feel like im going out of my mind with my toddler!

Nicola - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 46 moms have responded )

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Tj, 17 months, is driving me mad! lol. I dont know what else to do with him, he is soooooo naughty! i play with him constantly, so its not that he doesnt get lots of attention. he has every toy i can think of, he goes out nearly every day, i dont let him have sugar or anything high in sugar as it makes him worse, he doesnt sleep through the night - doctors think he has glue ear, he is just constantly a nightmare! he throws things, hits you, turns the telly off, breaks everything, anything tj is not meant to do he does it! ive tried everything... smacking his hand, a time out, making him sleep longer in the day, everything i can give him for teething - nothing seems to work, im exhausted! anyone have any ideas???

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Lin - posted on 02/21/2010

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my daughter is the same age. shows some of those naughty things. i tried the distraction method. it works really well. he has learnt that when he does something naughty he has your 100% attention.ive no doubt your a great mum.and praise him all the time play with him ect but try this. i started off praising little things like saying your so good the way your playing with that and started from there. when she was doing something naughty id say oh look your dolly wants her blanket and bottle and id pretend to fed her dolly. instantly she stoped what she was doing to come over and see. i learnt how to defuse the situation before it got far. it took alot of time and energy plus a wide imagination but it took just as much to keep telling her off etc. there are hundreds of distractions you could use. apart from the internet for my ideas.i got a better understanding of my child. alot of people maintain that babies that age know exactly what they are doing and want there own way. the fact is they cant talk properly or communicate to be able to compramise with you. in their mind they want to do something and cant under stand why you wont let them do it. if they understood when your hitting or telling them off wouldnt they stop and not do it again. its that simple they just dont get it.they dont have the intelligence or the vocab to even begin to understand and they behave like that as a way of telling you they arent happy about the situation at hand cause they have no other way of telling you this. as like myself i learnt that shouting, removing, taping on the hand never worked as she would clearly keep doing it. both myself and her would end up angry and upset. with the distraction games it totally took away the tantrums, anger, and everything seemed calmer altho i became alot more tired but id much rather being tired and happy than tired and angry. just try it and youll see from the first time it will work. the hard part is coming up with new distractions. dont expect mircals over night. take one thing at a time. try ignoring his bad behaviour as much as you can. and go over the top on when he being good. even if he just playing with a car. watching tv nicely. closing the door gently anything really go over the top with him on praise. all kids no matter how bold want to make you happy and he will soon realise that when he does something bold that you dont care he will not get attention from it where as when he does something good he getting lots of attention. remove things from your sitting room that he could break or like for instance my daughter kept no mater how many times id freak out always kept climbing on the glass coffee table. i spent id say bout 50 times a day telling her off for it. i removed it and already the difference because its not used as a battle of wills anymore. think of things like that. could make all the difference.to be honest if i was to remove everything she climbs on id have nothing in my house but i took away the main thing she always goes for and the other things arent barely an issue anymore. just try this to start with. you know when he gonna kick off by his body language what he doing there must be lots of signs. the first sign you notice of the beginning of him doing something naughty. for example when he throws something. he instantly looks at you for you to tell him off. when you do he has got what he wanted he has won he got a reaction. instead dont look at him or what he threw or even comment. go get the pots and pans and some spoons and lay them on the floor and start banging them. i guarntee he will be interested in what your doing and want to do it. if you were to do this with an older child it would just teach the child that when he does something naughty that youll play with him but our babies dont understand that yet. thats why distraction works wonders. they forget things thats why they keep doing it. love watching things over and over on the telly etc. all your doing is preventing your son from getting into a situation he cant control by preventing it althogether. he behaves like that cause its the only way he knows how and remember that. he dosnt want to hurt you or see you angry or sad. he just wants what you wont let him have or do and thats what the problem is. so remove the situations where this is likely to happen. just try it you will thank me later i promise

Sara - posted on 02/20/2010

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I recommend the book "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" by Dr Harvey Karp. While everything might not be right for you, you might find some help in understanding the mind-set of a toddler and find some techniques that might be helpful.



Toddlers do need stability, boundaries and positive attention to feel safe and secure and learn how to deal with their world. They don't have much impulse control, and have a lot of energy they need to use up. They also get frustrated really easily because they can't communicate and they're slower than everyone, and never get their way, but have started to identify the idea of "fair" as it relates to them (and of course, they are the center of their world!) So our challenge is to figure out how to find the balance between what they need (as above), want (control) and what we need ("good" behavior and "control)!

