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Any parents of an aspie who lost their spouse?

Carol - posted on 06/16/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My husband died unexpectantly a week ago and I'm really worried about both our boys, but especially our 11 year old with Asperger's. He's holding everything in and trying to be strong. I know he loves his dad very, very much and it has to hurt as much as it hurts the rest of our family. We'll be seeing a therapist as soon as I can make an appointment. I have a great friend who's got connections and she's already given me a couple of names. He keeps asking if I'm mad that he hasn't cried yet. I keep saying that he is just like his dad and anything he's feeling or doing is probably just what he would have done (his dad had Asperger's too).
Any tips?

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Anaquita - posted on 06/17/2012

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Carol, I'm sorry for your loss. Seeing a therapist can't hurt, but make sure he or she know your son has Aspergers ahead of time, so they know his grieving, may not seem quite "normal." I say let him grieve on his own terms, provided it's not destructive, and let him know you're there for him to talk to anytime he wants.

Sharlene - posted on 06/16/2012

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Firstly Im so sorry to hear about your lost. Have you sat with him and tried to let him open up and tell you how he feels, Maybe a social worker or someone else in the family, a member could talk to your son he might open up to them and feel more comforable with them. And use the connections that your friend knowns . I wish you and your family the very best,take care.

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