Brittnii - posted on 11/04/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
I've been looking for a place that i can tell my story with out being judged or bullied...some people may not believe me but my story is true....here it goes...
I met my husband when i was 14 years old...he was 17...we met at the library...when i was 17 i lived with my dad and became pregnant with my daughter...i married my husband a week before she was born...i had her and everything was great! when i was 18 i got pregnant with my son...my husband and i didnt know what to do...but we were excited and scared at the same time...we had him the day before thanksgiving (his bday falls on thanksgiving this year) ...anyways we moved out and moved in with my grandmother who was diagnosed with Alzheimer Disease. while living with her we discovered that our daughter was different. we had her evaluated and she was diagnosed with autism at the age of 2 (she is 3 now). i became pregnant with another little boy and had him in july of this year. i filed for SSI for my daughter because we had no income and we are taking care of my grandma and 3 kids. someone in my family (not gonna say who) became my grandmas POA (power of attorney). we thought this person would be the best trusted person to do this for her. well turns out it wasnt as great as we thought it was going to be. adult protective services started investigating this person because so much money was being taken out of my grandmas bank and not being used on her. they also stole her life insurance money and completely ran her dry and got her bank account frozen. adult services got that person taken off of POA. adult services then started to pay my grandmas bills with her social security check. right now my grandma doesnt receive any money at all. we are living off of what i get for my daughter which is $655.60 a month. it is hard to find a job in this little town and hard to travel to look for one when the car we have is broken and un inspected. so we are stuck at the bottom trying to make it by. we do okay...anyways...i am 21 years old now lving in a one bedroom house with my husband and our 3 children. my daughter who is 3 and has severe autism disorder, my son who is 2 with no developmental problems and our 4 month old baby boy and my grandma who is in the medium spectrum of Alzheimer Disease. i do not want her in a home which is why we are here because none of my other family is willing to do so. im not looking for a pitty party or anything i just needed to tell someone my story...it is very hard living this way and not a lot of people understand how hard it is to be 21 married with 3 kids and taking care of an elderly old woman by ourselves. i love my autistic daughter and my 2 sons and i love my grandma...she has done everything for me growing up and i feel like i owe her by being here for her...its very hard and we struggle a lot but it is well worth it! ♥ i love my family more than anything and i dont care what people think of how we live...they have no clue how hard it is for us to do all of this...so thats my story believe it or not...its sad but true...thanks for reading :) if you have any advice or comments please leave them below...thank you!