Anyone Have 2 Babies 14months apart

Kirsty - posted on 05/21/2011

The difference between our 1st and our 2nd/3rd (twins!) was just over 2 years.... however between 2nd/3rd and the 4th was a year and 9 days! Its certainly difficult when they are a little bit closer in age, but honestly I didnt mind it to much, my twins were sleeping through the night but the baby didnt, but then during the day they had sleep times pretty close together.

Corisa - posted on 05/16/2011

I have 5 kids in 3 years. 3-96, 6-97, 6-98, 10-99, 10-99, 11-07.
My two born in June are the same age for a day and they are followed by twins. Every birth control failed me.
Make sure you have a schedule for your sanity. Involve older child in the care of younger child if she wishes. I got a "baby" for my child so when I was busy with baby, he could be busy with baby too. Have a basket or bag with coloring books or toys that she only gets to have when your feeding baby or otherwise occupied. PBS became my best friend. I needed that early nap. So I laid on the couch with baby in carrier in front of me and toddler on couch at the bend of my knees. Then I knew where they were. Sometimes he would drive a car on me, but I could feel him and got my nap.
As I got more, the older one would be on the floor, middle behind my legs, baby in carrier. But my oldest was an angel. When the twins came, I needed help. Most ppl would have older ones in school by then. Those two years are a blur to me. I ended up having a neighbor girl come play with the kids outside or watch a movie with them so I could get a nap.
The key is to have a schedule. I agree with Andrea about telling them what you are going to do and what is expected ahead of time. Set up what the consequences will be if they don't let you get done what you need to ahead of time and follow through. Don't ever NOT follow through. It will bite you in the bum. Be prepared to leave the store without what you went for. A lot of ppl understand parenting if you grab an employee and say you have to come back to get this later, tell them your last name and walk. Make sure you do what you say your going to do.
Don't avoid going out. They need to learn how to behave with you in public. Others are opinionated, don't listen. You don't answer to over opinionated ppl. Do the best you can and it's OK to make mistakes. It's OK to get frustrated. It's OK to cry with them. And #1, your going to be OK.

Lucy - posted on 05/16/2011

I ahve two children bioth boys i get stoped all the time does not matter where i am and i always get asked if they are twins.......Josh is 4 this nov and lucas is 5 this august

Amanda - posted on 03/06/2011

My kids are 13 nth apart they are 6and7now and yes you do wonder sometimes what have you done but the up side is they grow up together and it's over and done with my advice would be get a double pram and organize you can do it trust me if I did good luck hun

Marie - posted on 07/02/2010

Hi i have 2kids Boy and a girl and we have a gap of 1year and 2weeks. Ned has just gone 14mths and Caitlin will be coming up 2mths old. we have been lucky as both have been such good babies.All i can say is just go with the flow.
Also my hubby workes away 6 days at a time and normaly only home for 2 days and goes again.
take each day as it comes and don't expect too much from yourself eg: house work there is always tomoz.

Gina - posted on 05/29/2010

I had 2 boys 15 months apart and yes it was very trying at times, but most of the time it was actually surprisingly simple. They are now 16 and 15, and I also have a 12 year old and a 4 year old. And I would rather have had that small gap between all the kids rather than leave it 8 years like I did with the last one. It is so much harder.

I was a single mum also and that made it even harder, but I wouldnt change a second. Ive had alot of great experiences raising my kids and they have taught me so much. It is a very rewarding job and having them so close their whole life has made it so much more.

I will admit taking them out shopping was very stressful especially as I had a crappy twin pram which was impossible to steer made it so much harder, and when one whinged for something the other did too, but overall it wasnt that bad. It is a challenge and you will be strong enough to defeat and conquer the madness lol that is having kids so close in age. Dont stress u will be fine

Lisa-Marie - posted on 05/27/2010

My little boy is 9 months and I am due at the end of July (so he will be 11 months) and I have a 4 year old. I know it will be crazy but I think it will be good for my youngest two growing up so close together.

