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Elizabeth - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I have had the most terrible time finding a doctor for my daughter. One of the issues involves the fact that we have made the decision to not vaccinate (at least not at this time). I want a doctor that will listen and treat me and my family with respect. Does anyone have any advice at all?

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Tiffany - posted on 03/25/2010

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That's how I found my doctor, thru my chiropractor...they don't vaccinate their children either and told me they have never had a problem with illness...I think their oldest is 11.

Michelle Carpenter - posted on 03/25/2010

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I am also a non-vaccinating mom-I did the 1st 2 rounds with my daughter and she got so very sick after, so we stopped--she was sick for almost 2 years. My 7 month old son is not at all vaccinated. It all depends on your area--we've moved a few times over the years--our current pediatrician is very understanding (maybe not exactly supportive-but understanding and doesn't pressure us at all)--but I have had a different pediatrician where we previously lived call me at home to try to pressure me to vaccinate my kiddos---there are all different types of doctors out there-after all, they are people too, who have their own belief system, just like all of us moms on this site. I would call around and/or ask other moms around for a good reference. Another thought is to call chiropractic offices for who they use for their kiddos-as a good number of chiropractors (as I am one myself) are non-vaccinating parents and have good information on who's in the area. Good luck to you. I hope you find someone who works with and for you!! Take care!!

Emily - posted on 03/21/2010

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She's not asking whether it's right or not to vaccinate.. she's asking for advice about how to find a doctor!

Tracy - posted on 03/21/2010

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there's very strong opinions on whether to vaccinate or not vaccinate. Mom's that don't are usually pretty defensive of why they don't. I do vaccinate and because I believe they are beneficial and can prevent many diseases that children used to die from or be paralyzed. It's a personal choice, either way you are doing what you feel is best for your child. I don't want someone telling me what I can or can't do with my child or what they feel is beneficial. I'm an adult woman who happens to work as a nurse in a peds office and I feel I can make an educated decision for my child. Just do your research before making your decision and do what you feel is best.

Morgan - posted on 03/20/2010

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I'm against vaccinations but unfortunately I do not have the option as all children must have it by the time they go to school....For all of my children I waited till they 1 year old...only because introducing disease to a weak immune system can cause problems, as I realized with my first...Waiting this full year allowed my children too built there own immune system and when it came time for immunizations there were no concequences. My babies were and are in the doctors office very little...my 7 month old has not been sick yet.

Soon you find a doc that will understand but remember they are your children and your choice is your choice!

Good luck

Tiffany - posted on 03/19/2010

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Tracey: I do apologize if what I said offended you or anyone else, and you are right, the person who posted this was only looking for some advice, however, I am not the majority therefore, my defenses are up with this topic because I am always battling someone who thinks that I am wrong for not wanting to vaccinate. I do respect any mother's decision not to vaccinate, as most of my friends and family are those included....but please also take into consideration that if I can say something on theses posts that I believe will help those who are debating it, then I surely will because I have to put out there all the information that I know. Thank you again for understanding where I'm coming from, as I do with you. Again, I'm sorry if I offended you.

Emily - posted on 03/18/2010

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Well, I am a vaxer, but you were not asking for a vax/no-vax debate!

I would suggest just to keep trying different docs. I take my kids to a group practice where we have the opportunity to try out many different doctors. I do really think you have to find a doctor who supports you. I had to go to several different doctors before finding one who was very breastfeeding-friendly, which is so important to me.

Hope you can find what you're looking for!

Tracey - posted on 03/18/2010

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Tiffany: Please don't take this the wrong way since things can be misinterpreted in writing but I need to address your post. I never said you were guaranteed to NOT getting the disease. That is why I said to do something that MIGHT help them.. There is no guarantee with anything in life...and that includes vaccines. And maybe you can get into schools without them, but I know on the east coast (which has the highest rated schools for education) you will not get into a school without them. Don't know about the rest of the country or any others for that matter. Just know about where I live, and the standards they go by in our area. And I don't believe in homeschooling unless you are a certified teacher. If we have to go through years of training to teach others kids, it should be the same qualifications to teach our own. I feel we need to give the kids the best education we can and if that means homeschooling (especially depending on the area you live in and how the schools are rated) that is fine, but they should have to go through the same requirements. I don't think a parent would feel confident leaving their kids in the hands of a person who has not been trained in that profession, so it's important for anyone who wants to teach to be qualified. I believe in TRYING to protect my child (and others) from something that MAY be avoided. Not getting the vaccines puts you at a higher risk that is all I'm saying. You have your opinion and I have mine. I just FEEL that you have a better chance of protecting your child with the vaccine then without (again my opinion). Everyone has to do what is right for their own child. And if I feel vaccinating will help my child more then that's what I will do. And if you don't want to vaccinate your child...that's your belief and right as the mother. But I don't agree with these know-it-alls out there that think what they do for their child is the BEST thing ever. What's best for one might not be best for everyone. I'm not trying to BASH anyone, but feel I needed to respond. This lady asked for our advice, and by you acting like what your doing for your child is better then what I'm doing is not right. I was giving HER my opinion on HER post, so I feel there was no need to put down what others believe in. Every parent needs to do what is best for their child and live with their decisions. I was giving her my opinion based on my experiences and how I feel. I'm sorry, but I feel you were a little rude in your reply and there was no need for it. Battling out a debate (against parents that do something you don't believe in) is not what this mom was looking for...just advice. That's what this site is about, so please take that into consideration.

