daughter just turned 3 and is finally potty trained. But I have friends whose kids are 4 and still can't do it. Its all about comfort. Thats a totally different ball game for them. After 3 years of peeing a diaper going to a toilet is veryyy different. I bought little toys from the dollar store. Every time my daughter pee'd she got a toy, or a piece of chocolate. and when that didnt work I would tell her if you have to go pee, turn on the light, pull down ur diaper and go. Feeling independent helped her so much. Knowing that she was big enough to go in the bathroom on her own is what made her fully potty trained. Good luck, dont give up hope.. it will happen when they are ready!

Heather - posted on 10/28/2011

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I'm going throught the same thing. My son will be 4 in a couple weeks and he refuses to potty train. He has gone a couple times on the potty. I 've tried rewards also I've tried to have him run around in big boy underwear and it doesn't bug him when the underwear are wet. He knows they are wet b/c he will touch the underwear then go on with his business of playing. I ask him all of the time if he has to go on the potty and he says no also. I know friends who have their kids potty trained at this age. I've learned one thing though, even though this is very frustrating, I try not to compare him to other kids. Doing that will drive you crazy. He will get things before other children and other children will get thigns before him. I was feeling like a failure b/c I'm currently a SAHM and I have the time to work with him but he refuses. I've heard from one of my cousins who watches kids and has 3 of her own that he will do it in his own time. One day he will have had enough and he'll go on the potty. Good Luck :)

Brenda - posted on 10/25/2011

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& which then again my daughter had health issues & development delays so it may take her longer to train too...even though she may be 3 calendar yrs she isnt that development yrs.

Camillia - posted on 10/25/2011

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the advice i got from a friend of mine that got her son potty trained when he was 2 was to be on the same time every day if you can. she said that he was like you he would go to the potty really good for a week or 2 then he would have a set back but she said you have to not yell so now my son is 18 months and he is doing that. this past week he has went to the potty great and did both number 1 and 2 in the pot and just today he has stopped. i do not get mad at him but if he does go in his undies he will stop it and run to the potty.

Brenda - posted on 10/25/2011

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Joann~ my daughter is in school & isnt potty trained but she is in pull ups full time though

Jessica - posted on 10/25/2011

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I am right there with you. I agree, yelling does not help at all and may actually make it worse. Then they feel they are doing something wrong by not going or feel like a disappointment. I think boys are just harder to train and you really just have to wait for them to be ready. My son does the back and forth too with being all about potty then nothing. He'll tell me he h as to go but then when we get to the bathroom he throws a fit. I know it will come along no matter how emotionally exhausting it is for me in the meantime. I don't really have many tips but wanted you to know I completely understand how you feel. My friend's son who will be 3 in February (mine was 3 last July) is fully potty trained. Each child is different BUT no one goes to college in diapers!!

EMMA - posted on 10/24/2011

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my daughter is nearly 5 and shes still not trained at night ive asked advice from health visitor sum kids r later than others dont worry it will cwm in time!x

Joanna - posted on 10/23/2011

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Hi Brenda...my daughter just turned 4 in August and is still not fully potty trained... she just recently started to tell me that she needs to go on the potty and has only pooped 1x and that was weeks ago... she just keeps pooping in the diaper... i guess its true ... they will do it when they are ready. I tried ot bribe her with pretty panties, special surprises.. the idea of starting school...even threats of taking toys away... but she just decided one day to start telling me when she needs to go and that is still not all the time.

Brenda - posted on 10/23/2011

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my daughter still isnt potty trained either...sometimes she will pee in the potty but others she wont, she still hasnt pooped in the potty yet.

Stephanie - posted on 10/21/2011

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Actually, my son just turned 3 and he's not potty trained. Not that we're not trying, but he's just not showing much interest in it, and his doctor has told me not to push it and that he'll let me know when he's ready. My mother in law said not to push him and he'll get the hint eventually. I did buy him a training potty and a potty seat to put on the big boy toilet, and every once in awhile he'll tell me he has to "pips or poops" (our code words, lol), but for the most part, we're still working on it. I wouldn't yell or get mad because that could end up backfiring and scaring him won't make him potty train any sooner. My nephew is 4 years old and my sister said he didnt start using the potty until about 4 months before his fourth birthday, so I'm really not to worried about it. Good luck! =)

Andrea - posted on 10/21/2011

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All I've been told time and time again is that when they're ready... which as my daughter gets older and I still find myself changing sheets almost every day I don't see the sence in that. My oldest is five and is potty trained only when she is awake. If she is sleeping there's a big opps to clean up. I've tryed cool alert pull ups and seen no results. I've even tried waking her up in the middle of the night. I guess we just need to hang in there and keep trying.

