How can I get my 4.5 month old to sleep through the night? I lay him down after his last feeding, around 8 or 9pm, and he wakes up after a couple of hours. He goes back to sleep when I put his pacifier back in, but wakes up an hour later and repeats the cycle. Any suggestions?

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Candida - posted on 01/14/2009

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ok, i have a 2 and 1/2 year old and a 5 month old. depending of course on how you feel about it, have you ever tried the ferber method. babies get accustomed to HOW they go to sleep. so if you are feeding to sleep or rocking to sleep and then putting them in their bed when they wake, their conditions have changed. thus the need to scream and start whatever process you do all over again. Dr. Ferber compares it to an adult who sleeps with pillows and a blanket. if you went to sleep with your pillows and blanket every night and then woke and someone had taken your pillows and blanket, would you be able to go right back to sleep? chances are no. your surroundings changed from the time you fell asleep to when you woke up. you would get up and go look for your stuff but a baby can't do that. however, if for a couple of weeks you got used to sleeping with no pillows and blanket, you would get used to it and it wouldn't bother you when you woke up and they weren't there. make sense? so a baby who goes to sleep being rocked or fed and then wakes up in a different situation, can't get up to see what the problem is, so they scream. We did the Ferber method with my 2 year old and just started with the 5 month old this week bc she was doing the same thing you are talking about. she is already taking longer naps and sleeping longer at night. if she wakes up, she goes right back to sleep on her own. it is really hard for any devoted mother to hear her baby cry, but trust me, I have seen the results in my 2 year old and they are incredible :) my 2 year old still goes to bed at 8 when we put her down and wakes up and lays in her big girl bed til i go to get her out. she's that used to it. also, like someone else said, it's never too early for routine!!! they love routine. good luck :)

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Rosaura - posted 3 days ago

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I know many people say to let their child cry it out but I cannot do it. When I gear myself up to do it , I give up after 5 minutes. I feel if a child is crying at the top of their lungs, there is something wrong. Either they are hungry, hot, dirty, lonely or need burping. I do feel ignoring them builds mistrust especially at such a young age. I think the cry it out method can be actuated when the child is old enough to understand certain things like after 1 year old. Crying for over 30 min isn't normal.

My daughter cried for 15min the most when she was 1 year old then she understood mommy doesn't come to me when I am crying only when I am quiet(ex: in the morning when she wakes and she is quietly playing).
I am sure many people would say that infants have the same rationality but, I don't think so. I feel infants need to feel the mothers warmth love whenever needed. This builds trust, love and a happier baby.
I have a few friends that did the cry it out methods with their children and they are absolutely the worse behaved children I have ever seen. So I don't know if there is a correlation but the Ferber method isn't for me.
Hug and hold your baby when they need it because they are only a baby once, enjoy it....then comes the terrible 3's.....eeeeewww...

Shelly - posted on 01/18/2009

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Finally she is sleeping thru the night. I posted before when I thought my daughter was teething and I had tried Tylenol, (it only helped one night). I have tried most of the things that people have mentioned now. We already had a routine and she had no problem going to sleep, 8 every night, it was the same problem you had, she wanted her paci back all the time. On Friday night I let her cry it out, the first time she woke up it took 45 min. for her to fall back to sleep. The second time it took 60 min, this was whining and crying with breaks in between. She slept in until 8:30 on sat morning. I didn't give her the paci back all day and she cried herself to sleep for her naps. Last night she slept all night without the pacifier and napped for 2 1/2 hours today. This is the first time she has slept all night, til 5 am anyway, which i count as all night. It is hard to listen to her crying, but I just kept thinking that it would be better in the end!

Michele - posted on 01/18/2009

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My baby has been sleeping through the night every night since I read a really good book on sleeping.  In the book, the Dr. says to let them cry and work through it.  Rice in the bottle doesn't work.  Eventually your baby will stop crying.  If my daughter wakes up in the middle of the night, sometimes I have to let her cry it out for 40 minutes.  It's gut wrenching, but I know it's the only way.  On most nights she sleeps 8-10 hours.  I'm sorry if you thinks this is cold, but it will make you all happier down the road. 

Adele - posted on 01/18/2009

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Forgot to mention above, that the first time your baby wakes up I would try feeding him and then after that try to leave him for five minutes or so to see if he will go back to sleep. Maybe he is hungry when he awakes and his pacifier is soothing him for a while but then he realizes he isn't getting any food.

