Anyone Trying for their next yet?

Phyllis - posted on 03/28/2010

I don't think there is any wrong or right time to have another. I have a 5 year old and a 19 month old and am 7 1/2 months pregnant with number 3. All boys!! There will be 22 months between the youngest and this one and I think it will be good. My oldest was 3 1/2 when his brother was born and did really well but I'm glad these two will be a little closer in age. The baby loves babies already so I think he will adjust well. Just follow your heart and when you're ready go for it.

Kelly - posted on 03/18/2010

probably going to wait for awhile. My son is 19 months, but a little troublemaker! We only want 2- so there is no hurry for the next baby. I want to be able to enjoy my son for awhile:) Most likely if everything goes as planned they will be close to 3 years apart.

Carla - posted on 03/18/2010

I have an 8 yr old, 5 1/2 yr old, 3 yr old and our baby, the 19 mo. old. So we have 22 to 30 mos. between each of our kids. It's hectic for sure, but I love having them close in age. For me the two that were 30mos (2 1/2 yrs) apart was the best timing. But you can not perfectly 'time' a new baby, since there's no telling how long it may take to concieve again. As for me, my kids are all close in age and play well together (most of the time). Your son will grow to love your 'new baby' as the baby is growing inside of you and by the time the 'new baby' is born, he will already love his new baby brother or sister. Have fun concieving! :)

Carly

Nike - posted on 03/18/2010

Hi!I am new here.i don't think its too early in my opinion.in fact we seem to be in the same boat.i am also working/trying on my next child and believing God for a girl. i don't think you son will take it badly.just carry him along when u are sure u have taken in.

Emily - posted on 03/17/2010

My brother and I are 8 years apart and are very close. I had had 8 years of being an only child but was only too happy to have him come along. I don't think there is a right or wrong time to try again, a family is what it is and age gaps, ultimately, don't matter that much. A new sibling has much to offer on different levels at different ages. If they are close in age they can play together but might be competing for the same toys, if there is more of a gap they may have differing interests but be much more patient and enjoy helping each other. Horses for courses. Do what feels right for you.

Caren - posted on 03/17/2010

My oldest is 18 months old and my newest son is 3 months old. I was freaked out at first but now that he is here I think it is good too have them close. They will be into the same shows and toys at the same time and when I get the youngest out of diapers that is it. No more diapers at all.

Christyn - posted on 03/17/2010

Hi Kristy: My husband & I have started to try for our 2nd - our daughter is just about 19 months, so if all works well they'd be a little over 2 years apart in age. I think that it really is a personal decision. You know what is best for your body and your family. It will be an adjustment for your son, but having siblings is nice as well, especially siblings that are close in age so they can be playmates. Again, it's a personal decision. You'll get the opinions of those who think you're crazy and then those who think that it's awesome to have the ages so close. Go with your gut.

Marge - posted on 03/17/2010

My son is 19 months and I am thinking about getting ready for the second one as soon as my insurance permits... in November.... so it could be another summer baby :p

Lucy - posted on 03/16/2010

My son is 19 mnths old and my daughter is 8 mnths old. It was difficult at first but its getting much easier & the kids are already playing together.

Ries - posted on 03/16/2010

tried, concieved and delivered! Jonah arrived 13-14 months after Erienne. while I have four other children, this was a lot harder in the pregnancy as I was working all the way through both, and I am no spring chicken. He is 5 months now and she is 18 months. but time was running away with me, it was now or never. having separated the others all by 4-5 years which I HIGHLY recommend, I am now experiencing the mad mummy moments of two babies together, and also can recommend that! I keep seeing them together and know what such good friends they are going to be, they delight in each other at the moment! any age gap has been done before by someone, and it is what you make of it I think. good luck.

my brother and I were 2.5 years apart and vastly different in personality and he hated me for years as the big sister... we got over it! it's prob why I avoided that age gap in my kids, and why I gave my kids sibling 'options'! truly though after all these years, I think it is what YOU make of it. parenting is hard and one challenge now might work out to be a blessing later, like too close or too separate have diff challenges and diff easier bits. i know a woman who fell pregnant 3 weeks after birth and that child was born prem. her babies are SEVEN months apart in age. it's all perspective! enjoy your kiddies as you get them, they are blessings! (and you will work out the sibling things, there are several books about preparing kids for each other out there...)

Kimberly - posted on 03/16/2010

I have two sons and i waited five years at first i thought my oldest would be a helpful hand and its more of an arguing battle between them both , i think everyone should have kids close anywhere between two and three years are good but its on how you and your husband feels , for some reason i want another child but I'm scared how both of my children will react and how i could handle the two little ones but my biggest advice is make sure the little one is potty training and not still in diapers .

