Have you ever felt like you might just crack?

Gaynor - posted on 11/03/2010

Hi, I just wanted to add to what Patty above said. My 16 year old daughter was diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD when she was 6. We live in Wales in the UK and the lady who diagnosed her was on of the leading experts over here. Before the diagnosis we were told Ritalin was the answer by every health worker we met, I had already heard bad things about Ritalin, but the lady who diagnosed my daughter told me that in my daughters case (because she was an Aspie) it wasnt something she would ever recommend. Ritalin and Aspergers dont seem to mix well, Ritalin seems to be fine for ADHD, but you add Aspergers and you could be looking at problems. Also, as I said, my daughter is now 16 and is showing no sign of outgrowing Aspergers or ADHD. I dont believe it can be outgrown either, but I know for a fact my daughter is coping with it better, especially since leaving school, which is where most of her problems arose. On a side note she was also diagnosed with cancer at 6, I was actually grateful that she had ADHD and Aspergers then, she coped with the chemo and radiotherapy much better than the other kids at the hospital, the nurses couldnt believe the energy and spirit she had. I still believe it was partly what kept her alive, there was no holding her back. When I'm feeling down I now think back on all the times she soaked toilet paper in shampoo and threw it up at the bathroom ceiling, it actually seems quite funny now, though I can assure you it wasn't even remotely funny back then. By the way I still have locks on most of the doors in the house, she still gets into mischief, its just that now she gets to clean up after herself. : )

Heidi - posted on 11/03/2010

Our home life is not nearly as stressful as many others on here...but we moved last August and we started a new school and changed my son's meds...that sounds like a lot but we had made those same changes before and the med change was from chlonodine to Adderall and his behavior all improved dramatically, his new teachers said he was not the kid they were expecting, so much better...this time his doctor advised switching from Adderall to Risperidone and Vyvanse...along with the move and the new school...the first couple of weeks at the new school were a challenge as to be expected...then things settled a bit...as to be expected...then his behavior got worse and they call me from school often, to let me know he is acting up, or to talk to him to get him to cooperate or to come get him because he won't settle down...I got there once to find them physically restraining him...we switched his med back immediatly but things have improved only slightly...we are working towards getting his special ed category changed from OHI to ASD and getting him the Aid he so desperately needs to succeed in school...So Yes, sometimes I feel like banging my head against the wall, think I should start smoking or sometimes wish I thought drinking would help...but of course, none of that makes any sense and I just love on him and put him to bed knowing the sun will come up again tomorrow...

Patty - posted on 10/27/2010

let me tell you, that is awesome, makes me want to leave NY! and I love NY..services here nothing like what you describe,,waiting lists, child can't have more than very limited resources to get respite/res hab services through our Medicaid system even waivers, waivers only waive the Parent's income, not the child's, so for example my mother in law is custodian of a UTMA for minor account for a large sum of money, it is in my son's SS number, guess what, I'm screwed because I can't even get Medicaid through the waiver prog!!!! She did this when he was only a year old, and we didn't know he had Asperger's yet, and it's IRREVOCABLE, so basically I have to talk her into getting a special needs trust for him, that will cost HER money,,how do I tell that to my mother in law???? Special ed is provided, but child has to show a definite delay, and yada yada,,parents always waiting, fighting for services down here in the states, after around age 3 SEIT's don't come to the house anymore, everything is done outside the house or in public schools..very sad, many of our Asperger kids fall in the cracks, I'm lucky my son is in an Asperger prog, just started 5 years ago, he's 13 now..but far and very few between..many of our teachers don't get aspergers and aren't trained well enough in ASD's in general. We parents have the knowledge, but when you lack resources, all that knowledge is meaningless. many parents end up homeschooling etc. or trying natural supplements/glutein/casein free or limited diets, but honestly it all has very mixed results, my son needs lithium, he has dx bipolar type 1, I do wish people on these boards dont' say it's drugs, it's not that I don't want my son drug free, but the lithium has saved his life literally and is a naturally occurring mineral..many supplements can be toxic just like a med if not used correctly, or overdosed..anything we do for our children is to the best we know how, based on their unique conditions that can accompany Aspergers..mood disorders MUST be treated by a qualified doctor and may require meds, or a child can hurt themselves or others, including younger siblings..it's hard to swallow, but that's the truth in many many cases, diabetics need insulin, high blood pressure requires meds, so does bipolar disorder..There is a HIGH rate of suicide in Asperger teens with comorbid bipolar, it's a dangerous illness that requires lifelong treatment, keeping it of course as conservative as possible to prevent relapse of deep depression, or acute mania. I also do a TON of reading, observing and have a facebook support page too. Living this life is the best education we moms can ever get though, day in and day out,,some good days, some not good, and it IS SO isolating, many of my friendships fell off to the wayside because of all the attention my son requires. Take care, let me know what your DAN doctor recommends. ttys

