Biting

Nicole - posted on 09/29/2010 ( 40 moms have responded )

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Is anyone else's 13 month old biting? I've tried biting back (hard enough to leave a mark) but he just laughs. Any suggestions?

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Athena - posted on 10/09/2010

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We do a combo. It's a natural defense mechanism to bite, so we tell him "no bite, that hurts" and then we tell him, "you bite your food". And give them something to bite like a Grammy Sammy or something. My now 13 mo seemed to get over biting pretty quick when I got him to understand that it wasn't that biting was wrong - just that he is only supposed to bite his food from time to time and not people.

Julie - posted on 10/07/2010

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I have 3 kids ages 5, 2 & 1. The baby is the only one who has really bitten much and with all of them pulling hair was a problem since I have long hair. The baby especially enjoys it. It's been very effective to gently pull her hair back and say "No Hair Pulling". I've never pulled hard enough for them to cry or even complain about it. On the biting, this is going to sound weird but I'm also a Registered Veterinary Technician and found a cat behavior modification that works wonders on small children. When the baby bites and whoever she bit yelped, she would laugh so It was becoming a game. I gently tap her on the nose and say "No Bite". There is absolutely no pain involved but it's an attention getter and redirects the thought process. If you don't believe me try tapping your own nose. The sensation is unique and not one experienced often in daily activity which is why it's so effective.

Sarah - posted on 10/06/2010

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Biting back just encourages the behavior, what I'd recommend is what I did with my son (who had a fetish for biting everyone's toes....weird I know...) was I watched him and noticed the sign of when he was about to bite and when I'd see him go in for the kill, I'd cover his mouth and say "No Biting!" at the same tone that I tell him NO to everything else. He was quick to catch on.

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Nicole - posted on 07/13/2011

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Well he has mostly grown out of it now but will be 2 next month. good luck and take heart that its just a phase

Sarah - posted on 10/19/2010

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i dont think thats mean at all, parents still do it to teenagers when they swear! i know thats something i never thought of but would defo try it if my little girl bit badly!! u dont have to stick a whole bar down their neck but a little every single time wouldnt do any harm!!
xx xx

Kimberly - posted on 10/19/2010

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My 14 months old, used to bite as well, but I gave him (cold) bite rings, and he cold down alittle.
As long as they are teething, I think they will be bithing.
Try the ring in the fridge, or give them ice, it cools the gums.
Good Luck!

Alissa - posted on 10/16/2010

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my son bites, scratches, and just grabs on. mostly to me and his grandma. we both go out and have bruises and scratches from where he has grabbed us so hard. we tell him no, we put him down, we leave him alone, he screams and throws a fuss, and does it more to get our attention. so far, nothing for me has worked. if i can, i occasionally try to move my arm or whatever, so he ends up biting himself, and he cries, because it hurts him and i say "yes, it hurts mommy too. not nice." kinda thing, and he understands.. for like five minutes before hes trying it again. i dont know if he bites his dad or not, because he doesn't bite his grandpa, so i dont know if its the more body hair that stops him.. all i know, is it hurts!

April - posted on 10/13/2010

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I know it sounds mean But it really works try putting soap in her mouth everytime she bites!!! For many kids this has worked! alot of kids nowadays are stubborn and just think your playing so biting back doesnt usually work and for most niether does just saying No, but soap normally works!

Liz - posted on 10/13/2010

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My little girl bites as a defense. You tell her No and she gets mad and that's the first thing that she does. She mostly bites me. I tell her No and put her down but she keeps coming back for more.

Brittany - posted on 10/12/2010

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Biting them back DOESNT work!

As they look to us for guidance on how to behave, biting them back only teaches them that biting is an acceptable behaviour.

A stern "NO BITING" or "NO BITING, THAT HURTS MUMMY" then removing the child from yourself or the person they bit, putting them down and walking away works much better, until they are at an age (3+) where you can converse and reason with them, and they have a better understanding of cause& affect, and a persons emotions & feelings.

April - posted on 10/12/2010

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If Saying No is Not Working, then I would say It probably Wont work, With my expierience with children Biting, as I had a sister that bite really Bad, and nephews that do too, I get out a bar of soap and let them taste it every time they Bite, and this methid has worked each and every time they Bite! if a bar doesnt work,l try a lil dish soap, it doesnt harm them, but the taste alone they Hate...try it!

