my daughter is 13 months old and i have just been diagnosed with post natal depression, any advice?
Hannah - posted on 10/07/2009
Hi, I have suffered with PND following the birth of both my children. I also ante-natal deression with my first child but the doctor told me I had nothing to feel down about as ante-natal depression isn't widely recognised. Try and make time for yourself, even if it's just half an hour in the bath with a some nice toiletries and a good book. It took my husband to get me to finally admit I had a problem the first time around and he persuaded me to go to my GP. This was one of the hardest and most traumatic times of my life but, with the support of my GP and some medication (which I was very reluctant to take at first) I got through it. Second time around, it took 10 months for the PND to take hold, just as I had thought I had got away with it this time! It as much worse this time and I convinced myself my family would be better without. After a OD, which was pretty much a cry for help, I went to another GP (as I had moved areas as well) and this one has been extremely supportive. The medication is working and I feel so much better so it's worth talking to your doctor about the options. DOn't be ashamed, it's nothing you have done wrong or could have prevented, you're just one of the unlucky ones. It certainly doesn't mean that you are a bad mum or that you have failed. Both my kids now age 3 and 14 months) are happy and healthy and the only one who has really suffered is me!
Laura - posted on 10/07/2009
claire, i have suffered from depression since I wasa teenager and several ups and downs throughout my life, I am going through the "change" now and starting to go into the depression again. I have been going to a naturopath and take supplements now instead of antidepressants.
What I have found out is that depression IS caused by chemical depletion in our brains. It is a disease like Diabeties or Asthma. We have not brought it on ourselves. Going out for a walk may lift your mood a little but will not solve the problem. Talking to people will help but not solve the problem. The thoughts and mood you have are caused by the lack of chemicals in your brain. These thoughts will go away when you rebalance yourself. I believe in taking medication and/or supplements (as long as you go to a natural doctor and not medicate yourself). You need them to help get over the lack of chemicals/hormones that your stressed body has gone through with pregnancy and post partum lack of sleep and demand on your body. Once you are better you can start to wean off if you want.
If other people have problem with you taking them, just tell them it is better than killing yourself, cause if you do not get help, that could just be what happens. That tends to shut them up. LOL
claire i was diagnosed with post natal depression, post traumatic stress disorder and anxiety feel free to message me for a chat i will help where i can! everyone will tell you to use your support network if you have one great if you dont have one dont let it get you down.. i stressed about the doctors telling me to use my support network (hubby, mum, family etc) i got more depressed because my support network didnt give a toss my mum said i had to earn to cope on my own hubby has only just realised that i need support only took 13 months and i am starting to bring my self out with out medication feel free to message me though chin up you have survived 13 months already! you are going great!
Maggie - posted on 10/06/2009
Remember that it's fairly common and NOT YOUR FAULT. Build a network of support...friends, family, etc. Accept help when it's offered (let someone do that laundry or dishes... or watch the baby for a while so you can shower or take a nap). If you don't have family close by try to find a new mom group. You can usually find one through your doc or pediatrician.
I found this link in a Google search. Hope you are feeling better soon!!
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