Laura - posted on 10/27/2010

Hi Patty, yes I meant respite, but I am in Canada. It is very different here. It took no time to get it. It is something set up for people with special needs kids. You sort of have to qualify by getting assessed and seeing if they are delayed in two major areas. Then you qualify for special education that is paid for you, which I have as well as home specialists that come out for you. I have a group called "Kid's First". These are women that are SLP's, OT's, psycologists etc. I have an aide that comes three times as week and implements all the stragegies of all the professionals.
I don't believe you have this type of help in the States. I guess you would have to look into it. I am thankful that we can access these resources. Sorry, not much help. L.
ps. I can have up to 180 hours per week and I have to pay them 12 dollars an hour. It has to be someone over 16 and not a relative.
As far as knowing my stuff. I have done a lot of reading, listen to Webinars, went to a Biomedical converence, have a monthly Autism group of mom's that I go to and the most important go to a DAN doctor who is also an M.D.
Knowlage is power and you have to fight for the health of your child.
L.

Patty - posted on 10/27/2010

do you mean respite services through Medicaid waiver prog? we have that in NY too..how many hours of respite do you get per week? I need help too, just to have an extra hand around..what state are you in? sounds like you know your stuff.

Laura - posted on 10/27/2010

Aww my dear I feel for you. I know other moms like you. My son is Autistic and he gets into everything and destroys stuff! After all day and night together I have had it let me tell you. I will say that I am in strong disagreement with conventional medicine. It is artifically made and made out of synthetic chemicals!! Many children have reactions to these killer meds. You need to find a good naturopath or Dan doctor. (defeat Autism now doc.). They will guide you on a biomedical journey that can make a big difference for you daughter. We have our son on many things and it makes a BIG difference.
One thing we first did was to take him off of dairy. Big difference. Then we took him off of gluten (wheat). That has helped us aswell.
I would start by limiting her dairy. Take out the cheese sticks, and cut down on the milk. See what if any reaction is. Start a food log. Write down what you do and how she was.
Try to stay away from sugar and artificial colors.
You should try to find some help to come into your home as well. I don't know where you live but we qualified for Recpeit, which is gov't funded child care reimbersment. We can pay someone to come in and then we get the money back from the gov't.
You might want to take her to her OT to see how you can do some calming exercises.
I could write forever on things you could try. Try to read up on all your Aspergers resources.
I wish you all the best and know that you are not alone we are out there going nuts with you! It is so isolating. I have had my absolute meltdowns. I try to breathe get out of the room and take a minute to say tomorrow will be better. Talking to someone can help just get your mind back. Take care Leslie.
L.

Jennifer - posted on 10/27/2010

I have been there in your shoes with my son. It is so difficult to find that help and guidance with these kids and get people to understand. All I have to say is keep up the good work and persevere, i can guarantee that our kids love us as much as we love them. Its hard to keep going through this over and over again i know and its so hard to find things that work with them. you are doing an awesome job . Keep perservering.

Leslie - posted on 10/23/2010

Excellent advice Kathy!! And may I add keep the communication going!! My husband and I noitced that our son, Zachary had trouble sleeping and eating some foods due his tonsils and adnoids which had to be removed. He had had numerous bouts of strep throat. That at least provided him releif. Also if ever the ADDH meds stop working for your child or don't work anymore please ask about changing them. We have done that and found that Straterra is working best for Zachary right now.

Tracy - posted on 10/21/2010

Hello,
My daughter is 9 years old. No meds just ABA therapy. She has violent fits in school sometimes, at home with us and her therapists. She loves the battle of getting caught twirling. We all do our best not to give her the attention she is looking and that usually stops the behavior. She is going through an extinction burst right now with the duration of her fits becoming less as well as intensity. Sometimes I just want to scream but don't. That is the reaction she is looking for. The functions of her behaviors can change within minutes so she keeps us on our toes. It's exhausting! but the payoff is worth it. I hope this helps some.

