Anyone Trying for their next yet?

Kristy - posted on 01/13/2010 ( 158 moms have responded )

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Hello,

Its been awhile since i have been on here. My sone is 17 months old now and we are thinking aout trying for #2 now. Do you think its to early stil. i wonder how my sone will react with the new baby as well. just wondering what your views are on it :)

thanks!

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Caryn - posted on 02/21/2010

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We had our second baby in November. My kids are 15 months apart...I say if you feel ready then go for it.

Eva - posted on 02/21/2010

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My babies are 16 months apart. I'm not going to lie, it can be hard! But my son ( he's 3 in April) is a great big brother. I'm sure your son will be helpful and love a new baby. As long as you keep him in the loop and are open & honest with him.

Lin - posted on 02/21/2010

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hiya my daughter is same age and me and my husband decided that now is the time to start trying for no 2. if i wait till she any older im scared i might like my new found independence and keep putting it off. i dont want too big of an age gap cause id feel like im starting from scratch all over again. i figured if i got pregnant now. she will be two and a half by the time baby is born. shell have just given up her bottle completely. hopefully out of nappies and it just means i carry on with those things with the baby as its what ive been use to so it wont be a change for me. plus they will be close in age which means they will always have that bond of being able to do things together. theyll only be a year or two between them in school so they can look after each other in the school yard lol plus they can share friends. plus i have a sister two years younger than me and we are so close. did and so everything together. shared clothes, friends, id be lost with out her. my sister has two boys with the same age gap and when no kids are calling for them to play it dosnt matter cause they always have each other to play with. to distract each other from getting board etc. my sister reconds its easier to have two like this. not only that i still have all the major things i needed on my first like cot, moses basket, sterilizer all that stuff that i wont have to buy again cause they still pretty new. i think you should go for it. you wont look back. plus your son will be at the age where he will want to help you with the baby .

Eve - posted on 02/21/2010

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My litttle boy's 18months old & we're thinking of starting again sometime in May. Infact, my husband wanted it since November last yr, i am the one holding on. I think its a good idea to have them this early. My brother & I have only 16 months diffrenece; my mum said he was jealouse at the begining but later he became so fun of me. Even now as I see my boy plays alone, nobody needs to tell me that its high time he got a brother/sister!

Mandie - posted on 02/20/2010

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Lol we are thinking on trying for our third in august. that will put our other 2 at 4 and 2. Having 2 this close together was a great idea for us because they are growing together. Its a wonderful experience and we cant wait to add number 3 to the mix :D As for how your son will react i worried about that to. I bought my son a couple of cheap baby dolls from kmart and taught him how to be gentle and quiet with them and explained as much as i could, and now i have the worlds best big brother. He has been so great with her from day one. No problems at all. He loved to help feed her and pick out her clothes, and he even gave her all of his "Babies" when she was born.

Megan - posted on 02/20/2010

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I can definitely recommend having them close in age. My first 2 are 13 months apart and my following pair are 11 months apart. If your patience and time can handle it I say go for it!

Amy - posted on 02/20/2010

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I'm trying too! I think your son will respond well to a new baby as long as you make the birth special for him.

Jessica - posted on 02/20/2010

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Our next one is 7 wks old now! Chase just turned 18 months and he is a great big brother! He always wants to hold his sister and help feed her, put her laundry in the hamper, etc. She never wants for sloppy kisses! He'll be fine!

Theresa - posted on 02/19/2010

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We strarted traying in November last year. My son enjoys his friends at daycare, I can only see that he will enjoy having a best friend forever.

Monique - posted on 02/17/2010

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My son is 18 months and I just had my daughter. My son is a very good big brother. He gets bottles and always wants to get her pacifier. The downside is trying to stretch ur attention. Your oldest may think he or she should still have the same amount of attention they did before the new baby. The constant pampers and crying can get tiring at times.

Ashley - posted on 02/17/2010

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My fiance and I want another baby. We have had three miscarriages in the last year and we have decided as soon as we are more financially stable. If we had more income coming in then you bet we would plan on a second baby. I think its a good age difference.

Yvonne - posted on 02/17/2010

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My youngest son is 17 months old and I am pregnant with our 4th. Our first two are 4 years and 8 months apart and our second and third are 2 years and 5 months apart. The two little ones will only be 22 months apart. There are pros and cons for all the spacing. I got a lot more one on one time with my second since my oldest was in school, but it was kind of hard "starting over." My current youngest is very close with my middle son and all the oldest two do is fight with each other. The closer age is good for a lot of reasons, but I felt like my middle son was cheated a little by his brother coming a lot sooner that he did. We were actually planning on at least 3 years between our youngest and #4 but we were pleasantly surprised a couple years early...

