changed mind about having a baby after miscarrage

Michelle - posted on 08/06/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )




Hi ladies, a few months ago me and my husband were trying hard to have are second child, I got pregnant and not 2months later had a miscarrage. At first I was for trying again right away, but since gone back on birth control and now wants to wait indefinatly. I feel like it was a sign that we are not ready for another one, we are in the process of finding out if are son has a disabilty and wating to spend as much time helping him however he needs it. So what I'm asking is, is it normal and have any of you felt like this.


Tanya - posted on 08/12/2012




I've never had a miscarriage but I would say that feeling like that is completely normal. We have 2 children, our son is our youngest and he was diagnosed at 2.5 years with autism. We had already started to think about having one last baby before he was diagnosed but put the idea out of our heads to concentrate of doing whatever we could to help him. It was a challenging time for all of us but with the help of early intervention, diet change and speech therapy he improved so much we decided we could handle another child. I am now 7 weeks away from giving birth and my son is now in school and doing wonderfully. I would totally recommend waiting and making your son your first priority and learning to deal with his needs, then, if /when you and your husband feel that you can take on parenthood again go for it. Hope this helped =)

Melissa - posted on 08/07/2012




It's ok to feel that way, miscarriages are hard and you need time, and with current situations with your first child waiting is ok. In the future you may decide to try again, or you may decide to stay with one wonderful child. You do what you feel is best for your family, not what someone else wants your family to be.

Katherine - posted on 08/06/2012




I'd say it's pretty normal. I had a miscarriage and didn't think I wanted anymore, but now I have 2 beautiful girls. It's awful to miscarry, I used to blame myself......if only I would have done this. But it wasn't and it took me a long time to realize that. I would wait to conceive again. Just a little bit longer. Maybe a year. Especially if you're in the process of finding out if your son has a disability.


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Michelle - posted on 08/12/2012




Yes Tanya that was very helpful, and it makes alot of since and helps to know your son is doing well enough for you both to have another child. Maybe in do time we will also, but for now it's all about are little man and what he needs. Thank you

Annette - posted on 08/06/2012




We have a child with autism and we were considering noT having anymore kids after him...but then fell pregnant...I admit there were weeks when we were saying we shouldn't have had more kids, but now wouldn't change the decision to have our third child, he is just wonderful.

Diane - posted on 08/06/2012




Everyone is different, you feel what you feel, not what others expect you to feel. There is no right or wrong.

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