2nd baby

Bridie - posted on 09/23/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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can i ask mums who have 2 or more children, when did you feel the time was right to have baby number two and how old was first baby when 2nd baby was born? i ask this because recently i have been thinking bout when is the right time to have another baby. my lil boy would love a baby brother or sister and i dont want him to b an only child but dont want a big age gap between them, but i am currently single so if i decide to hav another baby soon i would hav to find a donor so dont no what to do. advice please xxx

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Loni - posted on 10/09/2010

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My first was just 12 months when we conceived. It was my rule that the first needs to be walking before we try for another. So they are 22 months apart and they love each other, on one hand you want them to be close and not to remember a time without the other, on the other the more self sufficient the first is the more it helps you. Although my two year old is a great kid its very hard having two kids. The saying that having one kid gives life meaning but having two is life altering is completely true! I love them both but you'll never realize how much work it is when you have one running down the street and you have to leave the other in the carseat on the lawn to chase after the first, or simply grocery shopping with one walking and grabbing everything and the other taking up the whole cart. You definitely need someone there, not necessarily a hubby but someone to even out the odds until the first is in school full time!

Emily - posted on 10/07/2010

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My oldest daughter was 2 years, 8 months when my second was born. It has turned out to be a great age difference (they are now almost 9 and 6). They play well together (although, of course, they do argue a lot, lol), and they really love each other. At school, if my older one sees my second looking sad on the playground, she goes over and cheers her up. It's very sweet! But it really is up to you and when you feel ready for a second child. We weren't "trying", but we weren't trying NOT to get pregnant, either....and it happened naturally. :) Hope that helps!



P.S. I'm sorry, I only just read the part where you said you are now single. Personally, I would NOT want to add to my family with another child without my husband. I could see having one, but when you add a second, you add a lot of stress and responsibility (although it is a complete joy). But I have to say... I really recommend not having another baby until you find a great man to marry! Just my opinion....Blessings!!

Anita - posted on 10/02/2010

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Well my 2nd pregnancy happened somewhat unexpectedly, I fell pregnant when my son was only 4 weeks old!! So my children have only 10 months diference between them. I haven't met anyone else who have had them so close which is a shame because no one knows how hard it is with 2 babies under the age of 1. Different sleeping times, different everything. Now that they are 1 and 2 it has only just started getting easier. They still fight a lot but it's not as exhausting because I don't have them both on my hip anymore. I think an age gap of at least 3 years would be nice. Even a bigger age gap would be good. There is 12 years difference between my brother and I and we never fought ONCE. Good luck xo

Kendra - posted on 09/24/2010

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My son is 2 and my daughter was born in April. They are 20 months apart. I definitely think for me, it was more of a selfish thing to try and have a second child because I wanted them to be no more than 2 years apart. It has worked out well. Definitely has been hard at times also, but as we all know, motherhood is difficult. I think that for you, maybe waiting for that someone to have a second baby would be better than finding a donor. But it is obviously your decision and would need to decide whether you and your child would be able to handle a second on your own. Good luck in whatever you decide!!

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Bridie - posted on 10/08/2010

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thanks emily, i think im goin to wait for now and try and get other things sorted out first xx

Bridie - posted on 09/24/2010

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i dont think i would hav a problem findin a donor if decided to have another baby cos my sons dad would prob help me out cos he wants another xxx

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