Not sleeping threw the night.

Jess - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My son is 13 Months old and still does not sleep all night. He wakes 1 to 4 times a night for a bottle or to be rocked back to sleep, i have no idea what i should do. Ive tried letting him grizzle but he just doesnt stop untill i go in there. So to make him be quiet i either just rock him to sleep or just give him a bottle half with milk and other half water. But sometimes his having up to 3 bottles a night just so he can get to sleep, and i can get some sleep. Any Idea's Any one?????

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Cheryl - posted on 09/11/2009

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Yikes! Sounds rough :( Is he teething? Does he have a rash? Learning to walk? My daughter has been sleeping through the night for a while now, but I find that whenever she goes through some milestones, like for instance, right now she's getting in her molars, and her sleep has been very sporadic. When she started walking about a month ago, her sleeping again was interrupted. Is it possible he could just be going through all these new milestones and feeling a bit overwhelmed? Does he always wake up so many time during the night or is it irregular? When I 1st started trying to lie my daughter down for the night, we did the CIO method and even though it was hard at first, it slowly got more and more easy and soon she was sleeping through the night no problems. I personally think the 3 bottles at night is a bit much, especially if he's on solids, which I imagine he is. That seems like a lot to take in at night. I know that it may seem like torture to let him CIO or to leave him be, not to mention it takes some toll on you, but have you tried that method? In the beginning, when I started it, I was like a zombie, not getting any sleep, but after about 3 nights my daughter finally got that bedtime was meant for sleeping and we got into a good routine. Routine I think is really key, even if you're not putting baby to bed at the same time each night, but doing the same repetitive things helps baby to associate those things with bedtime.
Does he nap well or is it much the same as at night?
I don't know what else to offer, except to push through and eventually if you stick to a good routine, he will hopefully understand and start sleeping for you!! Wish I could be more helpful!

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Felicia - posted on 10/18/2009

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Give him only water during the night. Prepare him for bed early with a warm bath, low lights, and soft music if he likes music. He is being overstimulated before bed and during the night, milk or anything with sugar will also overstimulate him. Do things to help him relax.

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Hi, my little girl is the same as your son. I also have an older girl of 3 and a half and went through exactly the same thing. The only reassurance I can give is that she did grow out of it. When I put her into a proper bed at around 20 months, I just let her cry. This lasted two nights and she's slept through ever since. There is light at the end of the tunnel!

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2009

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If you are adding water to the bottle it might be that he is still hungry. My son does the same thing wakes up twice a night for a bottle. I think part of it is that he isn't eating as much as he used to at meal time because he wants down from the high chair. They re just growing and changing. I hope in the next couple of months he starts sleeping more too.

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I go throught the same thing. And I know that it's hard, but they will one day start to sleep throught the night and till then just keep a routine and it will come together. It's hard not getting sleep, but if the baby wants a bottle in the middle of the night, give it to him/her. You have been doing it for 13 some months now, a few more isn't going to kill you.

Mari - posted on 09/22/2009

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oh god girls u poor things u must be knackered! they can definately go without a drink /food at night. This is learnt behaviour by now. When they wake they're getting sum milk, juice ur a cuddle to get back to sleep so course they're gna keep doing it!! ROUTINE is the key and consistency. Babies like to know wots coming next etc. It's reassuring. Bed time - wind down play, bath/wash at roughly the same time every night, bed time milk, lights low then cuddle and bed. All in their room if possible. They should be able to settle themselves. Yes they will not like being left but they can and will learn that it's bed time if you're consistent. stay in their room for bit if they're upset, stroke their face, back but try not to pick up. once settled leave the room. keep doing the same leaving them for a bit longer each time b4 u go in to them. It WILL and can take hrs for the first few nights but if yr consistent it will wrk. teething etc can cause a bit of a blip and cuddles can help especially when they're clingy. u know yr baby and when somethings not right. but the idea is to let them learn how to settle themselves so that if they do wake at night (which all babies do) they can settle back without milk or a cuddle. keep trying and you'll find that one nnight they might have only woken once or twice they've learnt to wake at certain times they can leran to sleep thru too! GOOD LUCK ;)

Stacy - posted on 09/22/2009

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My 13 month old has been getting up too! I noticed he was getting his molars and he is starting to walk a little, so maybe that was it. He wanted a bottle in the night too. Maybe you can give him a little healthy snack with milk before bed if he is hungry in the night. I think I might try that too! Good luck :)

Cindy - posted on 09/22/2009

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My twin sons are 13 months and still will not sleep through the night. We've had a few nights when they may sleep for 6-7 hours but then wake and will not go back to sleep and want to play. They usually will start getting sleepy around 8:30 but there is no pattern as to when they will finally go to sleep. Sometimes it may take them 15 minutes and other times it may take an hour and a half before they settle. And with two babies, of course, they do not do everything at the same time. One baby will always wake two hours after he goes to sleep. We can usually get him back to sleep quickly but he will wake again in 4 hours. He always want to be touched, held or rocked but does not always want a bottle during the night. The other baby goes to sleep cuddling with his Daddy in our bed and then I have to put him in his crib. He will sleep for longer periods of time but he does want a bottle if he wakes during the night. I see from others' posts that many do not go immediately to their babies when they wake and cry out. We have tried this but when you have two babies, if you leave one crying and making noise for very long, the other will wake and then the whole family is awake! We (my husband is wonderful about helping me during the night) have to get up at least 3 to 4 times a night,. By 3 in the morning, we just want sleep and both babies end up in the bed with us. We do not want to do this but sometimes it is the only way we get sleep at all. Any one have any suggestions on how to deal with twins and sleeping through the night?

Nikii - posted on 09/13/2009

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Although my son doesn't sleep right through every time we start getting back on track he starts teething again. When these episodes settle and he's back to normal I usually give him a bottle of hot chocolate to go to bed with and have gradually reduced the amount of milk he has during the night. He is now starting to learn how to go to sleep on his own without his milk. When he wakes up don't go to him straight away leave is for about 2 - 3 minutes at first and then gradually lengthen the time befor going to him. I have got to leaving him for 5 minutes by which time he has settled himself down most of the time. Hope this helps. Good luck

Kylie - posted on 09/12/2009

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My daughter is 13mths old also and it appears that i'm not the only one to deal with this issue. She had two good nights of sleeping 8-10hrs and this was a first for us. But prior to that and particularly the last 3 nights, it has been torture. She will go to sleep around 6:30 - 7pm and then awake a few hrs later and then wont settle. I also have to give her a bottle, but it still doesn't get her to sleep. I do know that when they have growth spurts (which can be quite regular), this can make them very unsettled. Also obviously with teething, change of diet, if you've introduced something new in the way of food/drink. I think it's just a matter of trying to be patient and working through it. This is always easier said then done, especially when you're so exhausted yourself. I have noticed that if we have people over or visitors that stay a nigh, or if we go out, this can throw her right out.

Jess - posted on 09/12/2009

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Yea he is learning to walk at the moment. He only does this prob 5 days a week, then some days he will sleep threw till like 530am and decide thats wen he wants 2 get up and play and i cant get him back to sleep after that. He often wakes up threw the night because he has wet right threw his nappy from all the bottles ive given him even though i change him at least 2-3 times a night.

Yesmine - posted on 09/10/2009

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sorry but my son does the same thing and i hate it i always have to give him some water or juice in the middle of the night just like u 1-4 times and pat him to sleep and he'll wake bak up in like a half hour crying again idk....

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