Kara - posted on 10/21/2011

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I have been trying to potty train my son on & off since he turned 2. It has not yet worked. (He'll be 4 yrs old in 2 months) We have tried it all, charts with stickers, 'prizes', candy, underwear only, no underwear (nothing on), videos, books, a little potty, a potty that attaches to the toilet, a small toilet seat built right into the grown-up one, watching his friend or his father go to the bathroom, you name it! He doesn't seem to care that all of his friends are trained, he doesn't care that only 'babies' wear diapers, he figures he can wait for a 'prize' until his birthday. He's got everything reasoned out. We had to change the sticker criteria, but he used to get one for every time he tried. So he'd 'try' all the time just to get his prize. But he never actually went potty!! Now, he only gets a sticker when he actually does something in the toilet.
His babysitter is good, she runs him in there every 20 minutes or so. Problem now is that he holds it most of the day, and then we have a flood about 10 minutes after we get home from the babysitters. Now I worry about how bad that is for his health! I have to reiterate that although we have tried all of this, he doesn’t seem daunted by it, it’s just not something he wants to do. I know he won’t be in HS wearing a diaper, but like the other Moms, I’d like to get him into preschool next year! I just keep telling myself over & over & over that he’ll do it when he’s ready. It’s just so hard because he’s always been ahead of the curve in EVERY other milestone….

Robin - posted on 10/20/2011

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My daughter has peed in the potty a handful of times over the last couple of years, pooped once that I can remember. Each time she was so proud of herself and we thought it woul be it, but the next time we asked her to go potty she flat out said, NO. And sometimes if we tried to force her she would get upset, so we stopped forcing her. I want her to use the potty, have tried putting her in just underwear, but she hates them, cries for a diaper. It's one of those things I just don't want to fight about even though I really want her to be potty trained, everyone keeps telling me to be patient. She'll do it when she's ready. So I keep trying to encourage her, but I don't force it. If she doesn't go to preschool until next year, then so be it.

Samantha - posted on 10/20/2011

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Hi! I know how you feel, I am going through the same little hurdel at the moment. At times I just feel hopeless more aspecialy when I go down our local Toys R us store to buy nappies with thoughts going trough my mind that I should be buying big boy undies and not Size 5 nappies. I also know that I need to be realistic and that each child developes at diffrent stages and with persistance and a lot of help and advice that we are going to get there!

Vanessa - posted on 10/19/2011

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i'm having the same troubles.....my son is 3-1/2, he refuses to wear underwear and today i bought pull-ups and he's refusing to wear them.........maybe i shouldnt push and he will eventually want to go on the potty, but i wanted to get him into pre-school or even daycare but all places say they need to be potty trained?! is taking toys away too negative, because i dont want to praise him with a $15 trasnformers toy everytime he goes potty and he dont give a damn about stickers lol...........i dont know what to do either?! :S

Natalie - posted on 10/19/2011

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My daughter has just turned 3 and although she is happy to sit on her potty,she will not do anything. I think she has only ever done anything the once! It is tough going as I am running out of ideas.
My health visitor says to be patient,but that is hard to do when her pull-up pants cost me a lot each week and she starts nursery in January!

Nicole - posted on 10/18/2011

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Hi... My daughter 4 yrs old.. Finally abt time few week ago or last month She went to potty training.. whew.. she know now i asked her go potty then she said yes... i told her go potty..i'm glad abt she go to potty... I feel like same i was fail to her go to potty but somehow in head start school told or explain to her how to go potty n make her learn something.. thats why..

Jennifer - posted on 10/18/2011

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My little boy just turned 3 and is not potty trained. He has had absolutely no interest whatsoever - no matter what I do. We have always been very open with him about it - reading books, watching the video's. When he says he wants to wear the 'big boy' pants, he ends up peeing through them. He has just very recently started telling me he wants his diaper changed - its icky he says - though half the time he's not even wet! I am hoping this is a start as most of his little friends are potty trained now. Don't give up - they all have their own agenda's. I have been told by numerous friends and my doctor not to push or it will take longer. You're not alone!

Amber - posted on 10/18/2011

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My son will be 4 in january and we have the same issues! Been trying since he was 2 but backing off since he wasnt ready then have tried and backed off over and over again. Hes very picky eater and doesnt really care about a reward chart!! Any ideas? He also doesnt seem to mind if he gets his undies wet and sits in them or not.