Tabitha - posted on 02/10/2010

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honestly. I have the same problem with her... but only at my parents' house, not at my fiance's. My parents helped me raise her for a long time since me and my ex got a divorce and so of course my mom showered her with attention and every little tear she got picked up. She was soooo sweet til all of a sudden.. she just cried and whined ALL the time and I wanted to pull my hair out. My fiance finally stepped in when he got comfortable and was firm with her. He NEVER wavered. He'd pop her and put her in time out til she stopped crying. Now, w/ him she's an ANGEL!! They just learn what they can and can't get away with around certain ppl. Different things work for different kids. But I've just learned you have to be consistant in w/e it is you do. period.

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Rachael - posted on 03/24/2010

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my lttle girl is also very naughty. unlike her two older sisters who were very placid, she squeals, hits, bites and finds being naughty very amusing. she is a real handful. it is a relief though that she is not the only naughty 18 mth old out there. i have no advice for you though, they are all different and have there own talents and challenges. i can only hope they will grow out of it.

Keely - posted on 03/22/2010

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all i can say is just stick to your guns! Be consistent, its wearisome and so very tiring but part of toddler hood is teaching them where their boundaries are. And the only way to do that is repetition. Even when you are tired dont give in to the naughtiness, stick to the appropriate punishments and one day it will all pay off i promise. The earlier that he learns the rules and boundaries the easier it will be someday down the road!

Jennifer - posted on 03/17/2010

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I have the SAME problem with my son, Ethan, who is 18months. I have done everything I can as well, and he still hits, plays with all the things he knows he isn't supposed to, screams, throws tantrums, everything that TJ goes. I don't know what else to do either! I was hoping maybe you've heard some advice, and have anything that works for you so far? Let me know! We could possible help each other, just know that you are not alone! :-(

Stephanie - posted on 03/17/2010

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he is just a boy! i have a 18 month pld son and he is the same way! they dont know how to voice there opinions so that is how they do it. it gets better the older they get but dont expect it to go away. by friend has a 3 year old and i babysit for her three days a wekk he is the smae braks stuff bits hits you name it. that just how boys are! good luck to you! hang in there your not alone

Becky - posted on 03/16/2010

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I recommend the "Strong Willed Child" by Dobson. I thought my child had challenging behavior. After reading that book I realized I have it pretty easy.

It suggests that some children are more strong willed than others. It has nothing to do with being a good parent, or bad parent, with your child being a first child or a 3rd child or whatever. Some children are just more strong willed than others. It helped me relax that I wasn't a bad parent and that I wasn't alone. It also provides tips on how to cope.

Hang in there, you will make it through!

Tove - posted on 03/16/2010

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oh one more thing, don't let anything change because of the tantrum. For instance if he's screaming for your juice he doesn't get it. If he's screaming for you to pick him up wait for him to be quiet. I'm careful about going in the bathroom, I try to keep the door open because I wont open it if he's hollering on the other side, I wait for him to calm down, which one day took my whole shower, lucklily he stopped in time for me to get out.

Tove - posted on 03/16/2010

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I read there's no perfect way to control our toddlers but some things I do with mine are keeping a good routine, take him out to play every day, turn the tv off, hold him more, I have a back carrier I wear him to on our walks to the park and do house work with him in it also (heavy but great exercise), read to him twice a day, sit down with him at meals and am constantly talking and singing to him (just about what we are doing), I put essential fatty acids in every bottle (I get mine from vitacost.com the orange flavor of thge liquid is really good, it's high in DHA) also he gets coconut milk and coconut oil, and egg yolks and lamb almost every day. Babies brains are all fat, they need high quality fat to grow their brain. I also dont say "no" unless he's going to hurt himself or me, I replace it with "not for Brody" or "stop" or "please don't". Time outs should not be used yet, ok at 2 though, they wont completely understand. So right now we have to do a lot of preventing and I try to have a bag of tricks, like a weird toy or anything safe really, he loves tools and I always travel with snacks he doesn't get at home, I found organic brown rice cakes at CUB he really loves. Also kids will miss behave most around their main caregiver because they trust us...so see it as a compliment:) good luck. oh at nap time I lay myself down on my bed with a book (usually about contriolling my toddler, there's a lot of good ones at the library), if I force myself to give myself quiet time it seems to recharge my batteries.

Jaclyn - posted on 03/15/2010

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I think we need to start a screaming circle..... my son is driving me balmy as well!