Tiffany - posted on 03/18/2010

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Your child can get into the school system if you have a religious or in some states philosophical belief about not getting your children vaccinated. You might also be able to have your child home schooled as well. I love the comment where someone doesn't agree with vaccines but will do it to their child anyway. Stand up for your children! Just because your child IS vaccinated, doesn't mean that they are guaranteed NOT to get the disease they were vaccinated for in the first place....and they risk just as many more problems in their future from their vaccinations than the possibility of getting one of those crazy diseases in the first place...but go ahead, inject your child with over 81 different vaccines that have dead fetus parts, dead animal parts, formaldehyde, and many other nasty ingredients in them. I'm sure that WON'T do a thing to your child's body and will be so safe for all of us. Our government has people fooled so that they can make a ton of money off of these MANDATORY vaccines. I believe that we would all be better off if we ate right and took care of our bodies so that they will take care of us. Just my opinion here so no need to bash! :)

Stacey - posted on 03/17/2010

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hi im also a vaccine mum and i dont mean to be judgemental but when chosesing a playgroup and school my child wont b going to either unless all children have been vaccanated because the reason for the vaccines r to reduce the spread of the germ because they are STILL out there because when my mum and prob ur mum were babies they didnt have the vaccines against the germ and there for its still being spreed eg. whooping cough is back stronger then ever because alot of babies r being watched by there older perrs and passing it back down to the babies. good luck finding a school that will take your child with out all vaccines documented and singed off by a doctor. will thats how it is here in Australia!!

Tracey - posted on 03/17/2010

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I don't mean this in a mean way, but your child will NOT get into school without their vaccines. I am a teacher and know this first hand. We have had many parents try to enroll their kids in Kindergarten without vaccines. Come to find out their child now has to get ALL vaccines at once in order to enter school. This is true for public and private. So you need to ask yourself...is it better to start now and spread them out or wait until last minute and have them get them at once? I don't like the vaccines either, but understand it has to be done. Luckily our dr. doesn't not give many shots at once, they are mostly combined. So keep looking for a doctor who will honor your wishes. There's nothing wrong with spacing out the vaccines more then the scheduled time, but they should be vaccinated. Not only to protect them, but also other children who may come in contact with them. There is an outbreak in NY and NJ of the mumps right now. This would not be spreading if all the children were vaccinated. You do not want to see your child go through some disease, knowing that there was something that might have helped protect them. Good luck in your search :-)

Michelle - posted on 03/17/2010

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I was in your shoes before. Let me start by saying that I have an HMO so I am limited in my choices. I do have a private paid homeopathic doctor that my baby has seen 2x. We are doing the homeopathic immunizations (no shots-just the homeopathic tablets). with him but I can't afford to do all my visits with him. When I told my HMO doctor she cringed and that turned me off so I changed doctors 2 months ago.
My advice: I basically called each pediatrician in my network and asked to get their philosphy on non-vaccinating. I explained what I was doing. I was not able to find a doctor that was "excited" but I found a doctor that respected my decision but also asked me to respect hers and advised me that at each visit they will ask me if I want vaccines as she needs to but she won't pressure me. That was a good compromise. So far so good at our 2 visits. I had to call 5 doctors. Not too bad. good luck

Amanda - posted on 03/16/2010

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Hmmm....A vaccine is a strain of a dead virus so you are not introducing any dieseses to your child. I am a vaccinating mum and I have a friend who chose not to and there child was hospitalised with whooping cough. Just one example and I am open minded...a mothers choice is a mothers choice. But plz remember that reason we dont have epidemic like sickness is because we vaccinate. If we all stop there is no doubt in my mind that there would be a rise in fatal illness amongst the young. I wish you all the best in finding a doctor who supports your choice. But plz be open minded and talk to mothers who vaccinate as well as those who dont.