Tracy - posted on 03/16/2010

Our first is 19 months old, and I'm pregnant with our second. They'll be 27 months apart. Under perfect circumstances, I probably would have waited longer, but I'm already 37 and we had to do IVF, so we didn't feel comfortable waiting. It might be a little hectic the first year or 2, but I also think it'll be good to have them close in age :)

Melissa - posted on 03/16/2010

my daughter is 19 months and we are trying for a second. I think as long as your ready that other children will adapt to their new life style with a sibling, i know i show carlee babies when i see them and try to give her time with other kids hopefully that will help the fact that she wont be the only one

Stephanie - posted on 03/16/2010

I think that is a great age to start. My girls are 13 1/2 months apart. It's good to have them close in age. That way they can grow up together. I say go for it.

Melissa - posted on 03/15/2010

Oooo, exciting to try!!



TO answer your questions.. YES!!! WE started trying in Janurary and scored right away!. I have 4 children at the moment and we are super excited about #5. Its interesting how kids react to new siblings. I find the younger the easier. My youngest right now is just 19 months old and will be 2 when #5 is born. Shes going to have the toughest out of all the kids, but I think its something that will still be exciting for her.



Again, GOOD LUCK!

Christina - posted on 03/15/2010

I found out I was pregenant with my second son when my oldest was 11 months old...they are 19 months apart...the first 6-8 months were a little challenging, but now they are 3 and 19 months and they love to play with eachother and because they are so close they like to play with the same toys and it is a real joy to watch....good luck

Clover - posted on 03/15/2010

Just had my second. Taking a break to get my body back in shape...I have two girls 15 1/2 months apart.....Its hard but, I think in the long run they will be close and have a good relationship! I think I want to wait til my youngest is at least 10 months before trying again! But, you're a good space between them...My oldest just loves, and is very intuned with, her baby sister.

Trisha - posted on 03/15/2010

i want to start having another my son is 19 moths old now an lots of babies have been born all around us he loves seeing them but my guy says no way to soon still

Cheryl - posted on 03/11/2010

I have 2 girls 15 1/2 mths apart. Alicia adores her little sister (way too much). We brought her own baby doll and gave it to her in hospital so mum had a baby and so did she. The fist time Alicia seen me breast feeding she riped Maegan clean off me, but i just talked calm and explained she seemed ok then. I use Maegan to tech Alicia things like washing your hair is ok, watch Maegan likes it.

I could go on they are so beautiful, a handfull but wonderfull

Renee - posted on 03/11/2010

I think its a great age to start trying for a new one. I have 3 kids...the first 2 are 2.5 years apart and the last 2 are 12 months apart. I know there super close together!!! Now they are 5, 2.5 and 1.5 and they all get along and fight together. They help each other and get each other in trouble. My 5 year old helped potty train my 2.5 year old and the 1.5 year old flushes the toliet...all about team work!!!! But once your out of diapers there gone, once the baby sleeps through the night your done, ect ect. I like it better this way then having to start ALL over!

Erica - posted on 03/10/2010

No that is a perfect time that way they don't get to use to being the only one. Our oldest was that age and he was so excited and then we had a 4 yr. gap in between the

middle and youngest and she did horrible she did get to use to it until about 6 monthes ago. She would say I'm not the baby anymore and i don't like it. So now is right otherwise they get jealous.

Ashley - posted on 03/10/2010

I think it is a good idea to have them close together. I am due in may with my second one so it will make my kids about 21 months apart. If you have lots of patients,energy and time go for it. Good luck!!!!!!

Ashley - posted on 03/10/2010

There is nearly 3 years between me and my sister and we have always got on fine .... I dont think you should feel rushed to go onto have another one just because you are worried about the age gap your children will love each other no matter what how ever long the gap! Wait till you are ready and comfortable, and happy to start all over again :-) xx

Angela - posted on 03/10/2010

My son was 18 months old when we conceived our daughter. She was born when he was 2 years 3 months old. We are waiting longer to have our third! I think it is a good age distance, but it IS difficult when they are young. My son is now 3 years 9 months old and my daughter is 18 months old. It is getting easier as they get older.

Jessica - posted on 03/09/2010

I think it's a good age difference between. OUr August girl (Evelyn Grace aka Buttons) is our only child (she wasn't exactly "planned" if ya know what i mean. and for our next one (we only want one more-but that's what my mother-in-law said when she got prego with my hubs... and his twin, so here's hoping to Only One More) we want to try to set the timing better (at least as much as fate will let us!)



I grew up with an older brother (by six years), an older sister (by 15 months) and after my dad remarried i got four younger brothers! (step-bro is 2 years younger, then half-bro's are spaced out two years apart after him) So i grew up with all sorta of age differences with my siblings... and the only one i really had trouble getting along with was my only sister who was closest to my age. Since we were so close in age we got paired up for everything and had to share everything while everyone else was far enough apart that developmentally they needed there own things. I always hated that. My husband has a twin brother (they are those kinda twins that literally are extatic to be together all the time) and he has an older brother who is about 15 mo older than him. again, he didn't get along with the older brother growing up.



so we're going to start trying to have another munchkin this summer, so that at least they'll have a good two years between them (if i get prego right away anyway)



that's our plan anyway! good luck!

