My 20 month old still isn't talking.

Anita - posted on 04/18/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My 20 month old son isn't quite talking yet, is this normal? He can say some words but most of the time it's jibberish. He talks in full sentences but like I said it's jibberish. but every now and then I can pick up on a word, although not too many. Is anyone elses child talking yet?

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Heidi - posted on 04/18/2010

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It could be totally normal but have you checked with an audiologist to check his hearing? My son had a lot of ear infections and when we went to the ENT to consider tubes put in, we saw an audiologist to do a hearing test. It showed that what he heard was like listening through water. You could pick up one to two words, but the rest was jibberish. After the tubes were put in, it was amazing! He was talking more clearly now that he could hear clearly.

Just a thought but kids all develop at a different pace.

Evie - posted on 04/18/2010

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My 20 month old daughter is doing the same thing! My 5 year-old talked perfect by the time she was 20 months old, but my second daughter is slow in learning how to talk. I've asked several mommies about this, and they've told me that every child is different and learn how to talk when they're ready. It's been frustrating a little cause I feel like she's delayed. But, then again, she is still young and will learn at her own pace. Just continue to speak to her using normal words and not baby talk. She's like a sponge and will understand what you're saying.

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Jessica - posted on 12/13/2013

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how did you find out the your kid has sensory processing disorder and what did you do to help him with that?

Jessica - posted on 12/01/2013

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My 20 month old son cant say any words at all . And isn't trying to learn anything when my husband and I work with him. I don't know what to do . I'm trying so hard any nothing is helping.

Christy - posted on 09/19/2012

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Turns out my kiddo has sensorory processing disorder which caused the delay but he talks great now. It took him 2 1/2 years, but when he figured it out he built language really fast. Sign language was a LIFE SAVER!

Treasire - posted on 09/15/2012

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How did everything turn out?



I see that this was 2 years ago. My son is doing the exact same thing.

Emily - posted on 04/23/2010

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My 20 month old son is exactly the same! He is so active (walked at 10 months) and knows exactly what all words mean but he just doesn't talk! My five year old son Aaron doesn't really help as sometimes he will talk for him like, "Ciaran wants some milk etc". I'm thinking he will catch up though cos he seems to like doing Aaron's phonic sounds!

Angela - posted on 04/23/2010

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My son is also not saying anything regularly although he started with Mama at 6 months and has said a variety of things a few times but nothing regularly and nothing on any sort of consistent basis.

Christy - We just had a speech therapist evaluate our son yesterday. Before that they tested him in 5 areas and found communication (and some areas of cognitive development that requires oral communication) is the only place he's delayed. Otherwise he's showing 2 to 12 months ahead of schedule in everything else. Physically he should be almost 3 years old. We've been told it's normal for kids to work on other skills and forget to work on what they "normally" should be doing. I was physically unable to move as a baby but started speaking in sentences at 6 months old. Kids are just so different. Anyway, the therapist said that we shouldn't stop giving him what he wants if he's not verbally asking for it. That we should still meet his needs as we have been. But to add a word or action that coincides with it so they get the relationship. My son knows A LOT of words, he just can't speak them. Our pedi said it's more a choice he's making and he'll do it in his own time. Oh, and they both said it's good we've taught him sign language. So if you haven't already try that, but ultimately, we were told to not ignore his needs if he's not vocalizing it.

For other moms: If your state/county/city has a program, we HIGHLY recommend it. If nothing else, we felt so much better about our son's progress knowing he's so far ahead in certain areas and that maybe that's the reason he's not as far as he should be verbally. He just has different priorities than we do :)

Rachel - posted on 04/22/2010

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When I took Breayna for her 18 month appointment when she was 19 months, they asked if she was saying 5-10 words. From my understanding "words" don't have to be real words as long as you and your son know that he's consistently using the same "word" for the same object. I make sure not to use baby talk, we have a couple of rhyming words we use, but no baby talk. And I make sure to give her a word for most of the things we do or see, if they don't have a reference point, they can't say the word.