Tiffany - posted on 03/15/2010

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I have a doctor that I use who respects my decision to not vaccinate my daughter. I can give you his number and you can see if he can give you any advice from a distance unless you are in Virginia Beach where I am. When you call, you get an answering service who relays the message to him, then he will return your call as soon as he gets it. His name is Dr. Haase and his number is 757-499-9671.

Hope it helps! And YAY for not vaccinating your child!! Wise decision!

Tiffany

Bex - posted on 03/15/2010

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hi! im a non vac mum, i have a 9 (nearly 10) year old daughter, and now have a 7 month old. i made a informed choice as a 18yo mum, not to vac. doctors were so mean to me, but, they did get over it. i learnt with my youngest to be positive about your desition, walk into the doctors and when vacs come into the conversation, say in a stong voice that im not vacinating. some docs may say ohhh well look out for whooping cough, its going around...... and things like that. just say yep, yep, yep. if they ask why you choose this, say you made an informed choice, and nothing you (the doctor) will change my mind. doctors do get over it, but if they think they can pressure you into changing your mind, they will try!!! so be strong and firm with them, remember, ITS YOUR CHOICE AS THE PARENT. to the people who dont no why you wouldnt give your chid vacs..... do you no whats in them???? do you no that most of the things they vacinate for dont even exist anymore? did you no they are strongly conected to ear infections, glue ear, and sudden infant death? i have all the info on vacs, pros, and cons, if anyone wants to contact me. :)

Marjorie - posted on 03/15/2010

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I'm with everyone here, I feel as if there are too many shots at once, and I don't see the issue with splitting them up between visits. It's only a $15 co pay for our visits, so I'm willing to do that. Our doctor is very willing to work with us on the shot schedule. Rebekah only has received one to two shots at each visit and has done just fine. I am not willing to totally for go vaccines because of the risk that is there. I don't want that on my conscience. As a mother, I feel guilty enough at times, I don't need the added pressure. :)

Just keep looking around, there is someone out there that will be able to work with you and explain things for you. Best of luck.

Heather - posted on 03/15/2010

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I don't know if I really have any advice, but I know how hard that is. We have ben trying to split vaccines (do 1 or 2 one month and then another 2 the next, etc.), but the Dr. we were using thought it was a waste of "our" time and money, but said he would do it. That is until one time he was like "oh yeah, we'll do the same thing we did last time with her vaccines and split them, only they didn't. They gave her ALL of them at the same time!!! I was so upset and have just moved to a new doctor that seems to be on the same page as me. I guess the only thing I can think to do is see if you can set up a free consultation with a doctor you're interested in and discuss how you feel about this with him/her and see where they stand. If you don't like them, no harm done...it was just a consult (although it may be a bit time consuming if you are working). Good luck! I hope you find the perfect doctor for your family :)

Morgan - posted on 03/15/2010

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We are also a non - vaccinating family. I am feeling the same way as you are as our doctors pressure a lot. I just went this last week and they talked me into giving her just one and she has a bruise and her whole body swelled up for 2 days afterwards. Sorry off topic

I would just keep looking and ask around, I don't know where you are located but maybe sign up on www.diaperswappers.com and there are a good number of mamas on there who don't vaccinate and could help you to find doctors in your area.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/15/2010

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The main problem I have with vaccinations is the amount we are expected to give in a very small amount of time. I strongly feel that it is not necessary to introduce so many different diseases to the body all at once. I may have been willing to do some of the vaccinations or even a more spread out schedule, but the doctors I've seen refuse to even discuss the issue. There is enough evidence out there that as a parent I don't think its unreasona
ble at all to have concerns about the issue and I wish the doctors would look at it from a parents perspective and debate the issue in a respectable manner. Two of my friends have had children with bad reactions to vaccines. Every parent I've spoken to who decided not to vaccinate their child all say the same thing.....that they're child never gets sick. Some of the parents vaccinated their first child but not they're second and noticed a distinct difference in health between the two. As a parent, I have a right to ask questions and get answers.

Julianne - posted on 03/14/2010

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Hi

I'm not meaning this in an ignorant way or anything, why is it that you have decided not to vaccinate?

Just that your reasoning may help in getting the appropriate doctor.

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