daughter with aspergers

Cybil - posted on 01/22/2009

that sounds a lot like my daughter. our number one problem with her is focus. and if she is not looking you in the eye which she never is she just isnt hearing what you are saying. heck sometimes when she is looking you in the eye she isnt hearing what im saying. lol. because of this she doesnt here directions and in turn does not get her school work done or not done right. she also only has 1 friend. seems like when she finds a friends , she clings to that one friend. she also needs alone time a lot. it almost seemsl like she is depressed sometimes which makes me sad. i know she is frustrated. 

Karen - posted on 01/22/2009

Hi there, well where do I start. Jessica seemed like usual toddler/child then when she was about 5 she started haveing vacant episodes.

She would be talking to you and you would reply but have no answer, she would be smiling and nodding but not hearing you or understanding you.  These episodes started to slow when she was about 7, after many different ways of dealing with them, my husband and I  found that calmly incouraging her back to earth (as we called it), gradually got her to focus and make eye contact and with that she would say "did I go again mummy?"

She very rarely has them now, unless she is feeling really stressed and can't see a way out of the situation. ie at school if teachers are really pushing her to do something difficult that she can't understand, then she just shuts down.

She hates change of any sort, has days where she'll eat non stop but not very often, she talks in a very babish voice when shes shy, embarassed or scared.

Jessica has very low attention span and has to have a strict stratagy in place at school to keep her focus. U have to make sure she keeps eye contact, otherwise she doesnt hear you.

Has days where she'll just want to be left alone in her room, and we find the best thing to do for a couple of days is to leave her, then we will say right time to rejoin the family and she normally does.

Socially she has only 1 friend that she can rely on but she has problems too so they sort of match. But other than that she has no friends, they cant understand her, in as much as why shes so immature. Not interested in fashion or makeup or anything slightly growup.

She needs constant attention and thrives on it whens she gets it. Academically she is excellant at reading, writing, science, loves cookery or anything with her hands but not to good with maths.

At the moment shes having some bad problems at school with name calling and understanding why. shes takes everything literally so i have to be careful what i say and how i say it, but the kids dont caree.

But she does have her good days and when they are good shes fine. School unfortunately is the main problem. and needing social skills is the only reason she goes really.

Anyway hope some of this helps.

karen

Cybil - posted on 01/21/2009

i have a daughter who has a lot of trouble in school , its obvious she has problems but they are having trouble diagnosing her , the  are now thinking it might be aspergers. my other 2 daughters also show sign of it but different signs. anyway i was just wondering what kind of symptoms or problems your daughter has. might help me get a better understanding of this. my 8 year old 3rd grade daughter , her signs are primarily learning problems but she does not seem to have a "learning disability" even though she can not understand any of the work. its very frustrating. she also still sucks her thumb , carries a blanky, and is very loud sometimes, she has a very high pitched screech that comes out alot when she is annoyed by something. to most people though if they were just talking to her they would think she was a normal child, besides being mabye a little immature.

my 13 year old has other issues. she is very very socially challenged. dont get me wrong, she is very intelligent, always on honor roll. but she will not speak to people unless its someone she is very very comfortable around. and if she does have to speak or do something when she isnt comfortable with it she figits and rolls her eyes around funny. she also talks really fast were its hard to understand her. she hates being touched. and is very very argumentative all the time.

all the of my girls never kept there clothes on. always off except underwear and thats only cause i made them keep them on lol. i dont know if this is related or not or its just a kid thing. i didnt think aspergers was our problem , i still have my doubts , what do you think? could they be right? i just wish we could find an answer , because without a "name" for her problem , she cant get the extra help she so needs at school. any input here would be great!

thanks

Cybil - posted on 01/21/2009

i have a daughter who has a lot of trouble in school , its obvious she has problems but they are having trouble diagnosing her , the  are now thinking it might be aspergers. my other 2 daughters also show sign of it but different signs. anyway i was just wondering what kind of symptoms or problems your daughter has. might help me get a better understanding of this. my 8 year old 3rd grade daughter , her signs are primarily learning problems but she does not seem to have a "learning disability" even though she can not understand any of the work. its very frustrating. she also still sucks her thumb , carries a blanky, and is very loud sometimes, she has a very high pitched screech that comes out alot when she is annoyed by something. to most people though if they were just talking to her they would think she was a normal child, besides being mabye a little immature.

my 13 year old has other issues. she is very very socially challenged. dont get me wrong, she is very intelligent, always on honor roll. but she will not speak to people unless its someone she is very very comfortable around. and if she does have to speak or do something when she isnt comfortable with it she figits and rolls her eyes around funny. she also talks really fast were its hard to understand her. she hates being touched. and is very very argumentative all the time.

all the of my girls never kept there clothes on. always off except underwear and thats only cause i made them keep them on lol. i dont know if this is related or not or its just a kid thing. i didnt think aspergers was our problem , i still have my doubts , what do you think? could they be right? i just wish we could find an answer , because without a "name" for her problem , she cant get the extra help she so needs at school. any input here would be great!

thanks