Kathy - posted on 10/21/2010

If she's on an IEP, insist that the school system provide you with a Behavior Therapist. If she's on an IEP, they are legally required to get you one. Also, talk to the doctor that prescribes the meds. I don't know what kind of doctor it is - but if the doctor doesn't specialize in this sort of thing, get a specialist/psychopharmacologist to work with you on the meds. My son is ten and has difficulty falling aslepp (it might be his ADHD meds or just the ADHD itself) whatever the case, his psychopharmacologist recommends 3 mg of melatonin to help with sleep onset. I would not recommend using it WITHOUT speaking to a doctor or a psychopharmacologist first, but it works. I feel your pain, I really do. Help yourself and the child, get professionals involved.

Leslie - posted on 10/21/2010

AnnMarie, I Like how you handled the powder situation with your son. How fun!!

Leslie - posted on 10/20/2010

Hi Leslie my name is Leslie Cawley, I like your name :-). Yes I sometimes feel as if I will crack too but I think about how that will affect my two sons and somehow, don't ask how, the strength to continue just comes. I grew up with a mentally retarded brother and maybe that's a partial reason, I don't know, Sense of humor can help and having friends you rely on to talk to is a blessing too!

AnnMarie - posted on 10/20/2010

Once my son made snow with the baby powder at first I was mad but when his face lit up I couldn't help but join in on the fun

Sandra - posted on 10/20/2010

My son is now eleven with asperger's. I never put him on any of the drugs but we did go gluten free. I didn't realize how much it helped until we were going for testing and had to let him eat the gluten for a while to test him. Boy the tantrums came back with a vengence. I called the gastro doctor and told him that I couldn't continue to handle my son and he said that he is definitely gluten intolerant. We are back to mostly gluten free. I noticed that one serving a day is all that he can handle.
Going gluten free takes patience and about six weeks totally off gluten to see the effects. I have not gotten bitten, crying happens but not the full out tantrums. Some also believe in casein (dairy) free but we got a great effect with just the gluten. Another positive, my son is on B honor roll and up to normal work load.

AnnMarie - posted on 10/20/2010

My son was the same way for years it was like he was stuck in the terrible twos for about 6 years all I did was treat him as if he were 2 and tell him no all the time and Noe he's 15 and yes he can go to the bathroom and not get into anything 9 out of 10 times. He's on a mild medication called guifencine and at night I give him 1 unisom and he actually sleeps for about 8 hrs.

Kelly - posted on 10/20/2010

I hope that the psychologist is able to help you guys - my son has a ton of allergies (which is an understatement), so I feel for you. Have you tried rispiridone (rispiridol)? It would hopefully help with the sleep issues - even with the ritalin in the a.m. There are other natural meds that could help with sleep, but I'm not sure they are 100% safe (seretonin helps regulate the sleep hormones, but I would be nervous giving it to her since she is having problems with crying). I have known it to help, though.

I wish I had more advice for you - hang in there.

Patty - posted on 10/20/2010

sounds like a mood disorder, like the crying constantly and then the manicky running around spraying things etc. severe ups and downs, BTW, singulair I've heard can cause Manic behaviors..for PDD children or ADHD,,it's probably the Ritalin causing the issue to be honest. It is amphetamine based. Sounds like more then simple Aspergers by itself, mood disorders like bipolar or adhd very common with AS My own son has that comorbity plus sensory issues..My thoughts/suggestion is child psychiatrist/neurologist re evaluation. assess if there is a mood disorder, lack of sleep will make MANIA so much worse..the sleep issue I think is priority to get this a bit under control...locks on doors are fine, but doesn't solve the underlying problem/imbalance that is happening. Lamictal/lithium work very well together to stabilize the mood swings, lamictal used for seizures. but of course check with a qualified doctor..ritalin can be a recipe for disaster with Aspergers', do more research, you'll find it reaks havoc with kids with sleeping/bipolar/manic /mood swings,issues same with SSRIS, prozac paxil, etc, NOT often a good mix with Asperger's if there is mania/bipolar happening, trust me on that one, my son got very hostile/violent on it after just 2 days..not a good med of choice to be honest..seek out help, and it's easy for people to say take time for yourself, it's nice when you actually have someone else that can manage the behaviors without you, usually mom knows best how to handle it, and don't really trust anyone else can manage such severe issues..I go through this each and every day, so I personally know what it is like...I wish you luck, don't give up, also, there is no growing out of Aspergers. it is for LIFE, just that kids can handle themselves better as they mature into their teens etc. Aspergers is Aspergers, it doesn't just go away...with all this in mind, good luck you have my deepest admiration and support! dont' hesitate to contact me..I've been down this road and understand..:)