Amy - posted on 03/12/2010

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This is merely my opinion, but maybe when he's having tantrums and acting up it's a good time to "ignore" him. Don't give into his behavior or he'll be walking all over you for the rest of your life! When my 18 mo old starts to throw a fit, I tell her that I don't want to be around her if she's going to act that way and then I walk into the other room but obviously keep my eyes on her to make sure she's safe. She might throw a 1 minute tantrum, but then she calms down. At this age they're just frustrated because they're learning how to react to stress and different situations. Maybe you could try teaching him feelings words. It's never too early!

Deb - posted on 03/12/2010

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like everyone else my 19 month old is exactly the same, and i have a 13 week old son too!!! the terrible two comes early and the boundaries are pushed to the max. he is even climbing the kitchen table and all of the furniture. aside from removing all furniture in the house there is nothing we can do to stop him doing it, as he plays up even more when we tell him off or when i am feeding our other son... but i know in time he will grow out of it, and although he drives me crazy when he gives me a kiss goodnight and a cuddle it makes our hard day all worth it.. he isnt being naughty just mischievous.. so we take him to play group, to the park after tea, play with him every day (not all day though because he needs to learn to play by himself and with others and with another baby it is very hard) praise him when he is good, take him out every 2nd day, we have just installed a swing set in the back yard and he also has a room full of toys.. time is the essence and a little glass of wine on really bad nights definately helps.. oh and an understanding husband who can rub my feet at the end of a very long day .. hang in there u are not alone!

Lindsay - posted on 03/11/2010

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Sounds like you have your hands full, for sure, but you're certainly not alone. My Alyssa has been acting out since she started walking at a year old. I called it the terrible 1's. Now we're creeping closer to two and it definitely hasn't gotten easier, instead much more challenging. Some days it seems all she does is whine and stomp her feet and cry, while other days are a bit easier. I find that keeping a tight schedule helps, or at least it makes me feel like I have more control.
Your little guy is testing you, wants to know what his boundaries are, even if you have reminded of them in the past he will continue to test you- NEVER give in, It's soooo hard sometimes not to give in for the skae of peace and quiet. I know ALL TOO WELL! I think you and I have A similar situation, in which our children may be getting too much attention. Since I'm the one home all day with my daughter she counts on me for entertainment. She used to play by herself a lot more, but as she gets older she'd rather play with me, and I rarely turn her down.
I've had a few people, including my husband, tell me that they think I may be spoiling her. I'm starting to see it their way now, and trying to learn to be a better disciplinarian and to give her a little more space- to stop coddling, I mean. She's also hitting and throwing things, and is very aggressive in her playtime. I'm really hoping it's a phase and I'm not totally sure if my time-outs and hand/butt smacks are working. I visualize the bully that used to push me around in school and I fear she may be that kid. Do you think you may be doing the same things as I am?
Hope things start going a bit smoother for you. Hopefully they will calm down with age. Please let them calm down, for our sanity's sake!!!! lol
Good luck to you and your little man, TJ!

Kree - posted on 03/10/2010

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wow i feel for you, my 19mo is the most laid back, tho he does get aggravate by his sister frequently then he just screams so i can say my now 3yo is much like your TJ but my little boy is very cruisy, either way they both get treted fairly they have 1 on 1 time with me, as well as we sit down and have stories etc together, i found with the tv thing mine just isnt on during the day so we dont have problems with that, and the hardest part of the day is getting them to clean up their mess, hang in there, i use distraction on my oldest, it helps until she realises that i didnt give her what she wants. i guess she's out smarting me now. I'm a big fan of routine, its my saving grace, just knowing what comes next during the day for them both keeps us running smoothly :)

good luck and i do hope this all passes soon :)

Adele-Rose - posted on 03/09/2010

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hey, my daughter was pretty bored and would do everything to get attention even though I was giving her a lot... I live in B.C. Canada and I found a great free program. IT's just like kindergarten with water tables and arts and crafts.. they even have a gym time... it's every week day from 9am to noon. and ages 0-5yrs. It's good for me to get out and it has really improved my daughters behavior, language and "sharing" skills... try looking at what's available.. the best thing about this program is that it's not a drop off where people just drop off their kids, so you can learn from other parents just by watching them.... Try looking for drop-in centers near you.

