Family - posted on 04/14/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )
My recently diagnosed aspie son could not be controlled today. he started by irritating his 12 yr old sister by rapping on her bedroom door repeatedly while we we out buying a graduation suit for his older brother. He moved on to humming very loudly while his sister was trying to watch TV then started cursing and kicking and arguing with us when we intervened. It moved on all afternoon, he threw things at me, took a picture of his grandparents out of a frame and tore in in two. It went on for hours. He left for almost an hour to ride his bike which I had hoped he would return calm but instead he started throwing coaster etc. at my back. I was told that I shouldn't let him get me to engage when he is like this so I picked up my laptop, grabbed my purse and left the house in my car. I tried checking in with my husband about 20 minutes later and he was following our son around because he was set to destruct, walking around the house looking for things to break and damage. He disconnected all the wires to the TVs, ripped paint from his wall ( how does someone manage that exactly, I don,t know) emptied all his bureaus on the floor. my friends did not want me to drive back home alone so one drove me home in my van and her husband followed in their car. They came in and stayed for about an hour in the hope that the presence of other might make him stop . Pat disappeared into the shower for a good 30 minutes then rolled into his bed. The moment I closed the door behind our friends, Pat was back following me around and verbally abusing me. When I ignored him he grabbed my filing box ( I had been doing taxes earlier in the week) and threw them around the living room We now 4 or 5 hours into this behaviour and I was no longer able to cope. I started yelling at him and I grabbed him to stop him from destroying more of my papers. My husband got involved and Pat just went crazy trying to bite and hit and kick and head butt. i called 911, he police came and stayed and talked to us, to Pat to my other two etc. ( We are apparently in the system as an address with a child with issues so they were somewhat prepared for what they encountered.) an hour and a half later, they left. We were drained. How do people cope with this condition????