Erica - posted on 03/09/2010

I dont think its to soon, my daughter is almost 19 months and we started trying for #2 last month

Tennille - posted on 03/09/2010

Hmmmm.My twins are 18 months now and we have already had our next!! lol Yes,yes very crazy haha.

They didn't take to their little brother to well initially but now my little girl loves him.My son on the other hand doesn't really even acknowledge much him but we are getting there.I would say go for it though!!It is hard but I wouldn't change it for anything :)

Rebecca - posted on 03/09/2010

i got pregnent with my second when my oldest daughter was nine months. i had rehgan, my second, 6 weeks early so they were 15 months apart. besides the lack of sleep with a toddler in the house, i wouldnt change a thing. if i were you i would try now because if you wait then you might get the whole jelousy rebellion issue from your son.

Marina - posted on 03/09/2010

I really think it depends on the baby. My daughter is 18 m old and she has a 9m old cousin who she loves being around and wants to play with a all the time. We want to try for #2 in a few months time. I think this age is perfect. The first one is not too young or two old. Mine will start school in september so she will start having other things to do. I think if you wait too long, then they get used to being alone and might be more difficult. For you as well, going back to no sleep and diapers after you spend a long time with out it. And i dont think you can avoid jealousy all together!

Angela - posted on 03/07/2010

We got pregnant with our second when our daughter was 17 months old which meant she was 2 years and 2 months when he was born. It's a nice spacing we found. We prepped her as best we could by moving her into her big girl bed about 4 months before the baby arrived and read many a big sister book as well. She loved him from day 1 and there were of course times when she was a bit jealous or not understanding that he couldn't do everything she could but it's been an amazing experience and now they're very close and are having a blast playing together.

Kylie - posted on 03/07/2010

My eldest is 9 and my youngest is nearly 19mths and i am 5mths pregnant with nubmer 3. My eldest and my youngest have a great relationship, a very special bond. They do say that having them closer together is good - but obviously i have a big gap and still find it wonderful. I will however, also have two close together, which i'm sure will be nice also. It's not too early. It's just up to you and if you are ready for another one yet. I alos wonder how my little one will react with a new baby in the family, but i'm certain it will be fine. She does go to daycare and loves spending time in the nursery with the babies. Best of luck with it all

Stephanie - posted on 03/06/2010

no i dont think its too early. Mine is 18 mo and we are going to start trying in June. I want to get pregnant with my second and last before im 30

Harmony - posted on 03/06/2010

Hi, I am a mother of three boys and the first two are 22 months apart. I think if anything it will give you a definite timeline of when you want to have your first one potty trianed, bottle weaned, self feeding, dressing, ect. It was a wonderful motivator for me to get him to do more things for himself and that bettered us both. There are four years between middle and last child and it was more of a shock to have to go back to diapers and bottles after so long. Not the case going from the first to the second child. :)

Jennifer - posted on 03/06/2010

My husband I have been trying for number two since our daughter was nine months old. We haven't had any luck yet, but since my obygn told me it might be harder the second time we aren't surprised. I think it maybe rough at first with the no sleeping thing, but my husband and his siblings are really close in age so they ended up sharing alot of really good things through out their childhood. When it's right for you it's the right time. Don't worry about it!! It all comes together the way it should be!!

Jessica - posted on 03/06/2010

My next is currently 3 months old! lol. Hindsight says that waiting a little longer would have been easier as DS 19m is a busy handfull but he also doesn't really understand n the jealousy issues have been minimal. He plays up when he wants attention but doesn't target DD as the reason for less attention. Some days can be hard with nappies take up the bulk of my day (and shopping trolley) and it can be very hard changing bad poo with morning sickness. I wanted close in age kids though. Maybe they'll grow up better friends than my brother and I.

Neva - posted on 03/06/2010

My last two were 16 months apart, one is a boy and one is a girl for the most part it has been wonderful having them so close together. It made me more motivated to get the girl potty trained so I wouldn't have two in diapers.