Angela - posted on 01/16/2009

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first ya gotta get him outta the habit of taking the paci at night!! my 5 month old son ahs been sleeping through the night since about 2 months old...but we do give his paci, but only during the day, heknows after bath time it's quiet time, and that once he gets rocked no more paci, he doesnt even cry for it anymore. He eats "dinner" at 7pm, bathtime at 730, and at wuarter til eight I give him cereal and pear juice(which he loves!)

my advice just try to break the paci habit...it's not cute when you have an 8 year still dependent on a paci....

Adele - posted on 01/16/2009

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I would suggest reading the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child" by Dr. Weisbuith. Some of it you will need to take with a grain of salt, but it does have some excellent suggestions. From reading the book I would suggest trying to get your little guy to bed a bit earlier, try 20 minutes earlier for a couple nights and if that doesn't work move his bed time earlier again by 20 minutes. The book suggests that if your child is overtired they will awake more in the night. I have been following many of the suggestions and my little guy goes to bed and usually only wakes once now if he is hungry. In bed at 6 or 6:30 and sleeps through till 4:30 am to be fed and then awakes again at 7:40 am. He is only being breastfed, just in case you are thinking I must be feeding him something to help him sleep longer. I have found the later he goes to bed the more he wakes up. So I would give it a try and even try leaving your little guy for five minutes or so to see if he will fall back to sleep on his own. Hope this helps, Adele

Cara Lynne - posted on 01/14/2009

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I can't provide any suggestions. But having you post this message made feel so much better. I thought I was the only one with a child doing this.  My Daughter is 5 months and is teething, fingers and anything else near by is her continously in her mouth. She will quiet down when I give her a soother but that only lasts for a very short amount of time ie an hour at a time at night if I am lucky.  This the same child that could sleep through a fire alarm going off outside her bedroom and has been sleeping through the night since she was 2 months.  She is fine during the day. But I feel like I am going slowly crazy. Can anyone provide any suggestions? We have maintained the same bedtime routine since day one. Nothing different. I have attempted giving her bath before bed, rice cereal close to bed and/or early in the day incase it was bothering her tummy. Last night tried tylenol but that didn't last very long, tonight we are going to try some herbal teething tablets to see if that helps... But please any advice would be great!!!  HELP!!!!

Marnie - posted on 01/14/2009

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I can only suggest what is actually working for me.



I find my daughter tends to "cluster feed" in the early evenings.  Meaning she eats quite a bit before she puts her head down to sleep.  She lays down about 930 - 10 pm and gets out of bed at about 830 - 9 am.  Swaddling her also seems to help.  I have been doing that since she came home and I suppose it makes her feel safe and cozy. 



Remember also that babies have growth spurts as well and that affects their feeding/sleeping patterns.  I have 3 children in all......and no child is the same.  They tend to have their own schedules.....and they let you know who is boss......UNLESS of course there is a routine/schedule that you have stuck with continually from the start.  Another reason could be that your child might be experiencing the first pangs of teething.  I have noticed she drools a lot and chews her fingers and whatever she can hold in her hands lately.  And she has been waking up on occasion through the night,  BUT she is not a soother baby.  She won't take one no matter what I try.



My daughter on occasion does wake through the night but 10 mins on the breast and she is back asleep.....but those times are few and far between now.........NOW I am just waiting for the teething period to start.

Stephanie - posted on 01/14/2009

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Breastfed babies digest faster, so I personally wouldnt expect a baby to sleep thru the night until at least 6 months.  Or at least for me sleeping 5-6 hours is sleeping thru the night.  



My first thought was that the child was hungry.  

Samantha - posted on 01/14/2009

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Hi there,



Are you Breast Feeding or bottle feeding?



My Daughter slept through from 9:30 till 9am sometimes 11am since she was 5 and a half weeks old. she was breastfed for 4 weeks then i got sick of her waking up every 4 hours so i swapped to formula. she only has 5 bottles a day + solids. last feed at 9:15.



It depends on how much they have during the day and how many. My Daughter has 3-4 sleeps a day that are longer than 1.5 hours. try keeping them up a little longer>

Tara - posted on 01/13/2009

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I'm glad to see I'm not the only one with this problem. Kieran has been sleeping 8-9 hours a night since he's about 2 1/2 months. Lately he's been waking up crying for his pacifier at least 3 times a night. I also think it's teething but like someone said earlier, the tylenol only works for a short time. I'm trying the homeopathic tetthing drops tomorrow. I've heard good things about them.

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Try experimenting with the amount of light in your baby's room at night. My son likes it darker than I thought. Now that I make it as dark as possible, he has been sleeping longer stretches.

