biting and hiting

Golda - posted on 08/02/2010

My son is almost 2yrs old and he is very independent. When he gets upset and doesn't get his way, he hits or punches me, his nana, or his sisters. He may be little; however; he hurts like a grown man. We have tried, time-out, talking to him, holding his hands 2 make him stop, showing him love and nothing is working. He is not spanked or hit and he is never left with anyone else but my parents, his father, and I. Please between the hitting and the tantrums wow, this is a new world 4 me. My daughters r 21 and 18 yrs old and they never did what he does.

Jeniffer - posted on 07/27/2010

my daughter does that to other kids she thinks is bigger or the same as her age.. but doesnt do it on little babies.. i guess she knows babies are fragile and doesnt do the same as what she can do.. and aside from biting and hitting, she's very particular with the toys that she owns, she would say "dont touch that, thats my toy" but doesnt touches other kids' toys.. i guess she doesnt want to share it with others. that's what we're also working on, encouraging her to play peacefully with other kids

Katherine - posted on 07/26/2010

I have 23 month twin boys, and one of them is a horrible biter and hitter. the other twin is a quiet more to himself baby. The only time the biter bites and hits is when they usually both want the same toy. we have tried time outs and i did bite him back and said "this hurts brother, no bite" and now i have started to kiss the boo boo's and show him so he learns "sorry", but it is a difficult battle, and i feel horrible for the victim twin! that poor baby has bite mark bruises all over his arms and back!!! we are just going to continue with the time outs and see where that gets us. we also have a 5 y/o daughter and he does nothing to her! just his brother!

Loretta - posted on 07/26/2010

Jennifer looks like we are in the same boat on this one! ive tried absolutely everything and none of it works with Lillianna so im thinking just to ignore her to see what happens!!!

Jeniffer - posted on 07/25/2010

my daughter does that as well.. it became worst when she is seeing other kids do it.. she thinks its right.. we used to say "NO", but it doesnt work.. also everytime she does it, I take her inside her room and talk to her.. explaining to her that its not right but its still not working.. her dad bites her back if she does it, she just cries but then after that she'll do it again.. i dont know what to do with her now.. i guess we'll just have to keep a close eye to her especially when around kids..

Loretta - posted on 07/25/2010

thanks ladies you've made me feel a bit happier now, my son went through the biting stage and i bit him once and it all stopped! ive bitten Lillianna a couple of times now because she drew blood on others but she doesnt care one bit!!! think i might just ignore it and see if it stops!!! thanks for the advice :)

Shannon - posted on 07/23/2010

My daughter will be 2 on August 20 th and she started bitting when she was 15 months she just bit her brother that is now 8 but 7 at the time. She also sratches and hits, she has a younger sister that is 5months and that poor baby has sratches on her all the time form her sister, i am not sure what the soultion is too it, But I do know that is is a stage,possablie a Jealous thing as well.
it just stinks that my youngest baby has to go through that she is terrifed of her sister!

Krystal - posted on 07/23/2010

I am sooo glad to hear I am not the only one who has a child starting to bite. my son is 23mo and he has a 6yr old sister. He has started pinching, pulling hair and trying to bite. I started with fussing at him and putting him in time-outs, but that wasn't working. He usually tries biting me before her, but doesn't pinch or pull hair. I think he thinks it's a game with his sister and tries to get away with what he can. He is not in daycare, and is rarely around other children (other than her) so I think it's a stage most kids go through. When he pulls her hair or pinches, I return the favor...not enough to really hurt, but enough to let him know it doesn't feel good. He is getting better. Maybe it's a dominance thing...I sometimes wish I could read minds and just know what he is thinking when he does some of the things he does.

Tricia - posted on 07/21/2010

i did the same thing with my son. he bit me because i took a toy away from him after he tried to hit his sister with it so he bit me. He only bit me twice and will not do it again. I had to do the same method with my niece whenever she bit her brother. he has scars on his back from her biting him.

Angie - posted on 07/21/2010

My daughter will be 2 in August and also went through the same thing. In her case after we tried everything to get her to stop, I finally bit her back, and told her if She didnt like it done to her dont do it to others and she never bit again! So I agree with Danielle. Now my Best Friends Little Boy was biting his siblings and cousins, and She couldnt figure it out why? Come to find out they were being mean to him and there was nothing else He could do to get them to stop! So maybe the bigger kids are being mean, taking toys away, pushing, etc. Hopes this helps!!

Danielle - posted on 07/20/2010

Okay many people may not agree with what I do, but it works... My oldest son, who is now 4, was a big time biter. We tried everything from saying no, timeouts, Tabasco sauce... nothing worked. We eventually started biting him back. It only took two times and he has never bit again. My youngest, who turns 2 August 2nd, is now starting to bite and we are going through it again. I used biting back as a last resort, but it worked!

Loretta - posted on 07/19/2010

no she's not at a daycare, but i think your theory on wanting to be the bigger child might be right! thank you for the advice hun x

Stephanie - posted on 07/18/2010

Is she in a daycare? When my daughter was in daycare she was always getting bit. =| She learned that it hurts others so when she would get mad she would resort to biting, maybe because your daughter knows that she can hurt her brother and her cousin if she bites them. I think sometimes its just a stage. She wants to overpower the big kids and by biting them and making them cry she feels that she is the bigger one. Sorry cant be more of a help.