It all really depends on what you are comfortable with. If you are not sure how your son will react to a new baby ask to "borrow" a friends baby for an hour. Babysit for them while they go shopping or something, and see how your son reacts. That will not only help you judge if he is ready but it will also help you realize if YOU are ready.

Jenni - posted on 02/16/2010

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My first two are 27 months apart and the last 2 are 21 months apart. I've done 2 in diapers, plus I cloth diaper and it has been wonderful! Believe me, it's got it's fair share of hard times too (what age doesn't?) but it's always worth it when I see how much fun they have playing together and the close bonds they all share!

Uzanne - posted on 02/16/2010

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well if everything goes well we are going to try for #2 after aug 2010. then he will be 2 my son. so no I don't think its to soon, everybody say that #1 will help you with #2 by keeping him/her busy and so on. just keep #1 inform with everything thats going on with the prengnacy. good luck

Amy - posted on 02/16/2010

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Hi Kristy

Sam will be 18 months tomorrow and we have been trying since Dec. I will be 35 this year so that is the main reason, plus I think it is nice for siblings to be close in years for school. Have you started trying yet? x

Karen - posted on 02/13/2010

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Hey!! My daughter is 18 months tomorrow, and we just found out yesterday we're pregnant!! we've been trying for a few months cause we wanted them close in age.I was very lucky my first pregnancy went sooo well that I've been really excited to have another one, hopefully it'll all go well as the first!! lol, but one thing I have heard is to wait til boys are 3 or older to have a second because their alot more jealous than girls, after they turn 3 they understand that mom needs to be with the baby alot, but all kids are diferent, so who knows!! , I say if you're ready now go for it!! Good luck!!!!

Caroline - posted on 02/12/2010

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I am pregnant of my second baby. We are thinking it will be easyer if the child was closer in age. I hope we made the good chose because it will have only 22 mounths beetween my two childs...

Kendall - posted on 02/10/2010

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I have friends that had their kids 11 months apart and as far as 6 years apart. It is obviously to each their own but as far as Im concerned and what is right for me and my family is... my husband and I plan to start to try for the 2nd when our daughter turns 2. Our reasoning is... to birth another when your 1st is 12 months or so is taking away from their baby hood. We feel that they still need so much from you when they are that young and you do not have the quality time they need if you have a newborn to take care of also. Now that our daughter is 18 months old and we are thinking about trying in 6 months were not sure that we are ready for another let alone her being ready. We would like for her to be potty trained and a little more independent once the new baby comes that way if she goes to preschool/daycare she will be able to voice to us what is going on and what her needs are instead of trying to figure out 2 babies needs at once. I am an only child myself but my husband is 3 years older than his brother and they got along well as children and still do today. So I think that 3 years apart is a perfect age. :)

Kelly-anne - posted on 02/10/2010

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Hi, I have 2 sons, the eldest was 3 on monday and the youngest was 18months on sunday. My eldest took his 1st steps on the day his new brother was born, so that was a big help lol ! I planned to have them this close together as there is only 15 months between me and my sister. The boys are so close and the youngest really looks up to his big brother! Good luck x

Erica - posted on 02/09/2010

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I am pregnant with the second. We are expecting a little girl in mid-May. I'm excited to get it all overwith but I have been thinking lately that we didn't wait long enough. My son will be 21 months old. I wanted him more like 24-30 months old. :)

Trina - posted on 02/09/2010

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Hello,
My daughter is 17 months and Im 8 months pregnant. I think it is best to have them close in age. She loves babies, so I dont think its a problem with the jealousy. I had my first two 15 months apart and growing up together was wonderful for them. They had each other to play with. My opinion, I say go for it. You wont regret it.

Heather - posted on 02/08/2010

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Well let's see,. my oldest was born in December of '05 so my 2 are just under 3 years apart. My son has been really good with his little sister. So, it's really up to your patience level and finances. I'm just about ready to try for number 3 but my hubby thinks we should wait about 4 more years (I had the Mirena implant last year lol). But it may be in our best interests to wait since we're looking for a bigger house and our oldest starts preschool in the fall. As fast as your son's reaction to it, that will depend on how you introduce him to the idea of having a sibling. When I found out I was pregnant with Camryn I started out by letting him know that there was a baby in my belly and that when the time came she would come out and he would have a little brother or sister. So while I was carrying Cammy, Nathan would talk to my belly and try to feed the baby through my belly button and stuff. It was really quite cute. Once she got here, it took him a little while to get adjusted to the fact that I couldn't just get up and get him a cup of juice at the drop of a hat b/c I had to nurse the baby. He got used to it and he enjoyed helping out with the new baby by bringing me a bottle or getting her a blanket.

Sara - posted on 02/07/2010

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I say go for it. I got pregnant again around my daughters 1st bday. I am do in May. Tho I don know how shell act. She loves babies. And loves her lil baby dolls. And will tell you to shh when she is playin with them. I think she is making them take a nap or somthing. I also have a 10 year old and she was jelous at first when the baby came. So I really think it depends on how you invole the other child.