Kayla - posted on 04/21/2010

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my little girl does the same thing. and all my family tells me as long as they say at least 5 words that you can understand no need to worry and trust me he start talking sooner than you think

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My son is about the same age, & although he is learning new words, he's not been able to actually speak. I don't think its unnormal ( if thats a word )...just some take longer to speak than others. I've seen younger babies talking & it discourages me, but also gives me motivation to teach him, read to him more, & let him experience more things. Just give it time! He'll get it soon.

Christy - posted on 04/20/2010

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From what I've read as long as they are saying a word for something "tuk" for "truck" and doing it consistently, that is talking. My 20 month old isn't even doing that. He had about 10 words he's said maybe once or twice and then we never hear it again. I anticipate most of his needs and therefore eliminate the need to talk. I'm trying not to do that so much, but he's still not trying to talk. Anyone have any advice for me?

Chantelle - posted on 04/20/2010

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MIne is'nt either he 20 months not sure why he has an older sister i thought that might do some encouragement.

Laura - posted on 04/20/2010

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Our Maggie just had her second post-op (Cleft Palate repair......soft tissue ) visit yesterday and we discussed this very issue....... SPEECH ! The question at hand was if we should initiate speech therapy with Maggie....... and in the end it was determined that she was not in need of intervention at this time. Yeah !!!

Some of the encouraging news we learned..... consistantly introducing new sounds into her "vocabulary".... adding new words on a regular basis... at this age typical word mastery is between 50-175 words... one interesting fact I NEVER knew..... kids typically AVOID saying their own names until the age of 2... how funny.... :-)

Meagan - posted on 04/20/2010

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My daughter doesn't talk at all. Recently she's started mimicking us more, but she still doesn't volunteer words, she'll only repeat them after we say them. She seems to understand us completely, though. I can tell her to go upstairs and get her bear, and she knows exactly what I'm telling her to do. I've decided not to stress about it, but we're moving in a few months and if she still isn't talking, we'll probably get her checked out by a speech person.

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my daughter is doing the same thing. She can talk I have heard her do it before, but its only randomly. I have talked to alot if people and they say that older sibling talk so much that younger once just don't talk as soon. Also my son (3) talks for her alot... ex: "Mommy, Emma was her toy." I'm trying not to worry about it either but it is always in the back of my mind that her brother could talk well by now.

Anita - posted on 04/19/2010

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Thanks Ladies. After reading your posts it looks sounds like my son is developing normally. Thanks Heidi for the tip, I will still get Joe checked out with his hearing, for peace of mind.

Brandi - posted on 04/18/2010

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I don't know if this is an option for you but we have speech people with the schools that will come and check your younger kids. I had my three yr old in it. when they did her testing she could do stuff a 5 yr old could do she just didn't have the expressive language.

Nazevyanga - posted on 04/18/2010

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DD can't talk either but she tries....she still does not have a lot of consonants though...she goes with the vowels mostly. She can count to 20 and say her ABCs and some shapes and colors (they don't have to be in order either, she calls them randomly if you show her anything - no we don't have "you baby can ready)." Pedi said since she can do all that she is fine. She can't say mommy, she says nonny...and she does not even call me yet (well it's just the two of us currently).....hope that helps...

Charissa - posted on 04/18/2010

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My son is almost 20 mths and he doesnt talk either, he tries to say things. he says momma and daddy and car and he tries to says tractor and truck, but it comes out as trac and tru he hasnt got the end parts down, but he responds to commands well, if you ask him something like if he wants to take a bath he goes running to the bathroom. he knows what words are. he knows what NO means too! hes smart but just not talking. so i dont believe he has a hearing problem because i know he hears us! but i also dont talk to him in baby talk and i feel like thats what could take him longer, hes trying to say the actual word and not anything like ba ba for bottle. i wouldnt be concerned unless if he isnt responding to you, that can mean alot of things but first hes not hearing you.and like everyone and doctors say, babies progress at their own rate but its hard not to compare your child to what seems like is progressing alot faster, especially girls! i have friends with girls and they are talking and do things way before my son ever did!

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