Gina - posted on 01/13/2009

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my son was doin the same thing then then 2 weeks ago i started addin rice in his last feed which is about 9:30 nolater then 10 and he sleeps till 7:30 the next day sleep at last  my son is 5 months old 2 day

Barbara - posted on 01/13/2009

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I would try to find out with his doctor if you can add rice to his last feeding. I used that method with my first born & it worked. maybe he stays hungry or going through a growth spurt, hope it helps good luck.  

Belinda - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hello April



I understand what ur going through with my first son I had no problems with him sleeping through the night but wilth my second he would not sleep. neither one of my boys slept on thier backs so wih my youngest who is now 4.5 mnths I give him a warm bath then we read my oldest a bed time story, have a short 15-20 mins of playtime them his last feeding and when i put him in his bed I will wrap in a blanket with a pillow on his back so he still feels the warmth and the pressure like he is being held



routine is a big thing find waht help him calm down and relax 

Katie - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting April:

How can I get my 4.5 month old to sleep through the night? I lay him down after his last feeding, around 8 or 9pm, and he wakes up after a couple of hours. He goes back to sleep when I put his pacifier back in, but wakes up an hour later and repeats the cycle. Any suggestions?




hay there well my son used to do that as when he started to murmer and riggle he used to pull his dummy out which woke him so i started to rap him in a blanket wit his arms by his side so he couldnt get his hands to his face and that worked as he couldnt nock is dummy out any more which then kept him settled and he slept better. you could try that if you havent already let me no if it works x

Chelsia - posted on 01/12/2009

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My daughter will be 5 months old in just a few days. She has been sleeping through the night since about 2 1/2 months old. What I've really found that helps is having a routine. I did it with my first daughter and I'm doing the same thing with my second.  She gets a bath everynight from anywhere between 9:30pm-10:30pm and then she has her last feeding and then we lay her down.  On most nights, my little Eden sleeps all night long and wakes up anywhere from 5am-8am. Occasionally she'll wake up once in the middle of the night. I'll feed and rock her (makes her sleepy) and burp her ( I only change her diaper if it needs to be changed) and then I lay her back down and start her music again in her crib. And she goes back to sleep. I don't like to rely on pacifiers because I don't want my kids to be dependent on them, but if they work for you, great. I just find them to be more of a distraction for my babies so I've never really used them. Also, make sure they getting enough activity and stimulation during the day. Sometimes they just haven't been worn out enough and they want to play.  Teething could always be an issue as well as coming down with a virus. But I say routine routine routine. Babies will begin to love and expect there little routine.



But one other thing that could possibly help is sometimes they just need to know your near by. If your baby wakes up, go in there, talk to him/her for a few minutes, rub there tummy...start music or whatever you keep in there crib and go back to bed. Or let them cry and see if they will fall asleep on there own. It may take awhile but crying never hurts a baby. It's actually good for them. But if they have been crying for 45min + then go get em and feed, sing, put in the swing.  That's what we've always done with our girls and it works for us. I hope it helps a bit.

Shelly - posted on 01/12/2009

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I am having the same problems, I think it may be teething in my case. She has been drooling for about 2 months and I am seeing a change in the lower gums. I did give her tylenol before putting her to bed last night and it seemed to help until it wore off about 3. She had been waking up for her pacifier up to a dozen times every night, and this was after she had only been waking up once for it. I am going to try the tylenol again tonight and we will see...

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My babies are 4,5 months old and have their last feed at 6PM and then a quick night feed at 11PM before we go to bed, then first feed again at 7AM. My son usually wakes a bit earlier but we keep him quiet with the dummy until 7. Last week I took them into a sort of sleep clinic, in the hope they could advise me how to get them to sleep through. They told me that they only expect sleeping through from 7 months+, and that at this age we can be happy with any sleep longer than 5 hours straight.



I have noticed that the 11PM feed seems to get smaller so in a while I will try cutting it out totally. They advised me to maybe just leave them in the cot and just sneak in and stick the bottle in so they stay asleep basically.



It made me realise that I am quite happy with their progress and I even have two to deal with!



Good luck!



 

Sharon - posted on 01/12/2009

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Hi bab have 5 month old son got exact same problem,he could be teething,if so advise ashton & parson's teething powder's.If hungry try baby rice in last bottle b4 bed and a rusk hope it help's.

Terri - posted on 01/12/2009

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I just came on here to post the same exact question!! My son is almost 5 months and he was sleeping from 8pm to 8am without waking up at all but two weeks ago he got the flu and now fully recovered he has been waking up every hour for is pacifier only. If I try to let him cry it out he never goes back to sleep and only wakes up more, making it even more difficult to get him back to sleep, so I have just been dealing with it and I don't know what to do either!! HELP!!!

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