Angeline - posted on 10/12/2010

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I have the same problem.
My son (13 months) just started...He has 12 teeth...yup he has all 4 1yr old molars.
He likes to bite toes. He will also bite when he has something taken away from him.
He has stopped biting me... only because I tell him I will bite him back...I do the "Go head bite me...But I will bite you back." He gives me a look and puts his head down. But he has not stopped biting other people. He has not tried biting his dad.
We do make him hug and kiss the person he bit.

Celeste - posted on 10/12/2010

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No biting back. and he laughs every time I admonish him. Wish I could find the solution. for now I just ignore him so he knows I'm serious about it.

Megan - posted on 10/11/2010

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I'm pretty sure that biting back wouldn't be the best solution as it only shows them that it's okay to do it, but every child is different and based on one of the responses below that method worked for 1 of 3 children. I generally don't think that's a good method, but obviously your son is not recognizing that it's NOT a game.
Smart little guy for trying to make a game out of it, but I would be consistent with the NO's and explanation of why. Sooner or later, he'll get it. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 10/09/2010

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completely agree with u Nicki, it can take up to 2 weeks for a child to learn something but u only have to undo that learning once, then u start again! Its a hard job but totally worth it! xx xx hope things r starting to improve xx xx

Nata - posted on 10/08/2010

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Dont bite back!! Childen at this age dont understand it hurts. How can a child learn that its not alowed to bite if you bite them..
Small children try different things, and sometimes they bite because they cant speake and sometimes because they get e reaction.
My daughter is 14 months and has bitten me, I tell her no and put her on the floor.

Penny - posted on 10/08/2010

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i have found that distraction works a treat... say NO firmly and then divert their attention to something else, my 14 month old tends to like the attention of saying no and will then test the water by keep doing the biting/naughty thing... distract them with something else and they soon forget, our son has already stopped biting! good luck

Nicki - posted on 10/08/2010

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Tell him "No, we don't bite" in a firm voice, then put him away from you. And be both persistent AND consistent every time he does it. He'll soon learn. Apparently it takes a max of two weeks to change a habit. So persevere cos it's worth it. And as you've learned, biting them back only turns it into a game for them. Good luck x

Karen - posted on 10/08/2010

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my son is a biter and for him I see it as a teething thing for sure. when he's playing with his sister I make sure he has something to chew on, he loves to chew on his tooth brush. My friend, son bites too and she noticed that he bites when he's hungry. If he can't control himself she just puts him in his room to play by himself for a bit.

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When I was a little girl I was tormented by a biter from 2 until I was 4. I never bit her back because I wasn't allowed to bite and I KNEW better I was a little older than kids we are talking about. This kid was my moms friends kid so I had to hang out with her. Finally one day she bit me so hard she made me bleed. My mother made her mother bite her back and that little girl never bit me again. So THAT is how mohers get the idea it has been passed down for GENERATIONS. and like any other topic each child is different and should be treated as such. Not every child responds to a sweet reaction my son would bite harder. I however do not bite him back either I feel he is to young for now. My so is a lot smarter than some people are giving 13 month old credit for. HE knows when he does wrong and tries to sneak it but he does it poorly he is only 13 months old lol

Nicole - posted on 10/07/2010

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So I moved past the biting back same day I posted this. I've been doing the "no Biting!' thing and ignoring him for a minute but it isn't getting any better. I am inclied to agree that this is just a stage and am hoping he grows out of it soon.
Thanks for all the advice, suggestions and wishes of luck :)

Annie - posted on 10/07/2010

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seriously? where would you EVER get the idea that doing the exact thing you want your son NOT to do would teach him not to do it? a 13 month-old does not have the ability to rationalize that just because it doesn't feel good on him, he shouldn't do it to you. sigh.

you need to re-direct him. give him a teething toy and tell him 'this is for biting.' if he continues, remove yourself from the situation. walk away calmly and start doing something else.

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My son bites here and there I ignore it. I tell him no he is still young. The funny thing was he bit his dad the other day and was holding him while on the phone so his dad had no idea what was biting him and he smacked him. It shocked my son but he hasn't bitten anyone since. I would not have done it but it worked.

Chelsea - posted on 10/07/2010

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my 13 monthd old bites me all the time! i have tried everything, and now i just say 'no bite' in a mean kind of voice hoping she understands son

DASHUN - posted on 10/07/2010

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im going throught the same thing but with twins so i have tired all that to so i need some suggetions to

Nicole - posted on 10/05/2010

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My baby girl hasn't bitten anyone else that I am aware of at this time but daycare claims that the 2 bite marks on her arm was from herself. Has anyone else experienced their child biting themself, hard enough to leave marks for a couple days? I did notice that on her crib she has left bite marks in the wood. I don't want this to escalate in to biting anyone else or miss a sign that I should be concerned of her violence against herself (she will hit herself also). What do you all think?