Helen - posted on 04/08/2010

hi i have 3 kids all under 3 its very hard but im very lucky to have a good supportive partner there are times when it gets tough but u will find away to cope with them i think it will all come to u when u are settle with ur new baby and ur daughter will cope just let her be part of the new addition my 3yr old loves helping me as i have a 17 month old and a 5 month old just one good advice just set aside time for u to do ur own thing it helps u cope better as kids are a full time job

Robin - posted on 12/30/2009

my daughter is 6 months and im due july 2010! my kids will be 13 months apart!

im also nervous about now it will go! i know it will be hard but i just figure at the end of the day we will all cope somehow!

Aliska - posted on 11/05/2009

My first two are 14mths apart. They are teens now so I managed to survive! There are lots of good things about having them close as well. Baby no. 1 still has a day time nap so you can too in the latter stage of pregancy and while baby no. 2 is not sleeping through. Make sure baby no.1's nap is after lunch then all go to bed at the same time, invaluable! When the little one sleeps through keep the babies having an afternoon nap at the same time and you've got an hour or two to yourself in the afternoon. Of course the first year will be hard but if you're doing nappies for one you hardly notice the extra. The second year is better as by then they can play together and keep each other occupied. In the second year my two played all morning happily so I could get on with other jobs while keeping an eye on them without directly having to 'entertain' them. You need to be organised with washing and cooking. My two are still very close and my daughter was and still is very protective of her little brother even though he towers over her now. You will find a lot of things like toilet training and doing things for themselves come quicker and easier with the second as they just copy the first. It can be hard but let the relationship develop as naturally as possible between them, don't be over-protective of the baby if you can help it, if the baby isn't crying then the older one wasn't too rough was the yardstick I went by. Good luck!

Chloe - posted on 10/23/2009

I have a 14th month age gap. It was tough at first because Thijson would be rough with Oliver. But they got used to each other.



I got them both on a routine which allowed, me to have a one hour nap at lunch time.



I did a large marjority of this on my own. I have little family support. But great community support.



The best thing i ever brought for that age gap, was a Phil & Teds sport. I can use it with one or both children and it is no widder than a regular pram

Hayley - posted on 10/21/2009

my two boys are 15 months apart and it can be tricky but it is worth it! :) just do the best you can and that is all that anyone can ask of you, cheers

Crystal - posted on 10/10/2009

hi my 2 boys are 16 months apart callum is 20 months old and elijah is 4 months i am finding it hard because both boys want my attention at the same time but if you just relax an have time for your self when u can it gets easier . lol if you want to chat more im always up for a chat

Amanda - posted on 07/08/2009

My boys are 15 mths apart and yeah sometimes it is hard but a true mum always finds a way to cope and remember u still got to have some time out for yourself as well even if it is jus to have a shower.. Enjoy them while they are young they grow up so fast..

Jackie - posted on 06/13/2009

Hi there... i have to kids who r 11 months apart to the day... my 1st was born on the 21st march 2007 n my 2nd was born on the 21st feb 2008... ur not the only crazy one out there lol... its hard but u will always find ways of copping...

Jennifer - posted on 05/17/2009

thanks andrea,



That is some good advice,I don't have any parent near bye, ao it's just me, and my husband, and he works long hours, so it will be interesting, i hope ruby does'nt get scared of the new baby.



thanks again jen

Andrea - posted on 05/16/2009

hi my kids are older now but i had a 15 month gap then a 13 month gap i have 3 full on boys and i wont lie to you it was hard work for the first few years i'm not sure how i survived my husband worked away but now that they are older and more independent its awesome the are so much fun the trick is to be as organised as you can when you go out pre pack a bag for them with a couple of toys books snacks nappies wipe etc talk to them lots about what is going to happen before you go out even when the are baby's 1 because you wont forget yourself and 2 because its a good idea to get in the habit for when they get older eg we are going to the shops to get ..... and we wont be getting toys i expect you to walk with mummy all the time if you do this we will make some time to look at the toys if you are feeling that you need to get cross with them in the shops walk out often the shops will hold your shopping for you if you explain why and then you don't have to start again . involve your older one in the care of the younger one eg i used to say now big brother can you help mummy and get me a nappy from over there for your little brother . dont worry you will be fine get help and exccept help where you can you are not super woman so dont expect to to be do the best you can then call in the granny brigade they will love it listn to their advice take what you want forget the rest