Li - posted on 03/06/2010

So your son would be over 2 when your next baby would arrive. I think that's ok, all depends on the family really though and whether you think you're ready as everyone's different. Everyone will have their different opinions on this 1 so do what you think's right for you! Some toddlers will get jealous with a new baby on the scene (this usually doesn't last long though) and others don't, but it's something that will be overcome fairly easily i'm sure. Good luck with whatever you decide x

Vicki - posted on 03/06/2010

Hi I get married in 10 weeks and if it wasnt for fitting in my dress we would have started trying by now. I don't think it's too early at all. I'm sure ur son would love having a baby brother or sister! :)

Leah - posted on 03/05/2010

if you want more children then always nice to have them close i have 5 the eldest being 9 and the youngest 18 months mostly 2 yr gaps beside my 3rd and 4th they are 1yr and 6 days apart and was a challenge at times but i think they all are :) goodluck hope it all goes well it's good for them to be able to grow up with there siblings i think :)

Kasandra - posted on 03/05/2010

Ok. There are advantages and disadvantages. Mine are 19 months apart. Sly is now 3 yrs and 2 months and Slade is 19 months. Sly did great when Slade was born. I was worried about jealousy, but he he did wonderful. Sly is stubborn so talking came after he was 2 and potty training has had it's challenges. And I think I could have worked with him more if I wouldn't have had to constantly say "Hang on, your brother is crying or he needs to eat" Now, Sly doesn't nap during the day and Slade takes one nap. They both STILL wake up throughout the night. I wish I would have waited to get pregnant when Sly was 2 then have the baby when he was almost 3. But I love them and we get through it. Good Luck. Just cherish the one you have and let him be little.

Valerie - posted on 03/05/2010

Our first child was born 8-05-08 and we got pregnant 8-29-09 with baby #2, due in May 2010. Unfortunately it ended in miscarriage but I think it would've been great having kids so close together. They would've been 21 months apart. I definately don't think it's too soon to start trying! Good Luck!

Tammy - posted on 03/04/2010

I am pregnant with #2 right now. Due in 2 months. I think the closer you have the kids together the better. Less traumatic. Of course it will be an adjustment, but the longer you wait the farther apart the kids will be in age. I have a 5 year old niece and a 16 month old nephew. The 5 year old is reverting back to baby stuff due to the age difference. And...she acts out a lot. The attention isn't there anymore. In reality, it's like she was an only child. If you have the kids closer in age, they won't remember as much w/out the other. Just my thoughts.

Candace - posted on 03/04/2010

My daughter is 18 months old and I am 5 months pregnant with baby #2! If you are ready, go for it.

Amy - posted on 03/04/2010

Hmmmm, not sure what we want to do...we have an 11 year old girl, my son turns 8 this month and our twin girls will be 19 months tomorrow...I would like to have one more(hopefully another boy)yet I am still not positive-the girls are sleeping all night now and I am just catching up on sleep-do I want to start all over??? LOL...

Catherine - posted on 03/04/2010

Not trying since my second is now 2 months!!! Jack is 18 months and loves his little brother! I think they will be friends. How does your child react to other babies? Jack loved other babies and is the same w his bro.

Zoe - posted on 03/04/2010

hi, i have 18 month twin boys and a 6 week old girl. they are fine, if anything they love her too much and just want to cuddle her all the time. i was dreading their reaction to her but they have been great. so long as they get cuddles as much as she does. all i need is another arm now for each of them. my older 2 were 2.5 yrs apart which was easier as they understood more but i wouldnt change it.

Toni-Rae - posted on 03/03/2010

I already have another whos 6 months! It was INSANE when he was new born, cos my daughter who was just one and wasnt walking yet. But its now good :) Shes a little Mommy to him. I have two others, and three of them are all exactly 2 and a half years apart - to us a great difference to save for private schooling! Lol! Also they understand theres a baby inside and they talk to it and rub it! SO cute :)

Kate - posted on 03/03/2010

My husband and I have an 18 month old and we're going to have our second one in three months so they'll be about 21 months apart. I think it's just fine! My sister and I have the same distance in age and it was just fine for us!

Andrea - posted on 03/03/2010

I got pregnant with my now 18 month old when my first child was just a few months old. They are 11 months and 4 days apart and although it was scary at first, I wouldn't have it any other way. They're such good friends now! I think I'm ready for a third!!

Erin - posted on 03/03/2010

All four of mine are two years apart exactly--they all came in August. That was a good spacing for us. I have three girls and a boy who was third in line, and my boy was the only one who seemed to have some trouble adjusting to the new baby. He just didn't seem to grasp the idea of sharing me at first. But now he's 3 1/2 and my youngest is 18 months and they play really well together. What I've learned from years of daycare is that when a new baby comes, the next older one always goes through a bit of regression in the adjustment period, but the older a child is, the more irritating that phase is :) It's a lot easier to tolerate a 2 1/2 year old climbing into the high chair and asking you to pack him wetting himself than having to deal with a five year-old doing the same thing :) The closer you have them, the more challenging it might be initially, but you'll get the quicker pay-off of built-in playmates. The further apart you have them, you get more opportunity to savour the baby phase uninterrupted, but then it's a lot longer for the playmate thing to kick in :) It's all about deciding what kind of dynamic you'd like in your family, and then hoping that Mother Nature agrees with your own sense of timing :) Good luck!