Rebecca - posted on 03/09/2010

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my daughter is the same way. we downloaded some of her favorite shows and play them on the computer for her. she will run and play and come back to the computer and watch for five minutes and then go play again. it keeps her out of my hair and entertained so i can relax too throughout the day,

Lyra - posted on 03/07/2010

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I think all kids go though that stage but it is the way we handle them that helps or aggravates their attitude. My son is that way sometimes. What helped me is giving him timeouts BUT every time that happens, I let him know why he's on timeout. He's just 18 months old --- and no not because he's young doesn't mean he doesn't understand. The tone of my voice is message enough.

I tried slapping his hands before but that only led him to slapping and hitting others as well. It's not a good tool to use for discipline. So I resorted to talking to him instead. However, I never tell him that he's bad. Say for example he hits another kid on purpose, I'd say, "Hitting hurts people and you'll lose your friend that way." I didn't think this method might work but suffice to say, he never hit anyone again.

Ofcourse this method didn't showed results overnight but constant use helped my son be more behaved.

This book helped me a lot: How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk by Adele Faber and and Elaine Mazlish.

Good luck to us all!

Tiffany - posted on 03/07/2010

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I thought this at first. However, my friend who raises her daughter the supernanny way - never smacks her, always makes her say sorry, times her out - yet her daughter is ALWAYS smacking somebody, pushing, shoving, throwing things. I think it's just the type of person they are, some children respond differently than others to things. For example, one smack on the butt when I was a kid and I shaped up. My brother, same treatment, NEVER learned!

Stacey - posted on 03/07/2010

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Definitely the stage. In fact, our pediatrician told us at her 18 month appt last week that if she WASN'T kicking, screaming, hitting, biting, she wouldn't be normal! It's a very natural part of their development. And (gulp!) that it will get worse before it gets better. They're learning to be independent yet unable to fully grasp danger and consequences. Their communication is increasing but still limited. I found Tracy Hogg's "Baby Whisperer for Toddlers" very helpful.

Best tips I've received: be empathetic, loving but firm with the boundaries. Pick your battles carefully. Engage them and let them make choices whenever possible (milk or water? which pajamas? walk down the stairs with mommy's help or have mommy carry you?) Talk, talk, talk through your actions, feelings and observations. This also helps engage them in your daily activities.

We're all right there with you!

Jennifer - posted on 03/06/2010

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Is your son teething? Because if he is, that maybe the problem. My daughter dropped all her teeth at once and went crazy. I don't know how else to describe it, she would claw and bite and scream, and throw things and all sorts of insane things. This went on for like three months, and I didn't have a clue as to what was going on until some of her teeth broke the surface and I knew to give her motrin. I felt like the worlds worst mother when all of it was going on, but once I knew what the problem was, she got better. I'd say consistency is key, and remembering to breathe. There is nothing wrong with taking a time out with your son and calling someone for a quick chat to re-group. There was one day that my daughter scream for three hrs and would not calm down until I finally called my Mother and asked what she would do. I found out that day that sometimes just talking to someone who has been there helps.

Sarah - posted on 03/06/2010

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I would not smack, it teaches them that smacking is ok and when they are in a social setting they will replicate this behavior on other children if they do not like what they are doing. When your toddler starts acting up, divert their attention to something else. I would start taking him to some sort of activity in the morning to burn off some of his energy which will help with his afternoon nap and I also think you will see a different side of your child in the later afternoon after his nap. If he has ear glue, see if your Dr recommends getting tubes like they did for my son who had ear glue, that alone might be your issue. Many people see a huge improvement in their child after getting tubes.

Tiffany - posted on 03/05/2010

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I just give mine a smack on the bum when he deserves it. Works wonders. Also speaking very firmly for me anyway. Worked on me but not on my brothers.

Marnese - posted on 03/04/2010

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OMG! I feel the same way. It's gotten even worse as I put her in daycare. She loves being there. When we leave she will act a fool! So I found a favorite song that we like together and whenever I fill like I'm about to go crazy I put that on. Sometimes I go in my room and hide cause its that crazy. Popcicles for teething

Heather - posted on 03/04/2010

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I have a 19 month old at home and she is driving me crazy at times too. You just have to relax and take a deep breath sometimes. I usually tell her, "NO!" or take whatever it is that she's not suppose to have away. I know that she will continue to go back and do it again. That's what toddlers do though, Sometimes a little patience is all you need. (I should take my own advice.) :-) The other night she woke up screaming for over 3 hours straight! I couldn't take it. I was so tired and had to work the next day. I tried evrything: rocking her, rubbing her back, rubbing her tummy, bouncing her, walking with her, juice, milk, tylenol (for teething) and NOTHING was working. I just sat on the couch and held her until she calmed down and finally fell asleep on my chest. I'm wondering if she had a night terror? She really freaked out and even scratched my face and legs up. Poor baby was so scared and I didn't know what to do. I guess the only thing I can say is to just hang in there. I know I'm trying to. :-)

Amanda - posted on 03/04/2010

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yeah, my sound silly but my 18 mo old was acting the same way, found out he had very low iron, and he is on iron drops now, and its lots better. low iron can make a kid do crazy things, believe me!! hope it gets better!!