Sara - posted on 02/06/2010

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We are already expecting #2 and are due in June. They will be 22 months apart, which I think is actually a nice age spread... except for the cost of daycare. =( This will probably be it for us, so we won't have to have years and years of childproofing. We'll just get it overwith and move on. =) Good luck!

Torey - posted on 02/06/2010

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my husband and i are trying for number 2. my doctor said it's a perfect time to try. and i think having a sibling close to her age will be fun for our daughter, miranda. good luck with whatever you decide! :)

Stacy - posted on 02/06/2010

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My son is 17 months and I'm expecting my second at the end of April. IT's a great age difference. They'll be able to play together and your older child will be able to be a helper. Don't stress about it. Just see what God has planned for you.

Kristina - posted on 02/05/2010

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I have been thinking about it. My husband is all for it. I am a bit hesitant just because I am still battling anxiety and depression from my last pregnancy. I am hopeful that I will have a better/easier time with my pregnancy and postpartum issues next time around. One can only hope. I would love to have another, my little man needs a playmate. Good luck to all!

Melissa - posted on 02/05/2010

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Well, we hadn't tried but I did get pregnant. I had the same due date that I had with my daughter, 2 years later. At first I was a bit shocked, I'm still breastfeeding my 17 month old and the thought of tandem nursing, well, it took a week to warm up to the idea. But the more I thought about it, it really was perfect timing, what a great distance between them. However at twelve weeks I miscarried. At this point we're going to wait at least 6 months before we try again. I think at least starting to try now is a great idea!

Jane - posted on 02/04/2010

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Hi, I have tw oboys, my oldest is 3 in may, youngest 2 in august. there is 15 months between them, so I was pregnant with number two when number one was only 6 months old. I admit it was not planned like this and I was a little scared that I wouldn't cope. But now I have no regrets at all. Don't get me wrong the first year was hard, but as soon as number 2 is walking it gets a little easier!!! My two play really well together, there are still some fights, but they seem to figure it out and move on. I am a single mum too, so if I can do it, I think anybody can. As for the older child, they take a month to realise that they are not the only child in the world and adjust!!!

Lynne - posted on 02/04/2010

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Hiya
My daughter is 18months old and my husband and I are trying for #2, we reckon that it'll happen when the time is right so we're leaving it to fate to decide. I think you'll always worry about whether its the right time so if you want another one and feel physically ready go for it :) x

Bredenhof - posted on 02/04/2010

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Go for it! Our first two are 2 years 2 months apart and they are such good buddies eventhough they are now 12 and 10. My 2 and 3rd are a little over 3 years apart and their relationship is okay but not as close. Our 3rd and 4th child are 5 years apart....down side: VERY spoiled 17 month old who has everyone coddling her to the point that she is slowly turning into a Queen B. LOL I say, go ahead, since you are still in baby mode and not used to sleeping in, etc. Once you have been able to sleep in, it is harder to have another one! LOL

Kendra - posted on 02/04/2010

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There are always pros and cons to having kids so close together, or having them too far apart. I personally am not going to even think about trying for another until Carson is 3, I want them to be closer to 4 years apart. That way he can help with diapers :) and he'll be in school for a part of the day so I can have alone time with the new baby... Just a thought.

Laura - posted on 02/03/2010

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Hey there, I actually had my second when mydaughter who is now 17 months old was 15 months old and it is very fun. THere was a couple of days where our oldest had a rough time with it but now she just loves to gve kisses, and does everything I do (even nurses) her baby doll-its very cute!

Jessica - posted on 02/03/2010

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It is a great idea!! most people say that thinking about having 2 babies so young under the one roof sounds hard, but its a hell of a lot easier than everyone makes out. I have 2, both under 2 and only 14-15mnths apart and because my eldest is still only young herself (17mnths)..she doesn't get jealous at all, and is so affectionate and gentle with our 2 1/2mnth old son. Plus the bonus fact that they will grow up close together and always be great friends :)

ANGELA - posted on 02/03/2010

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Go for it ! It is not a bad idea you just have to cope with 2 babies in the house .

Katie - posted on 02/02/2010

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I saw a post that said hers are exactly 2 years apart in August....I am gonna agree with her! Mine aren't EXACTLY but they are 2 years and 22 days apart...both in August. And we actually got preg again and was expecting baby #3 August 30, 2010. lol So, we were gonna have 3 in August. (God took #3 tho :(...) But anyways, I love having them 2 years apart. It's great. My son did spectacular! He was so attached to me, but when my daughter was born, he took to her like I could never imagine. And he said she was his baby and no one was allowed to hold her but mom. He understood and the transition from 1 to 2 was so much easier than I thought. I really worried about him, but there was no need to. He was old enough to start doing this on his own and I think it helped him to do so. That's why we were hoping for #3 to be around the same age. It's perfect to us. And no matter what age range you have, it will be perfect. It works out no matter what. And I lost more sleep when I had just him, rather than after I had 2 of them. Good luck!! :)

Alexandra - posted on 02/02/2010

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My sister and I just under 2 years apart and although we are close now we fought constantly as kids, it probably drove our poor mum nuts! I think it depends on the kid's individual personalities, you might get 2 that get on or you might not. My partner is five years younger than his brother and five years older than his sister and they are all very close. We were thinking of trying for another at the end of this year, that way they will be 3 years apart. It's different strokes for different folks!

