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Molly - posted on 06/16/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hi there I am a new mom on my way to the down under and I would like to know what moms due for punishment I have 5 kids all under ten years old, I am a pro spanking mom but what due you moms here due is spanking frowned on. what is the norm please tell me molly

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Jessica - posted on 09/10/2010

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To tell you the trueth I believe in smacking. Australia is a no smacking country! I think that people are getting confused between smacking your children and belting them. It is completely different. If you leave marks and bruises then you are belting you child not smacking them.

My son is 19 months. When he does something wrong I don't immediately smack him. I ask him not to do it and warn him if he keeps going he will get a smack. I count to three and if he hasn't stoped then I give him a little smack. He some times throws a tantrum but most of the time stops what he is doing and says sorry mummy.

I think children today have a big hold over their parents. You can't do anything to them without being called a bad parent. I think that's half the problem with society. Kids have no respect for their elders anymore.

I saw a little boy with his grandparents in a supermarket a while ago and he was kicking his grandmother in the shins because she wouldn't buy him a chocolate. His grandfather eventually gave him a smack on the bum and yelled at him. The grandfather then froze and looked at my mother and I. We just said good on ya and kept walking.

The police here can't or wont do anything to children under 18 years. My sister was gang bashed at school by 5 other girls. She ended up with bruised kidneys, loose teeth, black eye and cuts and bruises all over her face and body. The school did nothing and the police said that there was nothing they could do because the girls were under 18.

Sooo what punishment do kids get these days??? By doing nothing it just lets kids think they can get away with what ever they want.

I know many people don't have these views. I just think if I don't do anything no one will.

Kelly - posted on 02/15/2014

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what are you people talking about, you can spank a child in australia! theres no law against it. i have it from a police officer that you can give an open hand smack on the bum and its fine!

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Shamarra - posted on 03/26/2014

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I rarely spank, it is completely ineffective now that my bigger kids are 8 & 5. For discipline they get sent to their room & they hate it. When they come down they are better behaved or they know they will spend longer in there next time.I'm not against spanking, I only do it if they swear or hit each other

Melina - posted on 03/08/2014

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Jesus christ. This is hard for me to read... im against all kinds of psysical harm. Spanking to me is the same as a slap in the face, which would be classified as abuse between two adults..

You all have a right to voice your opinion. I just feel blessed I never got spanked by my parents. I wasn't a trouble child either. .. Im from Sweden by the way, where any form of psysical discipline is against the law

Maria - posted on 02/24/2014

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Smacking really works with my 3year old son. He learns from it because ill explain to him afterwards why his actions upsets me and why he gets a smack. He really behaves in public places.i guess its just a matter of balance of discpline and love cause you dont want them to grow up rudely.

Natasha - posted on 09/20/2011

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I completely agree with Jessica. Being a childcare worker myself I see and struggle with these children everyday. We arn't even aloud to sit a child in time out anymore otherwise the carer, director and centre can all recieve fines of up to $50,000. It's ridiculous how are we meant to teach children right from wrong especially younger children if we cannot disipline them in any shape or form. Talking to a baby/Toddler under the age of 2 does not work, they do not listen.

Anyway I am rambling now back to the point I have a 2.5 yr old and expecting my second child next month. When my son was younger he would recieve a warning, if he refused to listen I would count to 3, if he still refused to listen he would recieve a smack on the hand, just hard enough for him to realise I was serious and he was in trouble. Now that he is a bit older we have the same process but smacking his hand no longer works so he gets a smack on the bottom. Smacking is a last resort in our household because if all else fails you can't just give in and let them get away with it. What is that teaching them??

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 04/06/2011

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In australia we have a no spanking policy and im glad.

Spanking only reinforces the childs belief that through a physical act (ie spanking) he or she will be listened to/is the "norm" and is ok.

Ashlee - posted on 10/05/2010

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I am definitely pro-spanking! It is Biblical and most effective if done in a loving, non-angry manner. However, in Australia (and probably a lot of other places) it is frowned upon and I try not discipline my 15mo when I'm in public as I don't want the wrong person to see it and take my baby away! So, I go to a private area or toilets or something close by. I think it's ridiculous that people can yell at their kids in public and no one blinks an eye, but they see them spank their child, you could have your kids taken away! I know in NZ it is illegal, and I'm sure Australia isn't far off.
Anyway, what I do normally is warn him once, and if he doesn't listen, I spank him on the hand, then we have cuddles and I tell him why it was wrong and if he doesn't listen then, then we repeat the process, but he is learning :)
However, to answer your question, I feel the majority of mums in this generation don't spank their children... unless they believe in Biblical parenting :)
Enjoy Oz - it's a fantastic country!!

Nikki - posted on 08/17/2010

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It's illegal to smack a child under 2 in Australia, morally wrong to smack anyone above the age of 2 as well, but that's just my opinion.

Kym - posted on 08/07/2010

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Hi... I have a son who is 2 and ahalf and he's been really naughty latley, I smack him only wen he does something really bad but normally it's the naughty corner..

Michelle - posted on 06/25/2010

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hi im a mum of 7 kids 25yrs down to 6yrs, i don,t spank my kids as i believe you are teaching them the wrong behaviour,if you do it then they think its ok for them to do it to someone else,i speak to my chidren ,i get down to there level(eye contact) and explain to them what they have done is not right, and if it is serious enough i give them time out according to there age,eg,if your child is 10 then you would give them 10 minutes,and so forth,or you take some thing away from them ,like tv or what they really like,and when you can see they are sorry for what they have done,return what ever it was you had taken from them, spanking is violence,you wouldn,t like to be hit so why would a child,and also there are some agencies here that are against spanking and take it very serious,well i hope this helps,enjoy australia ,hope you like it here,have a safe trip,,oh always remember to praise your kids when they do something good,........good luck

Mariana - posted on 06/24/2010

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my brother, sister and i all got spanked when we were young and honestly I cant even remember it when i was a kid apart from it happening when we were really naughty so we always tried to be good. My sons only 4 months old but when he gets alot older and he's really naughty he will get a smack on the bottom.

Marcelle - posted on 06/16/2010

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I tried never to hit my children. Apart from the occasional tap after repeated refusing to listen.

I reckon by spanking you are telling the child it is ok for someone bigger than you to inflict punishment on you. It is not ok by me that anyone feels they have any right to punish me especially physically, so why would I want my children to think it was ok?

Marcelle

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