Robyn - posted on 03/03/2010

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my daughter is totally the same, she's driving me NUTS with the whining and clinging to me. on a thursday i take her to a parents group where she goes out and plays with other kids that are aged 0-5 years and she has a ball... until it's time to go home then it's kicking and screaming all the way to the car. At home she's pretty much the centre of attention and i regularly swap her toys around. i usually wait til i see that she's not playing with them any more then while she's having a nap, or after she's gone to bed at night, i'll put them all away and pull out some that she hasn't played with in a while. when she wakes up it's all new and exciting. until last week my partner and i would literally have to fight her to go to sleep, hold her kicking an screaming til she'd fall asleep. tired and exhausted we gave up and just put her in her cot, gave her a hug and kiss goodnight and told her it was time to sleep. for about 10 minutes we could hear her playing and talking to her stuffed toys and then silence. She'd gone to sleep all on her own and we didn't have to fight her. once she's asleep we just queitly tuck her in and so far she's sleeping through.
tantrums during the day are solved by putting her in her playpen. Ivy's very active and is into everything, but when she won't listen to "no don't play with the stove" or whatever it happens to be, it's into the playpen for some "down time." she has some toys and her little fold out sofa, she can watch the telly, but not run amuck around the house. she'll often carry on for a while at first but then chill out. when she's calm, we let her out again. i think because everything is new to them they have sensory overload and just need some quiet time.
hang in there, and never be afraid to ask for help

Trish - posted on 03/03/2010

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i have an 18 month old at home with a mind of his own. he has been knows to throw a tandrum or two, hit people, dash away things and turn the tv off. The tv problem I solved by locking out the buttons on the tv (make sure not to lose you remotes). I have done all the same things that you have and some of the other suggestions offered below (minimal toys, outings, interaction with new people, etc).
But what really helped me was the best piece of advise my sister ever gave me "Pick your battles" Learn to let somethings go as part of his personality and others as inappropriate behaviour. If you are scolding for every little thing that he does wrong then he will not listen and do what he wants anyway (or at least that what was Calib was like). The other piece of advice that I can offer is remain calm. If you are upset and angry then your son will feed off of that energy and continue to misbehave. I try not to yell at my son unless he's doing something really wrong or about to get hurt. But my voice would change pitch and my body language would change. I now have to stop myself take a deep breath and in some cases walk away for a moment.

Hope this helps, it will get better (or so my Mom tells me). Good luck

Toni-Rae - posted on 03/03/2010

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Maybe he has TOO MUCH stimulation? maybe only give him a few toys to play with every day and put the rest where he cant get them. Take him for a walk (make him walk with you). Take him to a kindergym where he can just run around and wear himself out! My daughter (same age) wakes up at 9am, has a nap at 12pm and goes to bed at 8pm; if she doesnt have these she will just go beserk at EVERYTHING! Do you have a strict routine for him? However bothersome routines are, they are probably better than what you have now? Will take at least a week to get a routine down, but stay at it :) Hope it gets better REAL soon for you!

Janice - posted on 03/03/2010

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my little girl is 18mths soon to be 19mths march 12. She dont sleep right at nite either, and she just wants to get into everything. She has even started saying No to me. lol She gets attention and everything, i feel its just at the point that the terrible two's is starting earlier, either that or she is giving me an example of what is to come. LOL I do all time outs and all that. Its hard right now as i am feeling really sick, plus she has started a cold as well. Im sure it will all get better. Just show him how much u love him but be stern at the same time, hard to do i know.

Jamie - posted on 03/03/2010

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HAve you tried a mommy and me swimm class. The pool will really help tire him out. I wk for our local YMCA and we have a lot of moms that do this to burn their energy.

Ashley - posted on 02/22/2010

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I have to the same issues with my son. I actually have to spank his but or since he is in the temper tantrum stage ignore him until it goes away and sometimes just give him a big hug until he stops hurting himself and comes down. At walmart they sell these all natural teething tablets. Those have really helped him. He has also learned that if he cant behave then he goes back to bed for timeout. Normally he ends up going to sleep for maybe thirty minuets and wakes up and is better.

