Am I potty trainning my 17month old to early?

Aysha - posted on 02/14/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hi my name is aysha and I am the single mother of to adorable boys. I have a 6 year old that will be 7 in about 2 weeks and a 1 year old that turns 2 in august. But heres the thing my 2 year old imiatates everything that my 6 year old does including taking off his pamper and taking a leak beside the toilet. so i went out to target and bought a potty and he hates it i feel like im pushing him to hard when i force him to sit there so what should i do????

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Charlotte - posted on 02/19/2010

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My little girl is almost 18 months and has had casual access to a potty since January. Wasn't my idea to start, her Dayhome suggested it based on her development. She is never forced but does go and sit 3-4 times/day and usually pees and poops a couple of times in it.



(Yes, if you wait until they're 3 you can train them in a week-end but, I like the idea of not having another year of diapers!) We're on target to have her fully trained by summer.



Having an older sibling to emulate is really helpfull but do keep the experience positive. As soon as it becomes negative, the entire process will be stalled indefinietly. Keep a toy near the potty and offer it if and when he wants to sit or try the potty. My daughter sees her Daddy read the paper on the potty and goes to get her flyers to join him (yes sad but really funny).

Stacey - posted on 02/19/2010

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I agree with Megan. You definitely do not want him to associate negative feelings or thoughts with the toilet and potty-training. We noticed, like Megan, that our daughter (same age as your son) was almost always urinating after her evening bath. She also usually has a bowel movement after a meal. I tend to put her on the potty after meals and always before and after her bath. If, when I mention that we're going to try the potty, she shakes her head no, no, no, I do not put her on it. If she sits for a bit, does nothing and wants to get off, I let her and thank her for sitting there and trying. At least twice a day, though, she will urinate or have a bowel movement in the toilet so we get all excited, lots of smiles and hugs. I feel like getting her used to the idea and getting comfortable with it is the most important thing at this point. She has communicated to me several times after dinner, while still at the table, that she has to "poop" and she points down to the ground indicating she wants down. I tell her we'll try the potty and she is able to hold it until we get her on there, but I think those are just coincidences. I've heard they need three things before being fully potty-trained: aware of the feeling that they need to go, able to control bladder/bowels to hold it until on the potty, and able to think through communicating with you that they need to go. With your son having an older brother to model behavior, I'm sure he'll get it quickly when he's ready!

Megan - posted on 02/18/2010

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Don't force him to sit on it.
Before giving our daughter a bath we have her sit on her potty but if she does not want to sit on it we do not make her. You defiantly do not want him to hate the potty and not want anything to do with it. Just slowly introduce it such as before bath time. But never force him to sit on it or anything! Otherwise just let him get used to it and if he decides to pee next to the toilet tell him next time to try peeing in the potty.

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Michelle - posted on 02/24/2010

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Anastasia, I'm telling you - GO TO THE LIBRARY & CHECK OUT 'Toilet training in less than a day' It is wonderful!! The Potty education cues are: Physical readiness: has enough finger & hand coordination so can pick up objects easily, Instructional Readiness: can follow simple instructions (ie take "this" to "there", give mom the cup, etc), speaks rather fluently (moma, dady, potty, etc), Bladder control readiness: stays dry for long period of time, makes facial expression when "pottying"

Anastasia - posted on 02/23/2010

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I have a daughter that will turn two in August and I'm confused as to exactly what the potty training cues are. Anyone got advice on what physical signs they give when they are ready to start potty training? To help you out, the best advice that I have been given is dont enforce using the potty or they will see it as punishment which I'm sure you have heard before.

Amy - posted on 02/23/2010

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My son will be 2 in August and I have been working with him on potty training since he was like 15 months. I dont force him we just go and sit on the potty I bought him and he knows what he has to do in it and pees almost every time and when he does pee he gets 1 m&m even if he doesnt go we still make a big deal out of it and tell him how proud we are of him. If you think your child is ready to try it is not to early only you can tell when your child is ready no one else.

Jennifer - posted on 02/22/2010

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Kids let you know know whent hey are ready and if he is taking his diaper off and actually goes then or even tries then maybe try a step stoll for him to use the toilet like his big brother. Forcing him to sit on the potty chair may scare him and that will make him refuse to do it even later. My daughter who will also be 2 in August is following her brother who we are potty training right now and she will sit on the potty after him however if she does not want to we do make her its kind of her own thing. It is the one thing they can control and trying to force the issue gets you going backwards.

CAMILLE - posted on 02/22/2010

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I totally agree with Michelle even tho no book can truly teach you how to potty train your child cuz every child is different it may help. My 17 month old poops in the potty and has been since he was 13 months. Try letting him do something he enjoys while his sitting on the potty. My son likes to "read" books on the potty and watch cartoons so that may help. Then when he does go in the potty get really excited and cheer and clap for him and make everyone who's around cheer for him too especialy his big brother, this will give him positive reinforcement.

Michelle - posted on 02/21/2010

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oh oh oh moms sorry to say you are wrong. Aysha PLEASE go to the library and get the best book in the WORLD "Toilet training in less than a day". It not only states that 18 months is a perfect time but recommeded. (I know you said your child is 17 months). I have used this style of potty education with my 3 older sons and now with my young daughter. It workes EVERY TIME!

Sara - posted on 02/21/2010

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no my guy is almost 18 months and he is wanting to potty train, like he tells me he has to potty runs to the bathroom and takes off his pants and diaper then if I am not there yet he goes on the floor but he also hates having wet or dirty diapers and has since he was really little and would take them off. And my guy wont use the potty chair that is there but he is a bit too big for it as it stand so dont worry. If he is trying to potty run with it and be happy but put him on the big potty facing backwards so he doesnt mess the floor.

Emily - posted on 02/21/2010

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gosh i know a wee girl that has been potty trained since 13 months during the day it just takes a mummy with lots of time and patience to incourage the child to wee in the potty , dont give up its not at all to early save money on nappys

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