Erin - posted on 10/04/2010

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My baby boy bites me! Its always on the shoulder when I'm walking around with him, and only my shoulder. We've came to the conclusion that is because my shoulder is smaller so it'll actually fit in his mouth as opposed to his daddy's much larger one. But anyways I've always said "No" "Stop that's mean" things like that. It does get him to stop even if its just to laugh at me. So right now I feel like he thinks its a game also but I hoping as he gets a little older he'll realize the true meaning on No. But so far I'm not too concerned with the biting. My son also pulls hair and that hurts much worse! So I have to get him to stop that too lol... It's just so hard discipling a baby.

Phoenix - posted on 10/02/2010

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My 13 month old twins both bite but Saphira started it. I just say no firmly and stay consistent .

Elizabeth - posted on 10/02/2010

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I am also having this problem with Collin, my fouteen month old and he is doing to the other children at day care. They are shadowing him with another teacher and he is on an action plan, whatever that means. He is teething right now and it is normal, not that I would want my son bit by another child but I don't think explaining the rules and regulations to a fourteen month old is really going to help :) I have given them teethers that they can give to him as soon as it looks like he is going to bite another student, this is what we do at home and it seems to work. but honestly when theyare teething and not biting out of anger what more can you do? Good luck and if you get any other helpful info, please pass it along.

Andrea - posted on 10/01/2010

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Never bite back! It's hard to tell them no bite when you do it- mine is biting when he gets over excited- we tell him no- no is still new and he is learning very slowly. be patient! be consistant and go over it again and again. there is no reasoning with a one year old. just consequences, so a very firm no and say OW! make a sad/hurt/mad face and let him know this is a big no!

Julie - posted on 10/01/2010

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I have a biter as well, although he's been improving the last couple of months. It seems to be worse at times when he's teething, so after I've dealt with the inappropriate biting I offer him something more suitable to chew for a while. That seems to help.

I think that biting back is a flawed strategy. Kids this age are too little to understand that something that hurts them will also hurt others, or even that hurting others is a problem! All that biting them back teaches them is that it's OK for you to bite, so it must be OK for them to bite too.

If possible, I ignore the bite and distract him, but if it's really hard/deliberate I tell him 'No teeth, that hurts Mummy!' and remove him for a really short time out (like 30 seconds), then start playing again and praise him as soon as he does something good.

Everyone tells me it's a phase, so hopefully we'll be seeing the end of it soon! Good luck!

Ulku - posted on 10/01/2010

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I know mine does too. but not mean to hurt I know this. I think its beacuse of me as I sometimes give her love bites as she is too cute :)

Sarah - posted on 09/30/2010

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hmmmm, he sounds like i good humoured baby and very clever if hes turning it into a game, iv known alot of children over my years as a nursery nurse who bite for no reason and didnt stop untill they were much older, its a phase some children go through!
just perservere with saying no and moving him away, my girl laughs when i move her away so iv started holding her hand and walking her away then sitting her down. its a toughy this one is mate, good luck xx

Jessica - posted on 09/30/2010

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my 13mo old bites too! I tell her "no bting" and hope this goes away soon. She bites her 2 year old cousin the most and I feel bad!

Joanne - posted on 09/29/2010

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Ella has only bitten me once (thank goodness) so am hoping that she doesn't take it up on a more regular basis.

Nicole - posted on 09/29/2010

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I changed to telling him no but so faar it isn't making a difference :( he seems to think it's a game and I'm not sure how to turn it around

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2010

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I have 2 stepchildren and my husband bit the 1st back and he never bit again but he didnt bite the 2nd son back and he bit till he was 4 or 5yrs old! i however would not allow him to bite our daughter (1. because i dont totally agree with that method and 2. i dont think he would want to as shes a girl and i do most of the disaplining in our house as he is wrapped around his baby girls finger, lol)

however......my girl bites me occassionally and this has decreased since we both began to say "no, thats not nice" then we put her down and walk away (depending on where we r, if we r out of the house she goes in her push chair) she gets no comforter regardless of how upset she is and is encouraged to hug and kiss me as a sorry then we continue with our day.

If biting back isnt working then try immediately putting him down and saying no then walk away, sometimes my little girl will attempt to push over my vase of flowers or throw a toy or climb on the sofa to get my attention back and i just continue to move her away from this situation. she still bites me but it is less and less frequent.

Hope this helps, im still hoping it continues to work for me xx xx

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