Anonymous - posted on 07/13/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My 8 year old daughter can be the sweetest girl in the world but an hour later she can be a teary, emotional train wreck! She is like this at home, during her sports activities, and at school. Her teachers from PreK up through 2nd grade have told me that she is highly sensitive and gets upset over the smallest things. She's also like this at home. If I give my older daughter a simple compliment such as a how a dress looks good on her, my 8 year old starts to cry. We've explained to her that just because someone else gets a compliment once in a while doesn't mean that she is being jilted. She can break down over the simplest and silliest things. We have tried everything such as talking to her on her level about her behaviors - both good and bad. We have also told her straight out that her behavior will not be tolerated because she looks like a spoiled brat to outsiders. She has a very strong personality and is very bossy. Her 2nd grade teacher said she has strong leadership abilities but doesn't always go about it the right way. She is quick to learn and because she finishes her school work first, (she usually gets it all correct), she likes to help other students but she gets hurt because some of the students don't want her help.
Sometimes I think she has self esteem issues but this strikes me as crazy because we have always told our children that everyone has strengths and weaknesses and this is part of being human. We have told both of our kids what we find special in them and on the same note, we also try to get them to understand when they are at fault or need to work on their own weaknesses. She seems to understand but then goes back to her overly sensitive outlook on things. It's getting to the point where I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. Any advice would be greatly appreciated - we are thinking of getting her evaluated by a child behavioral psychologist but not sure what to look for.