Danie'l Marie - posted on 10/19/2010

I think that the most important thing you can do beside self care, is remembering it is not all up hill. My youngest has Asperger's who had violent out burst when we got her dx. It was a lot of work with counselors, the schools, and at home, she hardly ever has those violent outbursts like before, actually has friends and have found activities that she is very active in. I have been told that she is "growing" out of Asperger's.
I hold on to the really good days when the ugly rears up.

*hugs*

Jane - posted on 10/19/2010

my son is now turning 16 i have lived with his autism since he was 4. we didnt find out till he was 12 before that they said he just had behavioural problems.
he has been always been in a special school and there has been good and bad days the bad days with him banging his head throwing things and making holes in the walls and even hitting and being nasty to me. it is hard and sometimes i just wanted to run away and cry but then you have the other side of children with special needs and they are so affectionate that the bad things dont mean anything. my son is still having problems as he is going through puberty but i have help from the health system here in australia and we are working together to help not only my son but also me.
hope you will sort everything out soon and just try to hang in there.

Jessica - posted on 10/19/2010

I hear ya. I have 12 yo asd boys who also have seizures both have absence and the other developed grand mals earlier this year. They are not under control either. Oh and in December of last year my daughter was diagnosed as a type one diabetic. She is 10 going through puberty and when high blood sugars get involved her behavior is harder to deal with than my boys. When it all gets to much and I am overwhelmed I cry. My boys HATE it when I cry. I tell them why we all talk and hug. Then we move on and more often than not with in hours they are all back at it lol. I also work part time at the kids school in the autism program as a para pro sub. I see all end of the spectrum there. Then come home and deal with them all some more. It can be a lot to deal with in one day but I love it and I love my kids. I take those good/silly moments and store them up for when I need them. I hope you figure out what is going on soon. I dont have much advice but want you to know you are not alone in feeling like you need a time out.

Danie'l Marie - posted on 10/19/2010

It sounds like you need more support. Is there an Autism community near you?
Have you had her tested for sensory Integration Dysfunction? Having a sensory diet and them learning tools to calm themselves helps a great deal.
Is there a chance you can get away and talk to someone close to you?
Do you get any alone time to decompress?
Do you get a chance to exercise or to do something soothing for yourself?
Yes I can honestly say that I have lost my mind more then once and do things I would not typically do. Those are the times I know I have to reach out more to my support team to have them come to let me have a time out, to do what I need to do for my own self care, instead of trying to do it all on my own.

Julie - posted on 10/19/2010

whenever she has negative behavior you could ry a bear hug restraint....our son has severe autism (he's 9 as well) we use(d) that with him whenever he has a melt down that gets out of control basically you sit them on the floor lay their legs flat out in front...You place them between your legs and bear hug them while you cross your legs over theirs. You then quitely/calmly talk to them telling them that when they choose to calm down you'll let them up...that she nees to listen to mom if she think she can show you she's listening than you'll let her up; it worked really well for our son. Also 4 sleep...try melatonin which is over the counter (ask doc first) also ask doc about tenex or risperidol great at helping our son's sleep issues with that. Check into the DHS for mother's helpers or home health aides, my son has them almost every nite quite a God send. Also see about finding and afterschool program, maybe a church group where someone may be willing to spend time with her that understands or is willing to learn about autism/Asperger'scheck with DHS about a support group in your area! Even meeting other mom's with similar kids can be quite helpful...Maybe we can chat more on top of having a 9 yr. old son w/severe autism...our 11 yr. old daughter has NLD (non-verbal learning disorder..(basically the same thing as Asperger's). Some days I get that way with her it can be quite frustrating. I will pray for you if its okay, I'll put your name (1st only) on our church prayer line. I know its tough email me in FB at julie willis-duckett; let me know how you're doing. It can be tough, I often take stock in the idea that God hand-picked me to be Erik's mom...WHAT AN HONOR!!!!! On the days I get discouraged I try to remember that; that God had enough confidence in me to do this job and raise such a special kid such a terrific little spirit that w/o the love and Guidance by mom/dad would be largely ignored, wiltering and falling by the wayside alone......all due to a crazy disorder that no one truly understands; counting on the unconditional love of mom to remind others how wonderfully loved they are. Hang in there.......

