would you allow your sitter to take your infant to pool?

Jennifer - posted on 03/24/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I really like my sitter but she wants to take my little one to the pool this summer. I really don't want him there and she keeps talking about it. How do I tell her that for the two and a half days she has him I really would not like him there, without upsetting her?

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Leisa - posted on 04/03/2010

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I agree with everyone! NO WAY would I let my sitter take my baby in the pool. What if something happens??? NO WAY! I would look for someone else to take my baby if she kept at it! Good Luck

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it doesn';t matter if oyu upset her or not. you are you child's mother and what you want is most important. i personally wouldn't have a problem with it if i knew the sitter well, my child was comfortable with them, the sitter was a good swimmer, and also was infant cpr certified. but it really depends on your conmfort level and if u don't like the idea then just say so

Cherie - posted on 04/01/2010

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I woudn't be so worried about offending her. Explain that you just don't really feel comfortable having your son at the pool without you there. It's not that you don't trust her, it's just that there are so many things that can go wrong at a pool and you probably wouldn't be able to think straight knowing something might go wrong and you wouldn't be around. If she can't understand that, I would seriously consider finding another sitter.

Jackie - posted on 03/31/2010

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I don't even think she will be allowed to take him to most pools. They have rules against that. Be nice but keep in mind that this is YOUR BABY! If you have a bad feeling about it don't let it happen. I would rather hurt her feelings than have something happen to my baby when I could have prevented it. I won't even let my husband take the baby to the pool without me.

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Just tell her. Its your child and you have to be comfortable with where you children are with those who are providing care - why not suggest the playground or the park - it set up a baby pool in the back yard with a sprinkler - purchase these things and then make that suggestion as its what you are most comfortable with.

Sharon - posted on 03/26/2010

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just say no.......babys gets sick easy from public places..he isnt strong enough yet....just say when his older

Ashley - posted on 03/26/2010

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Just tell her straight up. You don't want your baby at the pool and that is that. You're the mom, what you say goes. You shouldn't have to worry about hurting anybody's feelings when it's YOUR baby involved.

Kate - posted on 03/26/2010

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It's your baby!! You have the absolute say on everything and you shouldn't feel bad because you don't feel comfortable with someone else taking in a pool. That's a scary thing! I wouldn't want a sitter taking my infant in a pool either. Just tell her you don't feel comfortable. No need to apologize at all!! That's too bad if she's upset-it's your kid!!

Sarah - posted on 03/26/2010

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I totally understand...I would not trust anyone else...more so for their sake than mine...if anything was to happen, they would never forgive themselves and it is so easy for accidents to happen!! Just be honest with your sitter....everyone has different opinions and you have yours and she needs to know x

Jennifer - posted on 03/26/2010

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Thank you so much. I plan on telling her soon. I hope she understands. It makes me feel better knowing others feel the same way. Thanks again

Alicia - posted on 03/25/2010

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i would allow my sitter as long as it wasnt my daughters first time in the pool. but my sitter would ALWAYS be family, i dont trust anyone else. but if thats not what you want just tell her, explain to her why it makes you uncomfortable, and hopefully she wont get too upset!!

Eva - posted on 03/25/2010

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I believe that your sitter should understand your point of view without questioning it or being upset. If she is hurt she doesn't understand the concept of a sitter. you as a parent have the last say and I agree that I wouldn't want my kid at that age in the pool without me. i do take my 7 months old swimming, but it's me, so I know what's happening to him. If she is a great carer, she will understand, if not i would look for someone else and I believe straight out would be the way to go.

Amanda - posted on 03/25/2010

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I really don't blame you. I would not want my sitter to take mine in the pool either. I would just explaine that you are not comfortable with anyone other than you taking your baby in the pool. You could tell her that it has nothing to do with her. You don't want to have to feel uncomfortable with the situation, so I would speak with her as soon as possible. She may be a bit upset but should understand your wishes. Usually, most sitters do understand.

Andrea - posted on 03/25/2010

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I would tell her that you want that extra bonding time with him and you would like to be the first person to take him into the pool. I don't think she will be upset by that. She will understand this means more to you then she thought. Hope that helpls.

Heather - posted on 03/24/2010

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I worked daycare for 9 years, 3 of which i babysat at home, We definately understand other parents requests, i would always schedule activities as much as i could around parents wishes. It just comes with the territory of watching kids.. not everyone has the same views... and she still has 3 days to visit the pool. :)

Brittany - posted on 03/24/2010

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Maybe just tell her that you would rather not have him near a pool. Not just with her but with anybody. There really isn't any way to say it without upsetting her, maybe just sit her down and explain it to her. Just be as gentle as possible.

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