Shelly - posted on 10/04/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Ok so my husband and I just got married last August 2009. All together we have 5 boys!!!! I have 3 from a previous marriage and he has 2 from a previous marriage. My 3 are 9, 5, & 2. My 9yr old has Aspergers. His are 11 & 5.... His 5 year old has Autism..... We have 2 issues that we are struggling with....
1.... My 5 year old(Nicholas) treats our autistic 5 year old (Ethan) very mean at times. He is always picking on him or correcting him when he says the wrong thing or putting him down.. Like "well Ethan is like a baby because he sleeps in pull ups at night" or "he cant put on his own underware" Nicholas is sometimes very cruel.... Even making fun of him for not knowing how to eat properly...... I really don't know how to handle this... I am constantly correcting Nicholas for his behavior towards Ethan.. Ive explained to him that Ethan is different, but at his young age of 5 it is hard for him to grasp this concept!!!! I feel hopeless!!!
2..... My husband has been in denial about Ethan having Autism... Matter of fact when we first started dating I was the one who noticed Ethan was different. After we got married I was the one to take Ethan to the doctors for evaluation... My husband recently the last few months has gotten better about understanding Ethan is different and just wont grow out of this magically.. He has been coming to doctor appointments which has opened his eyes a bit... But the major problem is that at home we have a 9 yr old with Aspergers and a 5 yr old with Autism.. And while I seem to know and understand a lot about our childrens issues.. My husband at times has NO CLUE!!! At night after our 9 yr old medication has run out he often times does stuoud things, like the other day he painted his hands pink with ink from a pen and tried to wash his hands in the bathroom sink and left the sink stained pink inside.. My husband went upstairs and ended up smacking him for it... I got upset because I know at night time he needs constant direction.... My husband doesnt understand how children with Autism or Aspergers function!!!!!!
Sorry this post is so long!!! Im just looking for insight on how to get my husband more informed and how to deal with our 5 year olds!!! Thank you for any tips or advice!!!!!!!