Jennifer - posted on 10/19/2010

I have 4 children. An average 13 years old daughter, and 3 sons. My 8 year old has aspergers, mild spina bifida, a tethered spinal cord and asthma. My 5 year old is severely ADHD, and my 3 year old has (so far) undiagnosed developmental delays. I can't tell you how many times people have boldly questioned my decisions to have "more" disabled children. There are days when something happens with them and I just feel like I cannot take anymore. Fortunately I have been able to make it through all of those days. I just want you to know that you are not alone...

Karen - posted on 10/18/2010

I understand where you are at, I have been there several times, my daughter is now 15 years old, and i still have to monitor her showers or baths, if she is left alone she destroys almost everything in the bathroom. She peels all labels off of everything in our house, and shreds paper into little pieces. I have to clean her room and under her beds twice a week. No matter what I try, she still does it. Paige is on aderall, it works for her, she has been on it for five years, they have changed the dose several times as she grows. I could not have made it without this medicine. It calms her during the day, and by ten she is ready for bed. Talk to your doctor about it. I have no advice for the bathroom, I have another daughter who has remove all of her personal items from the bathroom everynight after she baths, so it will not get broken or poured out. As far as the tantrums, I got educated on those, there are books on a website for asperger's. It is: www.firsthorizons.com. I have read just about every book on how to deal with the tantrums. I can now calm my child just with my voice and my eyes. She will start and I stop it immediatly. I strongly recommend you go to the website and find what you need. Our children are never going to outgrow their disorder. I feel as her mother, I just have to be educated to deal with it. There are days that Paige has mentioned she wishes that she could be like everyone else and that she wishes she would die. It hurts me so bad, they know they are not normal. Acting out is their only way to show their frustrations. As hard as it is, there is help. I never quit learning and being amazed by mine.

Laura - posted on 10/15/2010

i have a 8yo boy with ASD his doing ok but i also have a 3yo with bad aggession and NOT dignosed and he is my problum i have started having really bad nightmares about him...... here in australia you can get some tablets (chill pills thats what they are called from the chemist) the doctor wouldnt do or give me anything so the chemist helped alot.... can you get respite care for a weekend once or twice a month

Nidia - posted on 10/15/2010

Leslie she is too funny!

Mine thinks very literal sometimes, she is a runner, so when we cross the street, I tell her, "Be careful, look both ways, because if you get hit by a car you will become a pancake." And she is like, "Really? Can I have syrup?" LOL.

Leslie - posted on 10/15/2010

Nidia,
Thank you so very much for sharing with me. I think sometimes it is so easy to isolate yourself when you have a child like this. That isolation makes everything worse also. I just thought wow, I am losing it and no one else can do as much with her as I can so then what's going to happen to her. Fortunatley shes very much about the "rule" when she thinks...lol I told her that their are certain things if you mix together can produce toxic fumes and could kill someone. I know this is dramatic considering she just put water in all the bottles of shampoo lotions and anything under the sink she could get open..lol I knew though that she would never do it again if she thought it was dangerous. Now she tells everyone she sees about mixing things...lol In her logic she said "mom, I was filling them so you didn't have to buy more!!!"...LOL ahh I love her. I wish it worked that way!

Tina - posted on 10/14/2010

Hi Leslie,
I can so sympathize! The first part of the summer I was feeling so nuts with my 11 yr. old (autistic) that I was considering committing her somewhere. We finally got some help with a pediatric psychiatrist. She put her on Risperdal 2x a day. It has calmed her way down and stopped a lot of the self harm stuff. We are also getting help from "Touch Pointe". It is a organization that does training as well as intervention for behavior issues. I don't know where you are, if they are available in your area but you might check it out: www.touchpointautism.org

Judi - posted on 10/14/2010

the shaving cream etc sounds like sensory seeking - could you set up a kiddy pool in the backyard and let her go crazy with a budget brand bottle of shaving cream? or there's a product called GelliBaff (it's gross I've been in it) it doesn't stain and it's like Jelly/jello only lots of it and it's sensory and when your in it, it slightly pressuring and cacooning so having a "gelliBaff" time in the day might help.

