My 1 year old is still not sleeping through the night...help!

Lindsay - posted on 08/16/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son, Stone, just turned 1 a couple of weeks ago. He was a very small baby when he was born, and also battled reflux for the first 9 months of his life. With that being said, up until about 10 months, he was still waking up to take a bottle midway through the night. I allowed this to happen because he had so much catching up to do and I just wanted to insure that he was getting all of the food/formula he would take. After I stopped giving him a bottle at night, he seemed to be fine, but would still wake up 2-3 times a night, sometimes with gas, sometimes with tooth pain, and most of the time for no reason at all! He is a very strong little guy and is very capable of climbing out of his crib and hurting himself, otherwise I would be open to letting him 'cry it out' to an extent. But I just can't chance it. He cries usually until I make it to his room, and once I've exhausted all of my options (patting him on the booty, rubbing his back, talking/singing, .....) I then pick him up and walk with him. He only allows me to rock him sitting down if he's taking a bottle. NOW I am up 5-6 times a night, sometimes for over an hour at a time, trying to get him back to sleep. He's not fussy until I put him back in the crib and walk away. Ok, so I realize that part of the problem is some sort of attachment issues.....but how do I help him get over this without letting him cry it out?? He just switched to milk from formula, but I've been making the change gradually. He's teething. And he is with me ALL DAY and EVERYDAY. Although I know I can't make too many changes at once, I'm also trying to figure out how I'm going to wean him off of the bottle, especially before his naps and going down at night. He hasn't always needed a bottle to fall asleep, but we seemed to fall into the habit of doing so. I would also like to figure out how to get him to go to sleep on his own. Any suggestions for ANY of this? Or even an example of a system/schedule of which change to make first? Thank you Moms!!

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Kim - posted on 08/24/2009

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I think that routine has a big part to play in it, I have never rocked or held or snuggled any of the kids to sleep on a regular basis, only when they were sickly. My daughter had reflux and projectile vommiting issues so very early on we had to keep her elevated for a short time after feeding but then it was into a routine, The baby was colicky for a time and there was only 2 or 3 nites that he wouldnt sleep unless I had him snuggled up against me I think the extra warmth helped but now he knows the routine too, hes one. For me it has always been jammies, bottle, bed, I say nite nite while tucking them in and walk away. I can always tell a real cry from the attention getters and they learned real fast that it didnt work. I would def. try one of the crib tents, the 2 older kids were not climbers but the baby is showing signs of daredevil in him, so I may be trying them soon also. I am not concered with the whole bottle weaning, he is only 1 year old, still a baby as far as i am concerned, besides I still have 2 cans of formula to use up!! At least I know I will have him off the bottle before age 7, unlike someone I know who I can not name. My older 2 kids pretty much gave up the bottle on their own around 16 - 18 months, which I thought was normal. My baby boy though is still mostly on stage 3 baby foods because he wont chew much because he has a hard time teething, plus he shows no intrest in self feeding, just wants to poke it to pieces and/or throw it around the room,(meals, he does fine with snacks and finger foods.) But we try each day and he will get the hang of it. So hang in there I am sure that something will work, just keep trying.!

DANYELLE - posted on 08/23/2009

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Wow you have got a lot goin on my girl. My daughter turns one on saturday and there are still times she trys to test me out during the night. i agree to listen to their crys cos a mother knows when their FAKING. IF i feel she a little upset more than usual i will go in and its usually because she has thrown her dummy so i pick it up lay her back down sometimes offer her water then i walk out and yes she cracks it but i say too bad there is nothing wrong with you. I go back to bed and shut my door so i cant hear her. i also have her in a sleeping bag so her little legs cant get over those rails and also for the purpose of staying warm, so i know if she wakes she isnt cold. I know it sounds tuff but she knows who is boss and i have been like that since day one. Also dont be in too much of a hurry to get rid of bottle they are still such babies thats their comfort let them have it. try the dream feed i did it with both my kids and it always worked and they will let you know when to drop it. hope i helped and stand your ground your allowing him to make the decisions your the mum. and stop questioning yourself i bet your doin a great job xx

Tamara - posted on 08/20/2009

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either does my little one. he is almost one in a week. and still not. but i try somenights carming music and it sometimes work, you just got to stick to your rutine it might take a while but it will be werth it. ummm also try a nice warm bath, then a bottle, then bed. baths always get my little man very sleepy. try johnston baby bed time bath and lotion. they smell great and do the job as well. hope it all goes well for you.

Ginger - posted on 08/19/2009

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Wow Lindsay, I'm sorry to hear about how often your little one is waking up at night. When I opened this I was expecting what I am going through - still waking up once a night demanding to be fed. I let Isaac cry it out and it works great for us. He only cries for a minute or two then goes to sleep. Unfortunatly, I don't know how to help but I wanted to let you know that I will be thinking of you. Good luck and just know that this is temporary.

Michelle - posted on 08/18/2009

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Are your cribs on the lowest mattress setting? We lowered our right before Haley began standing up and she still can't reach to climb out. Haley has slept through the night since she was 8 weeks old, but I do have to endure 5 minutes or less of crying for me before she settles down for the night. Just stay close and listen to the clues... it's easy to tell the difference between crying that will stop and hysterics. When she is too upset, I snuggle her in the rocker for a while until she's blury eyed and try again. Just make sure you feed the baby, change him/her, snuggle and say good night. Good luck!

Kimberly - posted on 08/18/2009

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My daughter turns 1 next week, and she has slept through the night until 8 months. Now I get up with her once or twice a night to give her a bottle (formula) and change her (she pees ALOT!) I was told she does this because she doesn't eat enough during the day, but I feed her solids and she stops eating when she is full. She's a sound sleeper for the most part, but I go back to work soon and this frequent waking during the night isn't gonna be good for my professional performance. My husband cannot hear her crying in the night (or so he says), so I always have to be up. Blah...I feel your pain...hopefully it will get better for us :P Good Luck!

Pamela - posted on 08/18/2009

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I really recommend the book Save Our Sleep by Tizzie Hall. I have used it with both of my children and my One Year old has been sleeping thru since he was 6 weeks thanks to this book. Tizzie recommends something called a Dreamfeed which you initially do at 1030 at night and then gradually wean off. I am more then happy to give you more details if you like!

Sabrina - posted on 08/16/2009

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Not sure what to say. I have never taken the bottle away form my kids at 1. My 1 yr old is still BFing but I nurse her to sleep and she wakes up periodically through the night. Each night is different, but I put her in bed with me and nurse her back to sleep. But even when I stop BFing I will allow her to have the bottle. You could also try a crib tent to help keep him form climbing out. My daughter too sleeps in a play pen. But will be moving to the crib soon since her sister is climbing out of hers and will be getting a big girl bed soon. Then we will give the crib to the baby.

Sara - posted on 08/16/2009

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I feel your pain!! My son is up twice a night still, on a good night. And he has already fallen from his crib so crying it out wont work either, I have started laying him in his play-pen to sleep since he cant get out of it as easily and that kind of helps. But so far the only way I can get 5-6 hours out of him is to let him sleep in my bed,

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