Carol - posted on 04/25/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have a 12yr old son that up until about two months ago wasn't really violent. He has always had tantrums, but in the last few years that have been less and less until recently. I believe the big reason may be puberty and the change in hormones but I don't know what to do. He is almost 5'4" already; as tall as me so when he gets in a rage its real hard for me to control him. It has got so bad at school that they suspended him for 1 day at the beginning of the month and they suspended him again today for 3 days. The school is trying to change his IEP to homebound him for the rest of the year, but this would affect next school year to. I understand the suspension because of his behavior, but according to the guidelines "a child's placement can't be changed if the behavior is due to the disability". Am I wrong in thinking that the violent tantrums are a part of his disability, Aspergers thus his behavior is due to this? The school doesn't believe so. They are trying to tell me that he can control his behavior, but I don't agree. When he gets in a rage, he has tunnel vision and only sees what he is focused on. Has anyone else had a child like this? Just wondering because the school is also telling me that they have never saw a child with Aspergers act this way. Thanks for any help.