But also - you're right you need some time out for YOU beg 30 minutes and if you can check out respite options in your area for ongoing "ME time". and remember "me time" is NOT a dirty word it's keeping the family working.

Nidia - posted on 10/14/2010

Many many times have I had my own emotional meltdowns. Many times have I laid in the fetal position in the tub with hot water coming down on me. Many times I have just cried and questioned why me. My daughter had behavioral meltdowns and self inflicted behaviors. I could not leave the house for fear of a public outburst or comments from people.

She has definitely calmed down; still has her moments. Like you, when she is quiet and in a different room... Im scared. When they are quiet and alone thats when they do the most damage. LOL. One time, she grabbed all the cotton balls and lotion and stuck them all over the walls in her room, "mommy snow!" I laughed. They really are creative little boogers.

It will get better. We just have to be strong, and keep our sanity up. I have put my very high spirited daughter into sports hoping it will tire her out - its working so far.

Good luck momma!

Brooke - posted on 10/14/2010

Not sure about the crying, we are currently working on the same sort of thing with my son. However, for the energy, may I suggest something which worked for a friend of mine? Get her to go for a LONG ride on her bike every day, in a couple of years, you could turn this into a paper route, this will hopefully tire her out a bit. As for you, you need to remember to take time out for yourself. My mother found that learning meditation was very helpful, especially once she started teaching her kids the relaxation techniques. Don't know if this helps at all.

Leslie - posted on 10/14/2010

Samantha, thank for just responding! She is nine. I know their is something going on that is signifigant that we are missing. At the begining of summer she was on a ton of meds. We have pulled her down to her seizure med keppra and singulair for asthmaa nd then ritalin . We have decided that we have to get rid of the keppra to see if this is part of the problem. We have done enough research and sopke with enough doctors to know without a doubt that this is one medicine that can really cause aggression and angerin some kidos. I feel I have to take her off of it and give her the opportunity to see. She is crying and begging me to help her. She told me today " Mom, I just cry and cry, I don't know why and I can't stop. I know I am okay but I cry...nothing is wrong. Why does my brain do this?" It broke my heart. She hates it. She told me "I wish God would not have even made me!" That is horrific to hear from a nine year old child! I told her that we are going to find something that is going to make her feel better and allow her to sleep. She is very negative. It is so bad. I don't do it justice in explanation. I had read an article on kids with asperger's and how they had such a high rate of suicide. I told my husband if she feels like this at 9 and then has to live it until shes 13 could you blame a child? I know that I have to find answers. I appreciate ANY experience or suggestions. I wish I could find something that would intrest her and get her thinking about something else when she is crying. Today after 45 minutes of crying I said "come on" I took her hand put her in the car turned on music and just started talking to her about anything..road construction, what do we need to bbuy to make fudge, ect It is so sad to see her so miserable. She just went to sleep at 3;15 am. We see the psych today. Please pray we get some kind of help!

Debbie - posted on 10/13/2010

We have put a hanging lock on all the doors for bedrooms, bathroom and anything else that we do not want my son in. It helps some but he does the same as your daughter. It does make for a VERY interesting day. I can completely relate to what your saying. This morning he said he had to go to the bathroom so I unlocked the door. My other son had fallen so I went to check on him and I came back to their being half a bottle of shampoo on the counter and bathroom floor. He throws things at everyone, takes water bottles and decides that he wants to get his brother soaked and just does it while I walk out to get something for one of them that they have asked for. It's a daily battle with him. We have found that he HATES to go in the naughty spot which is located at the end of the couch. That is where he goes when he is doing those things. Now I do have to keep putting him back in the naughty spot but he does stay after a little while. It takes a while to figure out what will get them to understand that if they do this then they go to the naughty spot. However, they do get it after a while. Wishing you the best of luck.

Samantha - posted on 10/13/2010

When my youngest son would head bang anything our team of profesionals suggested that we try to figure out the triggers to cause him to do this, then to introduce something that could be done instead of head banging. He has stopped head banging, but sometimes I think that tendency just went from him to me somedays. I feel like I want to crack and just head bang the wall. Try to take a minute for yourself to calm down, then try to get your little girl to do something that she likes to do. My little guy has so much energy we just have to let him run around to burn it off, then he is ok. I hope that you find something soon to help out your little girl.