Jessica - posted on 02/02/2010

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hi, i am actually 13 weeks pregnant with my second baby. my son is also 17 months and i'm excited about the 2 yr age difference. my sister and i are 2 years apart and really enjoyed growing up close in age. my mum says it was also quite easy as we would play together and had similar interests and could get along with each others friends. i think kids at this age react fine, as long as you make sure to keep giving them individual attention as well. good luck.

Michelle - posted on 01/30/2010

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Hi Kristy,
We too are trying for our second and I think it is great that hopefully there will be a little over two years between them.I always wanted them close together and would have been trying sooner but I had to wait until I can be paid maternity leave.Good luck .Michelle

Hayley - posted on 01/30/2010

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i have a 17 month old little boy and my new parnter and i think i am pregnant with my second one. i do believe its a good age....if i aint pregnant we r going to be dissapointted but i think we r going to try for another cause we really want one soon.... but i do agree tht its a good age gap

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I'm totally ready for a second one and I think my daughter will cope well. She is always helping with the younger kids at childcare and is really getting into playing with the baby dolls.

My concern is being able to afford a second one. Both my husband and I have full time jobs (thankfully) so putting two kids in childcare is what scares me. I currently trying to form a plan to work part-time at home and part-time in the office in the hopes to save some money and, of course, get to spend more time with my kids.

Meredith - posted on 01/29/2010

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My daughter is 17 months old and we have a 6 week old. The first took us forever to conceive and the second was a giant surprise. Just go with it and see what happens! Our first daughter has been a million times better adjusting than I thought she would be, and besides the difficulty of taking care of 2 with little sleep right now, I wouldn't have it any other way!

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My son is 17 months also and I am two months away from having my second, he is curious about my belly all the time because it has gotten bigger then it was. I think he will cope once the new arrival is here. It all depends on how close in age you want your children, I think it's a great idea to have them as close as possible they can learn and grow together. Children always learn to adapt to everything, you just remember to keep them in the loop, have him help with the little things like passing you things when you need them. Good luck with whenever you decide to have number 2 baby.

Helen - posted on 01/28/2010

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HIya kristy Im helen mum of two my daughter is 18 in july and liam 2 on 7th august i said to my husband 12 months ago that we need to think about our next one as i am 37 and we did struggle to conceive liam (15 months to get him). I have stopped having my depo contracective injection 9 months ago so we can start to plan and have just had my first period again so hopefully we will be pregnant soon.
good luck i do have concerns about how liam will be with the next one. but with my teenage daughter i do have help.

Nicole - posted on 01/27/2010

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Hi, I have three girls, they all are about a year and a half apart. I became pregnant with my second when my first was 13 months old. She was a little jealous of her sister at first, and I had to watch that she didn't hit her in the beginning, but now they love eachother, they play with eachother and get along really, really well. When my third child was born, both of them were very nurturing towards her and very sweet. I LOVE the fact that they have eachother to play with! I have two sisters and two brothers myself and I don't know what I would do without them! Siblings are a blessing, it may be hard at first, but you and your son will be blessed to have another addition! I think the important thing is that you spend special time alone with each child so that they feel special and that they know that they are individuals and you love them all.

Vicki - posted on 01/27/2010

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Go fo it, my second is due any day and I can't wait to have a little little baby in the house again! I'm sure my 17 month old will get used to it pretty quick - she doesn't have a choice really!

Jill - posted on 01/27/2010

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I think there is no "good time" or "bad time" just different times to have your second. I've been debating it recently so it's been nice to read the comments here. Thanks ladies.

Lindsy - posted on 01/27/2010

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We are about 4 months along with our next! When this baby is born we'll have a 35 month old, a 23 month old and a newborn! We're crazy!

Shelly - posted on 01/26/2010

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I have two kids, my son is the same age as yours, and my daughter will be 3 in March. They are 16 months apart. I wanted them closer but it took me a little bit to get pregnant. With them being the ages they are, it works really well. My daughter like to teach her little brother things and help him out. Having them close is yes going to be a challenge but its worth it. If you got pregnant tomorrow then they would still be a year and a few months apart. So really thats not too close and maybe by then you can have your son patty trained by the time the baby comes.

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