Melinda - posted on 10/18/2011

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You are doing great, just do not give up! It takes a lot of persistence and letting your son know that there is no chance of going back to diapers. As for your husband hollering at him - that may be throwing him off course. If your son associates potty training with stress and negativity, he might be less likely to want to go on the potty. Good luck girl, and it will happen soon enough - hang in there! :^)

Sophie - posted on 10/17/2011

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My daughter had this problem. She's 4 now and fully trained, with only the odd night time mishap. When she was 3 me and her teacher at nursery agreed she was intelligent enough to grasp the concept fully, and she well knew people expected her to go on the potty/toilet, she just would point blank refuse. I tried her without nappies during the day to start with, and this DID NOT work. She would pee herself and poo herself thinking she still had nappy on because this is what she did at night. I took the nappies away COMPLETELY and it's like a little switch went off in her head! Suddenly she was using the potty, being dry at night, and we only had a handful of "messed" pants before she totally got the hang of it. My advice would be take away the nappies completely, and DON'T GIVE IN! It will happen eventually, you just have to tough it out and have plenty of carpet cleaner and anti bacterial spray to hand! Best of luck anyone who is still struggling xx

Tanya - posted on 10/16/2011

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my son will be 3 years old in 9 days..he has no problem going pee on the potty..hes using adult potty.standing up..he is to big for the potties that you can buy..i am having a very hard time potty training him..for one week i put him in underwear and he did not even notice he was wet i had to check him all the time..his dad is adhd..and i think my son is to but its to early to check that yet..but he is going to daycare and they are showing him to potty..one day after daycare he wanted his diaper off which is very rare for him to say that...i have been trying myself but i dont have patients for him...hes going through this bad stage right now and its really stressing me and training him to go potty and me being stressed doesnt go well together..i always ask him if he needs to go potty his word is always no no..no pee coming..or no poo poo coming..but yet his peepee is hard and i know he needs to go..he just doesnt realize his feelings yet

Julia Bailey - posted on 10/16/2011

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my daughter just turned 3 and we got her potty trained a few months ago. we used a reward system. use the potty and get a treat! i heard boys can be tougher to potty train though. i have twins also who are 21 months and one is a boy ones a girl. my girl zoey is such a good girl about going potty and caiden refuses! they are pretty early to be potty training but the other day my 21 month old watched her big sissy go potty and wanted to try it. i think i have to wait with my son though because he has no interest in trying

Rabecca - posted on 10/16/2011

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Well my son's former daycare provider said that she used to help the kids potty train by telling them there were fishies in the toilet that eat the poopie and pee pee... she said it helped with most of the children she cared for... I took it one small step further and would put a goldfish cracker in the potty and tell him he needs to feed the fishy.. it helped. Might be worth giving a try. :)

Lisa - posted on 10/15/2011

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This sounds EXACTLY like what my daughter does, she has the routine down. I ask her to peepee, she says no, I sit her on the pot, she'll either whimper or just sit there and converse with me. Then she gets a square of TP and "wipes" although she has not done anything. She then gets down and flushes. LOL. Her day care teachers tell me that she's actually going during the day, and that maybe it's that she sees other kids doing it. I just can't get her to go at home. I think her skin sticks to the little plastic potty, and I wonder if that discomfort is part of the problem. I may try a new seat to see if that helps. otherwise, I'm at a loss myself. Hang in there, we mom's will figure it out someday! LOL

Susi - posted on 10/15/2011

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My son will be 4 on Nov 17th and was fully trained up until just after Christmas last year, he started peeing all the time. Then in March he started pooing himself all the time. With the use of stickers in late July the poo subsided and then eventually the pee. When my new baby was born last month he started again, and now it is EVERY day. I have a two and a half year old girl still having occasional accidents and a 1-month old to change and I really can'y handle it, any advice?

Jaslyn - posted on 10/14/2011

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my boy didnt take to the potty, but is doing well (still learning) on the "big boy" toilet :)

Shantelle - posted on 10/13/2011

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so glad im not alone my 3 yr old son will poop in the potty (thank goodness) but absolutely will not pee in the potty for nothing im just waiting until he decides its time...hopefully soon

Joanna - posted on 10/13/2011

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My daughter turned 4 in August and she just now started to pee a little bit, but she is far from potty trained... she is exactly like your son...I see your post is from march... has he gotten better since?

Gail - posted on 10/13/2011

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my son is 3 in December and he just wont go the toilet try everything can u plzx help

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