Anuprita - posted on 02/22/2010

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i have no advice, but feel like crying along:-( my girl is d same.... its just a phase n it will pass too.... all d best mommy.

Sandi - posted on 02/21/2010

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My son is 18 months, and boy is he a handful. He is a great sleeper...thank God. But he throws things, spits up food when he is finished eating, and is into everything. He can't keep himself busy, so I need to entertain him quite frequently. And the whining.. it just never stops. I totally feel your pain. He is quite busy and makes me very crazy most days.

Gaye - posted on 02/21/2010

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My daughter (now almost 10) was much the same way. My question to you would be, is he like that at grandmas house, at the shops or in other environments, or just with you?

As it turned out, my daughter had ADHD and mild autism. If the answer to my above question is YES, go see a paediatrician.

San - posted on 02/21/2010

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Mine is doing the exact same thing as of 5 days ago?
Nothing is making him happy ,except being bold, he's enjoying that a LOT! :(

Lisa - posted on 02/21/2010

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my daughter is the same she is my last and has two older brothers the attention makes no difference the boys didn't seem as difficult but then with time you forget i wont take her to friends houses for fear of breakages. She loves swimming and the play barns she likes song time at the local libary. i do remember how difficult 18 months to 3 is for all of my children and all i can say is hang in there and try and get out to keep yourself happy and calm forget the house work cause it gets too frustrating!! park shopping just a walk when things get tough anything you like that he will tolerate
sleeping my children have all been different my eldest never slept through till he was 3 my middle son was no real problem with just occasional phases have you tried calpol as he goes to bed when he is teething but mainly like someone said before you will know what right for you all the advice and books made me more frustrated when they didnt work

Lin - posted on 02/21/2010

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oh as for the sleeping. my daughter use to be a blessing during the night now she a little nightmare its ment to be totally normal part of their development at this age. so if its any consolation it will pass and your not alone in this. those parents that say they have no problems must be lying to us lol it ment to be a phase at this age especially

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2010

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I know how you feel! My little man is the same way! He is constantly pushing is boundaries! I feel like I am in a losing battle and hope it gets better. I have smacked his hand also and used time outs but when he is in rare form it doesn't matter. The one thing that has worked for me is putting him in his crib when nothing else works. He will kind of mellow out and its been working for me. I also put my self in time out and it helps to take a step back and breath. Im with you and hope it gets better.

Wendy - posted on 02/21/2010

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first I think a deep breath is needed....inhale.... exhale.... there is this book called 1-2-3 Magic. by thomas W. Phelan. Just read it. You may not be able to put into action towards your toddler but it will help you with your end of it. Toddlers who get into everything aren't so bad. but if he sees he can get a rise out of you then he feels like he's dong something. whether positive or negative. he wants to know what EVERYTHING is like including negative responses. Before writing off the book....just read it. It is an easy read and will open a world to you. Good luck

Amber - posted on 02/20/2010

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I've got the same problem and I am told that it's just how toddlers are...... Hang in there and do what you feel is right, only you know what your child truly needs.

Tammy - posted on 02/09/2010

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Have you tried enrolling him in a parent involved play class, such as My Gym or Gymboree, or even part time day care? My daughter goes to a play class and two 3 free time play sessions per week (each an hour long). Though she is not as extreme as your child is, she has her moments and I found that playing with/on toys and equipment that we don't have at home and interacting with other kids really helps calm her down.



Also, you might want to cut down on the toys you have at home. Put away a large portion of them and let him play with a few at a time, changing them out daily, for variety. It could be that he's just board with what his has.

Lindsay - posted on 02/08/2010

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how much time does he spend with other people? Maybe he's just craving more interaction, particularly other toddlers. Thats all I can suggest. Just hang in there!

Patrice - posted on 02/06/2010

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Hang in there!!! My daughter, also 17 months is the same way. I consistently use time outs and here recently "mommy timeouts" where I hold her when she is having a meltdown until she calms down. I also speak quietly to her and she seems to understand. I too smack her hand or bottom when she does something that is really bad. I can't say that he will be an angel overnight but it has lessened some. I think this is just a phase before the terrible twos. Just our luck!!

Sarah - posted on 02/06/2010

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im sorry. i dont know what to say. all i can say is just hang in there. it will get better. :)

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